Next door telling us off for being loud?

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Weekeend away we're sat outside chatting over a meal with friends (7 women all over 45). Man next door appears at balcony and aggressively shouts 'keep the noise down, we live here - it's not all holiday homes'.... it was 7.20pm...! Is it unreasonable to sit outdoors and talk over a meal? I could understand if it was 10.20pm...

It’s probably not you. He’s probably sick of the place being a holiday let and the disruption it causes.

Unless he is trying to get a baby to sleep then YANBU.

Whereabouts is it? Sounds like they've had some inconsiderate holidaymakers in the past?

Not an unreasonable time to be sat outside chatting imo - although I bet he's probably sick of the holiday let and a new group of people every weekend having their jollies and has taken his frustrations out on you.

A group of 7 people on a holiday weekend away having a jovial outside catch up every weekend probably creates way more noise than they'd expect from a regularly occupied home.

Unless you're being horribly screechy or sweary or something obnoxious then it's still early!

Yanbu - 7 women probably all chatting at once and louder than you actually think. Just had this at a restaurant recently and it was highly irritating. Poor guy, imagine them being stuck next to a holiday home.

There’s reasons holiday resorts exist

Maybe consider this next time you book.

There is nothing wrong with sitting outside chatting with friends in the early evening fgs. A permanent neighbour could also do this. All my neighbours are out this evening making varying levels of noise. It's summer! I'd just ignore the grump next door.

7 women make a lot of noise. He probably has to live with that every weekend, that's why he's annoyed.

YANBU but I'd imagine he's absolutely sick of living next door to a holiday let. We've got an air bnb in the village and it's very often filled with people partying, thudding music until the early hours, screaming and shouting, banging around outside at all hours. It's a big house so often multiple cars turn up and park badly. I feel so sorry for the next door neighbours. Obviously this isn't your fault in any way at all, but he's probably at his wits end. You are entitled to sit outside chatting and enjoying the weather.

Impossible to say.
If there’s alcohol and a lot of laughter you are probably louder than you think.

You're probably louder than you think - but it's an issue he needs to take up with the owner.

The person you need to complain to is the person that has let the holiday home.

If I had a home next to a holiday let I'd absolutely hate it. You have no control over the tenants and if 7 people rocked up, which is far larger than an average family, and probably stuffing the place to the rafters I sympathise with the neighbours.

Surely you can see his point.

Well he's told you exactly why you're in the firing line. This is a first for you, but the umpteenth time for him. He's bloody sick of living next to a holiday let!

Be honest, would your neighbours be ok if you had 7 friends over every single weekend and were chatting and drinking in the garden every single weekend?

Try and be a little considerate to your temporary neighbour.

Well.. all depends. If they have young children they are trying to get to bed - then yes I can understand he's getting annoyed as 7 women all speaking will be louder than you think.

He is probably also trying to enjoy his evening.
l don't remember growing up ever eating/ drinking or socializing in our gardens and none of our neighbours did either. We either went out or entertained indoors, so our gardens were always quiet and peaceful. It's so different now and really annoying for others, esp when alcohol involved.

People on holiday always make far more noise than people who are living their ordinary lives and having to go to bed early to get up for work. Plus they seem to be oblivious to their surroundings.
My street is very quiet and people turn up at the holiday let next door, fling open the patio doors and start drinking wine and playing loud music in the afternoon when I am trying to work.
I don't think Airbnbs and the like should be allowed in residential areas.
I have been this man on several occasions when the guests get in from the pub on a bloody Wednesday night and then shriek in the garden.

I definitely think you are louder than you think. There was a holiday home next door to me (thank fuck, it has now been sold to a young couple from the village who are actually going to live there). So much bloody noise from that place - and nothing that was really bad if it had been an isolated incident - but it was constant. People sitting outside in groups of up to 8, chatting and laughing over meals, probably thinking they weren't making a nuisance of themselves as most of them went in by 10 or 11 at night. But then there would be other groups turning up who would also start out having a meal and being a bit noisy but end up being raucous and playing music and so on. We never knew when the noise started early evening whether those were going to be guests who shut up at an appropriate time or who would get worse and worse as the evening/night continued.
Whereas other neighbours might occasionally have a barbecue at the weekend or have friends over and eat in the garden, usually at weekends, the bloody holiday home people were out every night making noise because they were on holiday and wanted to enjoy themselves!
So I can understand the bloke getting pissed off and can see why he might complain at 7.30 - because he's probably had plenty of bad experiences of guests starting off like you did but getting worse and continuing until late.

7 women are loud, especially if there is wine flowing. He's probably accumulatively sick to death.

Maybe go inside?

I do t think there's any reason not to enjoy outdoor space, particularly in such amazing weather.

The issue here is not the olden days of sitting indoors, but the new days of air bnb and transient neighbours.

It's Friday evening, you've had a tough week and seek the solace of your home.

Then another group of chatty holidaymakers rock up.

Doubt he would have shouted if it was 7 men! Nothing wrong sitting outside at 7.30pm,enjoying yourselves.

With some servings of Loud Mouth Soup, I'm sure you and your friends were much louder than you realise.

7 women.
Food (alcohol perhaps), you are LOUD, very LOUD.

Just sit indoors and drink and chat! If there-is alcohol involved you are probably a bit loud !

I'm puzzled that you're posting about it on mumsnet, less than 20 minutes after it happened while enjoying a weekend away?! (Unless it was last weekend I guess)

Anyway, I think it depends on the type of place it is. We've got a holiday park near us but people do live in the lodges as well. But, I think if you choose to buy somewhere like that, you take a chance.

If its just a normal housing area then it must be annoying and I can't say I wouldn't snap as well, but he could have asked you more politely, given the time of evening it was. 7.20 is not unreasonable.

We used to live next door to an Air bnb. Bloody annoying. We found enough ways to piss the guests off if they were annoying. in the end they did a long let it was so much nicer.