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Original poster

Is my friend BU to ask me to pick her up from the airport at 2am ?

614 replies

Eggsandpickles · 15/06/2023 08:12

She clearly wants to save money by not getting a taxi. There are no buses to our village at that time. A taxi would probably cost her around £85.
Thoughts ?

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Eyesopenwideawake · 15/06/2023 08:12

Would she do the same for you?

thimbbwebelr153 · 15/06/2023 08:13

Yea if she's willing to return the favour sometime then I would

Whinge · 15/06/2023 08:13

She's not being unreasonable to ask, but she would be unreasonable to expect it.

Twinpeaches · 15/06/2023 08:13

She’d be unreasonable to expect it, but not unreasonable to ask. You wouldn’t be unreasonable to say either yes or no.

TeenDivided · 15/06/2023 08:13

She can ask.
You can refuse.

Are you normally up late? How far away is the airport? Do you do each other favours?

IAmAnIdiot123 · 15/06/2023 08:14

She can ask, you can say yes or no.

I have friends I would do this for and they would for me, I don't think it's cheeky to ask if you are presumably good friends.

rubyslippers · 15/06/2023 08:14

I wouldn’t
did she not plan for this when she booked her flight or just assume you would pick her up?
is she coming to stay with you?

NowZeusHasLainWithLeda · 15/06/2023 08:14

She isn't.
Neither are you to say no.
You don't sound like you like her much.

SeeingSpots · 15/06/2023 08:14

Why would it be unreasonable to ask for a lift?

She's reasonable to ask and you're reasonable to say no if you don't want to. If you say no then she can ask someone else. I can't say I blame her for wanting to avoid such an expensive taxi ride or for trying to make alternative arrangements for a time where there might not be many taxis available.

Hoppinggreen · 15/06/2023 08:15

It’s ok to ask, it’s ok for you to say no.
Its not ok for her to get arsey if you refuse

Twiglets1 · 15/06/2023 08:15

I wouldn’t expect it of anyone, would get a cab.
So she is being unreasonable in my opinion.

2chocolateoranges · 15/06/2023 08:15

I would do it for one of my friends and know they would do it for me.

isn’t that what friends do, help each other out?

pizzaHeart · 15/06/2023 08:15

Is she coming to visit you?
Maybe she is worried about travel at night on her own.

Chamomileteaplease · 15/06/2023 08:16

Assuming you have work the next day, I would say yes she is being unreasonable.

If she gives you the petrol money, parking money etc, it makes it even less worth it.

She should factor the £85 into her holiday spending money.

WonderDays · 15/06/2023 08:16

She being U, I have a 11pm cut off for pickups. My sleep is worth more than a friend saving some money on a cheap flight and taxi fare.

Twiglets1 · 15/06/2023 08:16

2chocolateoranges · 15/06/2023 08:15

I would do it for one of my friends and know they would do it for me.

isn’t that what friends do, help each other out?

Or maybe not be so thoughtless as to book a flight arriving at 2am?

Blip · 15/06/2023 08:17

It's a big favour and she has an alternative so not unreasonable to say no. Has she done you many favours - big or small - in the past?

MissBattleaxe · 15/06/2023 08:18

I wouldn't even ask family to pick me up at 2am. She should either stay in an airport hotel or pay for the cab. She's pretty much asking you to stay up most of the night.

CornishGem1975 · 15/06/2023 08:20

She's not being unreasonable asking you. She'd be unreasonable to demand it. Just say no if you don't want to do it, it's that simple!

Almostwelsh · 15/06/2023 08:21

It depends on circumstances. For a holiday, it is a bit unreasonable to ask I think. If you can afford a holiday, you can afford a taxi and 2am is a really unsociable time. I would do this for my child or parent but no-one else and I wouldn't expect anyone else to do this for me. A friend has asked me for a similar favour and it was a really inconvenient time and I said no. I don't feel guilty about it and I doubt it will affect our friendship.

If she's coming to visit you at your invitation, or she's been away due to a family crisis or bereavement I would collect her if I could.

AlisonDonut · 15/06/2023 08:21

Surely when you book a flight that gets in at 2am, meaning you might be through customs around 2:30-3am, you work out how to get from there before you actually book it?

If you don't want to, then don't.

Original poster
Eggsandpickles · 15/06/2023 08:22

Friend is going on holiday with her DD (15) . Our DDs are best friends which is how me and my friend met around 5 years ago and we've been close ever since. I have never once asked a favour of my friend, I never ask favours from anyone as I just don't like to and most of the time I don't need to.

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ilovesooty · 15/06/2023 08:22

I've got a flight arriving around that time later this year. It will cost me around £40 to get home. My friend and I do a lot for each other but I wouldn't ask this.

I think she's a bit rude to ask and you shouldn't feel bad if you want to say no.

Campervangirl · 15/06/2023 08:22

We would in our family, we have a bit of an airport agreement, we all return the favour but the nearest airport is only 35 minutes away, I've done an early airport run then got up and went to work

StillWantingADog · 15/06/2023 08:23

not unreasonable to ask
not unreasonable of you to say no - I would!

unreasonable of her to book a flight arriving at 2am without thinking this through.

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