to wish tall people would all F off sometimes

[LaMaG]

OK, I know I am BU. I am 5'3", so not tiny. I went to a gig last night to a group that I was a huge fan of as a teenager and as soon as I arrived I realised there was no televised screen therefore I would not see anything. I should have seen it coming, it was a summer festival tent, not a venue as such with facilities. I moved around a bit eventually catching glimpses of the band every now again only to be immediately blocked again by a big person standing in front.

This weekend I also had my DD's gymnastics display which was a local thing with fold up chairs in a gym. A child sat in front of me and only then did I realise the huge relief I felt as I had been anxious a big man would sit in front and that was it ruined for me. Yes I could have craned my neck and been uncomfortable but DD would not have seen me and she was really nervous and needed to keep looking to me for reassurance.

It just got me thinking of all the times in my life I have paid to see something but just spent my time looking at the back of big stupid necks and shoulders, of feeling like my face was shoved into an arm pit. I have lost interest in live music and certain other things for this very reason but we are supposed to just put up with it, tough luck its your fault for being smaller.

Would it really be unreasonable for allowances to be made. I get there are many working problems with segregation by size but it seems to me that its not completely unworkable. For example there could be a priority viewing area in the front of gigs for people under 5'5", if they chose to move there. Or in a more casual setting, would be it unreasonable to ask - God forbid - that a taller person sits on the back row. I find it hard to believe tall people are all so selfish, I'm sure many would comply but this needs to be organised and normalised. It would be no more unfair than a person paying for a ticket not to see what they paid for.

Your proposed solutions are incorrect. You tinies should be legally entitled to sit on our shoulders at crowded events.

This does, of course, mean we won't be able to see anything. But we can try to barge each other out of the way, using our shoulder-sitters as battering rams.

In return, you are required to curl up very small on all forms of public transport and to look underneath furniture, shop fittings and the like for items we have dropped.

Massive disadvantage to being a tallish woman - no man has ever treated me like a fragile creature child in need of special consideration!

I maintain it's easier for a tiny woman to be assertive than for a tall one to be "cute". Height can be good for the feminism, not so great for getting served at a crowded bar.

Your post has reminded me of a song called: Tall Man by a comedy trio of musicians called: Tripod.

Some of the lyrics:

He’s just a tall man
With small aspirations
All he wants to do
Is see the band
Don’t give him grief
It’s my firm belief
He can stand
Where he wants to stand

He got here
When the doors opened
Found a good spot
Way before you
He doesn’t hate ya
He’s just a freak of nature
He’s God’s joke
What else can he do?

There is some truth to the saying: The early bird gets the worm.

The onus is on you to get there early enough to get a good spot (which is exactly what any person in front of you has done, tall or short).

Or if you don’t want to get there early you could buy those steps that can fold down flat and has a handle for ease of carrying.

But honestly, venues have the attitude of first in gets to be in front, unless it’s seating that you book where you want to sit. In which case, you get what you pay for from what is still available. So those who book earlier will get the best seats.

That just wouldn't work, women like tall men and men like shorter women so it would be too hard to cater for most couples.

You think we should F off sometimes?

Wow, OP, just wow.

How about a booster seat

Similarly, shorter people can choose seats in the front. If you don't want to risk someone tall sitting in front of you, then ensure that there is no one sitting in front of you.

5'2 here. Love live music. Generally go to small venues. I get to the gig early so I can get to the front. Gotta love a Mosh Pit 🤘

I used to have some ‘gig shoes’, pretty large platforms, but fairly flat. I am already 5’7” but the shoes brought me to a reasonable height for seeing anything at a gig. It would be good if people organised themselves by height, but it’s humans and that’s never going to happen.

I’m 4' 10" so my view of life is limited.

I don’t expect to banish tall people to the back but I would like to make them hold their heads in the same position for the entire concert/show so that I can tilt to the side and see past them. Unfortunately that’s seems even less likely than shifting them all into one area. 😆

@LaMaG

hieght is genetically controlled ( unless a child has malnutrition so can’t grow) so it it the same as race and colour.

hence this is highly offensive

I'm 5'4", my husband 6'4". Going to concerts together is kind of rubbish. Either we stand towards the back and I don't see anything, or we stand towards the front and he's on the receiving end of angry glances from all the other shorties around us...

So tall people have to sit by themselves at events while their shorter friends and family members are in the special 'short people' seats at the front?

No, I don't think it will work. Advantages and disadvantages to all heights I think. Short people enjoy copious leg room while tall people enjoy the good view.

Next time a tall person blocks your view at a concert, ask them if you can sit on their shoulders. If it's seated, maybe you could sit on their lap for a better view 🤷🏼‍♀️

So very glad I'm tall.

Small people seem so, well, bitter.

Wrong. It was OP

This.^

In the days I used to go to supermarkets I was always on the lookout for tall people to get things for me.

I always offered to get things from the bottom shelf in return.

Just buy some platform converse or something- it'll add an inch.

At gigs most people will let you move into any space in front of them if you ask nicely.

I am not quite 4 11 and whilst it can be irksome, they can't help being tall any more than I can't help being small.

Poor icicle Op. must be tedious for you to be so rude.

Same- now I know where the short man syndrome comes from 😁

I hear you OP! I think it would be very interesting to spend a day in the shoes of a tall person - imagining having that different perspective for a day! (I'm 5'1").

There should be a word for when people think others should be segregated because of a
characteristic that other people judge...

Remember the old meme @LaMaG "replace the word "tall" with the word disabled/black/Muslim/fat/woman/Irish/redhead and then ask yourself do I sound like a fucking fascist"

I'm sure there'll be squawks about "forgot to put light-hearted" but there's nothing light-hearted about being abusive and offensive.