Next door telling us off for being loud?

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Weekeend away we're sat outside chatting over a meal with friends (7 women all over 45). Man next door appears at balcony and aggressively shouts 'keep the noise down, we live here - it's not all holiday homes'.... it was 7.20pm...! Is it unreasonable to sit outdoors and talk over a meal? I could understand if it was 10.20pm...

If he lives next door to a holiday let maybe this happens most evenings through the summer and he has developed a very low tolerance for it.

You’re probably louder than you think.

The property sleeps 8. It's a 4 storey town house type terrace of several houses. He is older than us and was in his living room, not enjoying his terrace and the panoramic views. We'd had half a glass of wine each and a full meal. None of us use bad language. I can understand he may have to put up with a variety of holiday makers but I just think he was unreasonably shouty for 7.20pm.

You were noisy, that many people talking will make noise. Why should he have to listen to you, whatever the time is, and not be able to have peace and quiet in his own home?

it annoys me when I can’t hear the television because of a load of chattering idiots who don’t think of others

And? Not the OPs problem.

I’d just Ignore him. Nosey old git

That’s his problem, not theirs.

I think 7 women over 45 all talking together could be very irritating. I would avoid sitting near them in a restaurant by choice.

This. Definitely not unreasonable, ut he's probably over it and snapped.
And I bet you were loud, I can just imagine hoe loud 7 women would be!

I really feel for him, it must be awful to live that close to a holiday home.

Knowing me and my friends, we probably would be reasonably loud - just chatting and laughing, nothing offensive, but yes, we wouldn’t exactly be silent.

I mean, it is what it is. 7 friends together enjoying life at a reasonable hour. As long as you’re not shouting, shrieking and swearing, you’re not doing anything wrong.

The sound of people enjoying themselves on a summer evening is pleasant to me - as long as the provisos above (not shouting, shrieking and swearing) apply.

MN probably isn’t the best place to garner opinions on this though, OP - the home of the terminally anti-social think any sort of merriment and fun should be outlawed, and everyone should sit miserably and silently inside, disapproving looks-a-go-go.

You must have been hella loud

My neighbours are right now sitting outside enjoying a dinner. I can hear them as my doors are wide open. But it's a terrace - what does one expect?
What I don't like is that they played quite loud music (they've just stopped now at almost 10pm). Chatting and laughing is nice, loud intrusive music not so much.
I think you are totally entitled to have a nice chatty dinner outside. Then go inside at 9.30-10pm. As pp have said - the guy needs to take it up with the owner, who can put restrictions in their rental agreement if warranted.

He's a dick. Holiday let's are allowed as our women to chat. I don't imagine he'd have said the same to a group of blokes!

I wonder if he would have done the same if it were 7 men sat there drinking?..🤔

Probably not, but he would still be thinking it/enduring it.

Poor guy.

Sounds like some feedback needed when you leave - it's the owners issue not yours but it would affect bookings if it was known!

I’m sorry OP I get why you’re peeved as it’s your holiday and it was early still but if I lived next door to a holiday let I’d go insane and I definitely couldn’t handle having to listen to 7 women (however lovely you all are)

I feel for people who end up living next door to Air bnb properties and the like, it's totally out of their control and can make their lives a misery.

At a hen do last year we all rented a house for the weekend. We obviously annoyed the neighbours, as they let their dog out at 7am the Sunday morning, barking like mad and then they decided it was a good time to loudly start banging and doing building work. 18 hens being woken at 7am with bad heads was their revenge!

Fair point

People on holiday always make far more noise than people who are living their ordinary lives and having to go to bed early to get up for work.

It's Friday night. Are you suggesting that people don't sit outside with friends over drinks in the area where they live? In their gardens etc? Living your ordinarily life doesn't mean you have to have a chamomile tea in your living room and quietly go to bed early on a Friday night.

You were likely louder than you think.

Also, why note your ages? Do women aged 45+ speak at a different volume to those aged 35? 😂

7.20 pm - too early to complain.

I don't think it's your fault as you've booked this as a holiday in good faith, but there's a lot of holiday lets on air b&b and booking.com that aren't really suitable as holiday accommodation. I can see why the guy is pissed off - but equally, I can see why you are too. When I'm on holiday with friends, it's nice to have a few drinks, stay up late, chat, put the world to rights, talk absolute shit if we want to, but it's not the same if you've got to whisper or stay indoors.

But then, I wouldn't want to live next door to a holiday let either. You're not being unreasonable but then neither is he. Probably the landlord isn't being unreasonable either - lot's of us are skint with cost of living and we do what we do to stay afloat 🤷‍♀️

Yes but you wouldn't do it every evening if you weren't on holiday, and you'd also be more considerate to people you knew you would still likely be living next door to in five years time.

It’s probably the fact that they have nose every day if the week with a rental, whereas if it was a year round home you might only be out once a week, and only a group gathering a few times in the summer, 7 adults wouldn’t love together and sit out every night usually.