Is my friend BU to ask me to pick her up from the airport at 2am ?

[Eggsandpickles]

She clearly wants to save money by not getting a taxi. There are no buses to our village at that time. A taxi would probably cost her around £85.
Thoughts ?

That’s unreasonable to expect you to do that. Her choice to book a flight that arrives that late

If she's not coming to see you and is literally asking you to pick her up from a holiday then no, that is a bit too much in my view.

If she was coming to visit you then I'd consider it.

Doesn't matter what anyone here thinks.

Is it unreasonable to you? If so, say no.

Basically she’s saved money by booking the crappy timed flights and is now trying to keep those savings by pushing the cost of the consequences of that onto you. Tight AF.

Another one who wouldn't even ask DH to do it. It depends how much people like their sleep/routine or resent getting it disturbed. I suppose she wouldn't know unless she asked you. But personally I'd probably crash out in the airport until the first bus. How much is an airport hotel? Premier Inn type might not be that much.

I think at 2am I'd rent a driver something. Not ask people.

I disagree quite a lot of the responses on here. I think it is an extremely unreasonable thing to ask and if I were you I would refuse it. You'll be lucky if you are back home by 4am.

It wouldn't even occur to me to ask for a lift at that time. I'd either wait until the buses started running again (can probably get a coffee somewhere while waiting) or, more likely, I'd bite the bullet and pay for the taxi.

For me this would depend on whether she's got form for asking big favours of people but doesn't give favours in return, and also if I were working the next day. Either of those would make it a no.

But for one of my very close friends I'd absolutely come and pick them up, because I know they'd do the same for me in a heartbeat.

Fine to ask.
If I was her and you said no I would just wait at the airport until public transport started, probably about three to four hours.

I wouldn't even ask unless I knew someone who was awake at that time. It's a no from me!

Just say it's too late if you don't want to.

She's only asked the question. You are under no obligation. i would though

I find this quite sad.

pretty sure I’d offer to put myself out to save a friend an expensive taxi. In fact, I have done similar in the past.

@Newmumatlast

What is unsafe about a taxi or Uber taking you from a very well lit and public location like an airport to the doorstep of your home?

People do it all the time.

Personally I wouldn’t ask and I wouldn’t say yes either.

But I think it’s perfectly within her rights to ask and perfectly within yours to decline.

This is a total non issue. 🤷‍♀️

There's no harm in asking. But she should not expect you to agree and you shouldn't feel bad for saying no (I probably wouldn't do it as I need my sleep)

Fine to ask and fine to refuse.
what are you going to say @Eggsandpickles
“I can’t that would wipe me out for days!”

No - it’s not fine to ask.

Not fine, at all.

I’d never dream of asking.

If it was a close friend and she does me favours too, and I didn't have work the next day I would. If had work, then no. Also if she never did me any favours, I say no. So do you have work the next day? Also does she do anything for you?

That would be a no from me, Sunday night (assuming you're working the next day), possibly later than 3 if the flight is delayed. Presumably spent several £££ on the actual holiday so to inconvenience a friend to this extent for £85 is definitely unreasonable.

Is it worth your while - is she going to pay you?

They'll most likely be a fee too for stopping even for a quick pick up

My dear dad was an absolute hero when it came to airport runs. He seemed to think that the only possible way for any of his D.C. to get to or from an airport was for him to drive them. For that reason I never, ever booked flights that would involve such an anti-social time. I wasn't going to take advantage of his generosity and good nature.

if I wouldn't expect that of my DDad I don't think it's reasonable of her to expect that from you.

That sounds pretty mercenary

reading the thread I’m surprised how many people won’t put themselves out for family or friends, and I’m pleased that, my family, and my friends, are not like that

After your updates - no way and she is absolutely CF to even ask you about this. She is going on a holiday so getting to and from the airport should be a part of her planning. She is coming home (familiar place, no language barrier). She is not alone - she is with her 15 y.o DD.
Don’t feel guilty at all, just tell her that you can’t as you have plans in the morning as someone suggested and that’s the end.

I would switch off my phone on the night of her travel, just in case.

She bairns get nowt.

Tell her you can't afford it. It'll cost you fuel and parking and it'll piss you off if she doesnt offer you money.

Or tell her you will for 100 quid upfront.

And I am pleased that my family and friends aren't CFs.