Does My Best Friend Hate Me?

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I always know when my friend is stressed because she will find a reason to explode at me. Recently she went mad while we were having a conversation, telling me that she disagreed with my opinion (about nothing very important) and that I was talking too much and she couldn’t get a word in - which was a weird thing to say as she was haranguing me. She often says she doesn’t agree with me and I am starting to think she says it just for the sake of saying it. She said that I am negative and nasty to people but when I asked couldn’t give me an example of how or when. My attempts to defend myself were construed as further proof of my “wrongdoing”. It left me feeling really bad about myself. We left it that we wouldn’t talk for now. She sent me a text today asking if I am ok. I haven’t replied. Have you experienced anything like this and how did you cope with it?

I always think silence speaks volumes. I’d really distance myself for now if I was you. Then once you have had time to calm down and think about what you want to say, then ask to meet. It’s not on tbh. I’d be really annoyed.

Thank you all for your support.

Don't reply and see if you miss her or if you enjoy the break/peace
She sounds like the type to walk all over people and life's to short to put up with it. If you make friends and she has another outburst then simply say 'can't be arsed with this again' and skip off

My best friend from childhood had a habit of making little digs repeatedly and when I eventually snapped would go all wide eyed and teary and I'd end up the bad guy. I eventually recognised what was happening and put some space between us. We were inseparable as children and very close into our thirties. We now meet once or twice a year usually due to mutual friends having events. Although we met last month at a hen weekend and she pulled the same shit. I ignored her and was prepared at that point to cut he off completely but she actually apologised and acknowledged what she did wrong which was a first.

I would reduce/limit contact but it might be more helpful to be honest. She doesn't sound like a good person though

i Have pulled her up on the behaviour. At first she insisted that it was justified. Then she apologised and qualified her apology with an explanation for why it was justified. Nonetheless I thanked her for the apology and said I appreciated it and she laughed as though I had again done something wrong.

I have decided that it is best to distance myself from her for now.