Next door telling us off for being loud?

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Weekeend away we're sat outside chatting over a meal with friends (7 women all over 45). Man next door appears at balcony and aggressively shouts 'keep the noise down, we live here - it's not all holiday homes'.... it was 7.20pm...! Is it unreasonable to sit outdoors and talk over a meal? I could understand if it was 10.20pm...

Good on him, why should he suffer in silence? You were louder than you think, and being only there for a few days at the most, won't care about the neighbours.

He's right to try to get you to keep the noise down

It’s obviously loud enough to annoy him, so that’s all you need to know. Keep the noise down & show consideration for the poor man & his family.

More than likely you don’t realise how loud you are being especially if you have all had a drink. If you are close to other properties then you should be considerate regardless of the time.

Seven women ( possibly alcohol) that can get horrendously loud.

Everyone talking over each other- I do empathise with him.
He is probably tormented by cackling and guffawing all through the summer season.

Exactly this. I know how he feels, we have had a new house built behind ours in what was a large garden. For the past few weeks nearly every weekend afternoon evening our new neighbours have had visitors over and been sat on their raised patio (which overlooks our garden illegally but thats another story), talking very loudly and driving us potty. Feels like we are in a very noisy goldfish bowl when we go in our garden or open our windows.

No, I'm saying when you have a holiday let next door you endure far more noise than you would if it was ordinary neighbours. Unless you have horrendous neighbours obviously.

Wow - lots of women stfu on here… you’ve upset one man and you’re ‘irritating’. Shame on you! Know your place! 🙄

Until i had the neighbours who are now making my life a misery I did not really understand what it is like to not be able to relax in your own home so I have some sympathy for this man if he is having to put up with noise on a regular basis. It is hot and we have light evenings so of course people will be making the most of it and will be outdoors relaxing and socialising, It is about being tolerant of each other and I can imagine 7 women would make quite a racket. But if that happens every single evening it would be hellish. My neighbours start yelling at 11am and carry on til gone midnight, they have the back door open and all the windows, I can hear them clearly even with my door and windows shut, If I opened them it would be unbearable . I been horrible today and I have been in tears, it is so hot and I want to open the windows but the noise would be worse than the heat

I have horrendous neighbours , the noise goes on for at least 12 hours a day every day.

Cornwall?

Mixed responses on here. It was the shock of being shouted at that early on a lovely summers evening that we were surprised about. I only mentioned our age as in my experience younger women would probably be louder or been drinking alcohol.

He will have no idea what time you are going to pack the noise in.

Hope your neighbour never turns their home into an airBNB or holiday let. Go somewhere appropriate next time.

I feel for you, that must be awful.
I much prefer winter when people are forced to stay inside!

Op if you had a neighbour out.all weekend playing music till 11pm and screeching then mn would tell you you were unreasonable to complain!

Yanbu at all imo

Good point. This too.

The problem is that all of you are going to be louder than you normally would because you are on an exciting weekend away. and for your its just one weekend. but for him its going to be every bloody weekend. new people lots of noise, shouting and drinking up until all hours. he has probably had enough. its one of the biggest issues around furnished holiday lets, the effect that they have on other residents.

Anyone who thinks that 7 women with booze aren't loud must be a nun!

Very loud.

Poor bloke. His life has probably been blighted by holiday lets.

It's a terraced housed being let out

No space at all between gardens or houses

It's bloody annoying hearing a bunch of yappy people weekend after weekend on a weekend break, and mid week, having a good old time talking loudly non stop, annoying laughter and then on into the early hours sitting outside so the noise travels far and wide

Your post OP just proves how oblivious you are to the neighbours around you that you're shocked that you're shouted at

Just fuck off to the pub so you don't piss off all the neighbours or keep the bloody doors shut

No one want to hear your boring loud conversations weekend after weekend

Literally couldn't care less that you paid for the privilege of your Air B&B it doesn't entitle anyone to make the lives of everyone around you a total bloody nightmare

He had no right to tell you off but you were probably quite loud. We used to live in a flat where all the backs of the houses faced each other, so you'd hear noise from all directions. The sound gets carried quite far, even from just evening meal chatter. It was irritating when getting a baby to sleep, and to be honest even when I just wanted to sit on my own. But then I chose to live in that sort of area (party central bit of London) and could afford a detached house in zone 6 if I wanted some peace and quiet, but I chose to live somewhere buzzy so could hardly complain if that's what I got!

what a weird comment. You have no idea where OP was to say whether it was 'appropriate' or not. What's the definition for appropriate/non appropriate places to visit anyway???

I'd prefer people chatting at 7pm to lots of other annoying neighbour noise like babies crying in the middle of the night, having parties, arguing and screaming late at night, mowing the lawn at 8am on a sunday, etc. etc!

@AutumnCrow you can't shout at someone for something they haven't done yet! If they were still making noise late at night THEN that's the time to go and ask (politely!) to wrap it up, not shout at them for doing something completely reasonable at a completely reasonable time.

Poor bastard.

Even if the OP and her friends were being louder than what they thought, it was 19.20. It is a totally acceptable time to sit out, eat, drink, have a bit of music on and socialise.

I know this is a holiday let, and I'm sure the neighbour gets some nightmare temporary neighbours, but this isn't one of those situations.

If I had friends at mine every weekend during the summer, and my neighbour came out and told me to be quiet at 19.20, they'd be getting told where to go. They wouldn't though, because they aren't unreasonable.

'Loud Mouth Soup': that's cringey. But yes, a group of seven women drinking and laughing, that could be loud. And some women cackle, it's a thing, a specific form of laughter that is unbearable to listen to.