To think the parents of children who are in childcare would like to see them more often?

[tori32]

I CM and have several sets of parents who finish work early on many occasions who never collect their child early. I know I am paid and it does not bother me in the slightest to look after them for their agreed hours, I just feel sorry for the child because they are missing out on this extra time with parents who work full time.

I was a working mum for 3 months (as in not CM) but always collected dd early when I finished early because I wanted to spend time with her. AIBU?

really???? how many families in the Uk does thsi describe?

"Her father is a world famous motocross bloke, her grandparents own various national companies - needless to say, they have money! Child A comes to nursery 5 days a week, 8-5pm. Mum doesn't work, she spends her days shopping and relaxing. "

you dont have to give their name to breach your duty of confidentiality. you only need to give enough information to enable them to be identified.

shaqpe - in the real world of business it makes a lot of difference whether you have low or high numbers! Unless you own the gig, then at some point your head is in the noose if numbers are consistently low!

I went to Sainsburys this evening, btw - between 9 and 10pm. I worked from 8-6 today, came home, put boys to bed (bathed them, bfed my 2yo, read stories to them both, have got tomorrow off - though am on call so should really be in bed).

But the supermarket was my "me" time. DH cooked soup (for our dinner) and curry (for the freezer) while I was out.

I'm taking the boys to the hairdresser tomorrow - we're all having our hair cut.

Kerry - the OP is talking about people finishing early and not rushing back to get their kids. Not letting them "wither" while they get nails done. I relish the opertunity to tidy up my son's room for an hour, which I can't do with DD in tow. Or shop for food (the ONLY thing I have money for)

You are reading things into the OP that I couldn't see spelled out?

Do you home ed, KM? Aren't your children school age? Do you really have no time without them?

Kristina, my father is a network support manager, my mother is a care manager, my partner is an engineer, i have an uncle who stars in a popular sunday evening show.. can you identify me?
pathetic

Really KM - I thought your children were in school all day????

soapbox- I am not a judgemental arse. The point I am making to scottishmummy if you read her previous post is that she said I couldn't do her job but she could easily do mine. I said I doubted it on both jobs I have done. CM and scrub nurse, she basically started on about stats so I obliged..... The point is if you read the thread you would realise I have been on both sides of the fence and still cannot understand not wanting to be with your child as much as possible, as even when I wasn't minding I used to have dd with me as soon as I could get home from my (mostly stressful) job.

shaqpe, might those parents possibly have jobs that mean they need the 8-6 care you provide?

I rather think many of them are haring from their desks to be with you by 6.

Not Jamie Dobb, the Motocross parent is it?

you haven't really understood the concept , have you shaqpe? you have given enough information about this child that ANYONE WHO KNOWS THEIR FAMILY could identify them

you have a professional duty of confidentialty to this family - isnt it in your contract?

you can write anything you like here about yourself

Tori - SM was clearly talking about being a CM, why would your past job be in the slightest bit interesting in the context of that discussion?

And you most certainly are a judgemental arse, imho, of course!

MrsBadger please read the thread.

Judgemental arse

PMSL!

Oi - Hunker - hahahaha tradaaarrrr

The fact that she was suggesting

1. I don't have any qualifications
2. CM is not a 'real' job.

MrsBadger. I am not slating all parents. I have a very good relationship with our parents and I'm very fond of their children. I use our very own baby room for 3 sessions a week (1 full day, 1 half day) I do not disagree with childcare.
However, you get to know the parents, so obviously you know if they work or stay at home while their child is in care. I'm just saying that for the parents who don't work, it is quite sad that they will wait for 10 minutes in a car park for a nursery to open, when they could be giving their child breakfast at home.
And as a Mother of an almost 1 year old, very active little boy, I appreciate that everybody needs "me" time, but it shouldn't have to be 8am - 5.59pm every day of the week.

(I have no idea who Jamie Dobb is, and know nothing about motocross, only that I care for a child whose father works in the industry)

yes but the point is everyone is different, just becuse you feel this way, doesnt mean you have to negatively judge other peoples commitments to their children, especially because of the job that you do. You are not a better mother just because you feel this way. Thats why people are upset because you are judging their parental love.

Tori - Sm did not suggest you had no qualifications - she suggested that anyone could become a CM (which is almost true).

I have read the thread, thank you very much.

I was specifically addressing shaqpe's point about people who used the whole day were mentioned as though this was odd.
She did not mention whether these people worked or didn't, or finished early or not.

I am a 5.59 tearing back from my desk type and will in future make damn sure the childcare professionals know this