To feel pissed off that everyone is spelling my new baby’s name wrong?

[Algor1thm]

We’ve named our new baby a name which has several legitimate and well used spellings. The spelling we’ve gone with is actually the original spelling, but is the second most popular spelling in use in the UK currently. Think Isabelle versus Isabel for example. It’s not a made up or unknown spelling, and is completely phonetic. The name itself isn’t particularly unusual.

Almost everyone is already spelling the baby’s name wrong - over half of our new baby cards are spelt wrong. I’ve literally texted people “meet baby ‘Isabelle’” and right below they’ve written something like “congratulations, ‘Isabel’ is beautiful” etc.

I knew the spelling would be an issue going forward but I sort of expected people might be able to read what I’d written and spell it right the moment they were told the name. It’s probably just my hormones, but AIBU to think it’s quite rude not to make the effort to spell the baby’s name correctly in the new baby card?

Is it Amelie or Coraline? As you mentioned a film connection? Btw, YANBU I think it is rude to spell a name incorrectly and would never send a new baby card until I was 100 per cent certain of correct spelling.

My.kid has a name with different spellings and pronunciations.

People get it wrong.
World keeps turning, in the grand scheme, it's really no big deal.
we're not in a war torn country, daughter isn't sick, she's not starving hungry, worried she's going to be shot for not wearing a head scarf etc.
Some people just miss a letter from her name or pronounce her name wrong sometimes...

Ailsa/ Elsa? or Anna?

I think it's really fucking rude not to double check how you're spelling a name.

I get it at work and my name isn't at all unusual.

My friend's daughter has a name that can be ended in two ways and people post happy birthday on her Facebook where her name is clearly on her profile and still spell it wrong.
I haven't asked if it bothers her but it would make me furious. But then I had a letter from my GP today with the wrong name on so maybe I'm feeling more sensitive.

For family to do it is shitty.

I'm in the same boat OP and even now my DD is nearly 7 my dad and brother in law still spell her name completely wrongly. I don't like it.

Haha yes for evidence of the comprehension difficulties see a thread running about someone who doesn't want their mil to go on holiday when their baby is due. It literally says in the opening paragraph that she is having a home birth. At least half of the replies suggest she should consider having a home birth!

I think more emphasis is placed on comprehension in schools nowadays (you get a lot of parents complaining when their child gets put back to easier books because they don't understand what they've read, even though they can read the words!)

YANBU @Algor1thm If it's simply a different spelling of a popular/regular name that has several different spellings, and people simply CBA to spell it right, its rude and lazy. If you said/messaged 'Baby Isabelle is here' and someone sends a card with 'Congratulations on baby Isabel,' then that's lazy and rude.

I would be correcting them every single time. If they're offended, so what? They don't care about offending you.

It is rude and lazy, my neighbour has a daughter and it always slips my mind whether her name is spelled with a C or K, so I search our messages for the correct spelling before I send a card. It just needs a bit of thought.

I feel for you and your child op- nobody gets my name right except close friends! They’ll get there!! (Also could be autocorrect as someone else said!)

Interesting. I honestly don't care if family, friends or colleagues get my name spelling wrong. I mind much more if it's from an official source as I wonder what else they have got wrong...your GP example would bother me more than family doing it (especially elderly family)

😂 My name is a unisex name and could be spelled 3 different ways that I can think of, possibly more. I couldn't get worked up if someone spelled it incorrectly.

I agree, I do this too.

One woman I used to know always always ALWAYS spelt my name wrong. Think Carole and she kept putting Caryl. No idea why, she just decided she will spell my name like that.

I mentioned it a few times, and said 'by the way, just wondered why you kept addressing me as Caryl LOL.' She never responded and kept spelling my name wrong. HER name was Teresa, and I decided to start spelling it Treeza. I sent an email and said 'Hi Treeza, hope you're well... blah blah blah...' And wrote an email/letter.

She sent back no message, just a reply with ONE word. She said 'Treeza?!' and sent this emoji > I never responded, and we never had any more contact. Didn't like HER name being spelt wrong and being messed about with!

I think it's something you'll have to get used to and perhaps should have foreseen. Careless and annoying and you're not unreasonable in how you feel but they aren't totally unreasonable either, it's easily done.

I say this as someone in your boat.

I'd be annoyed by this. YANBU. I work in a place where your name is in your email address. The number of people that spell people's names wrong - or even message them calling them a totally different name - is quite staggering given that the person's name can very easily be copied from the 'to' box. On another note my GP when I was a child added an A to the end of my name (e.g. Maria versus Marie) and for the next 18 years I was registered there kept calling me the wrong name, even though I repeatedly corrected them. One GP even told me my parents must have changed my name....!

I had a friend called Ann I asked her if it was Ann or Ann with an "e" she said she didn't know even her mother had forgotten and she needed to check her birth certificate one day to see because it had literally been misspelled her entire life

@SnackSizeRaisin I just feel like family and friends should make the effort to know your name. It's basic unless there's any SEN which obviously is different.
It feels lazy and rude not to stop and think. Especially on a new baby card because people keep those forever sometimes.

I don't care if a stranger or acquaintance gets it wrong.

I'm very pissed off with my GP though especially as the letter was responding to a concern raised.

They've addressed it Dear Miss Wrong first name (think Mary and Molly). Plus stuff in the letter was wrong but that's another story.

I reckon Louis/louie

This is really petty but very funny. I love it.

Alisa and Elsa are completely different names though?

It's lazy and careless.

YABU, people are taking the time to send a card. That kind and thoughtful of them. It's a little careless to spell your babies name wrong but sure.y it doesn't matter. Their intentions are good! Why are you focusing on the negative and not the positive.

I've a na e that people spell wrong all the time. My siblings can't spell it, it doesn't ever bother me at all. What difference does it make if someone spells your name wrong. I don't understand why anyone cares unless it's done malicious.

I have a Freddy with a y. Nearly everyone,including family members who should know better, spell it ie. It’s annoying but you may be stuck with it.

I am 57 and everyone still spells my name in numerous ways inc. family who have (obvs) known me for years. They use z instead of s, e instead of a, and often hyphenate. It's a pretty simple name, just long. They also spell both my children's names incorrectly, common classic names. Beggars belief really.

Alisa and Elsa are definitely different names. Ailsa and Elsa, not so much.