To not like holidays?

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Just come back from a week away.
Had a nice time, but by day 4 I was ready to come home and tbh, I am always homesick by midweek whenever I’ve gone away.
I mean I had a nice time, and the weather was lovely, but I just want my home comforts back, my own bed, my own space, my comfy sofa.
Plus holidays are sooo expensive, and it was a “cheap” holiday (1.5k for 5 of us). I just think of everything else I could spend that amount of money on that would last way longer than a week.
now I’ve been home for just 3 hours and I’m already on the second load of washing. This is all I will be doing tomorrow as well - endless washing. And all the unpacking too. I just don’t enjoy it. But dh loves travelling and holidays and it’s just the done thing isn’t it? Having a weeks summer holiday. Surely I can’t be the only one who doesn’t really enjoy going away.

YABU - I love holidays. You’re a freak
YANBU - You are not alone - I don’t enjoy get the fuss either

I'm the same I can't relax and worry about home. I've had the odd holiday where I've wanted to stay longer. But on the while I'm ready to leave after a few days

I cannot understand this viewpoint. At all.

You need to figure out if you want to telax and chill on a holiday or be active, do extreme sports. If you need a lie in after your holiday, not good. If you use your holiday to actually rest, it's better.

I enjoy going away and doing very little and absorb that new place. I don't think either of you are unreasonable, just like different things.

YANBU.

I'm not that fussed about them either really. So much time is spent on packing and then unpacking when you come home. Plus the weather can make or break them and then it seems so much time, effort and money wasted.

I think overall I like the idea and anticipation of a holiday more than the actual holiday 🤣

Same. I like my day to day life and resent paying a bomb for a less good time. Tourism bores the shit out of me and the whole thing makes me feel depressed that life becomes a cycle of eating, drinking and sleeping.

Do you have very young kids? It is a bit same shit different place when they’re babies/toddlers. Especially if you go to places where you end up still cooking and cleaning but have to be extra vigilant because nothing is baby proofed like it is at home and there’s also a pool or the sea nearby.

Maybe if your husband was doing some of that washing your points of view would align more?

For me while the kids are young, it’s just the same shit different location.

Plus, like you, I also get a bit home sick. Before I had kids I could relax and enjoy the holiday, so I’m hoping as they get older I’ll start to actually appreciate them again!

Erm why go if it's just a chore. We love them and so do our 4 kids

Yes yes and yes. I agree and I am like this.

I lived all over the place as a child, pretty much moving at least once a year, including abroad. Now I'm an adult I love my own bed, my own kitchen, and my own rather boring street 😂 going abroad or even to another part of the UK is stressful and I always get homesick. I'm OK with days out, but get me to my own bed at the end of the day.

Definitely somewhere in the middle - I enjoy sightseeing and having things to do (definitely no extreme sports!). I think a 3 night break away is just perfect for me - not too much packing/unpacking to do, and you only have two days to fill which can easily be done, with a bit of relaxing too. 7 days is just too long imo, and just feels a bit “Groundhog Day”

Are you going on the kind of holiday you want to? If I was taken on one where the main activities to do were all sporty like windsurfing and stuff and otherwise just sunbathing I'd be climbing the walls to get home. But a week in a small city with museums and nice squares to get coffee and a pool to relax at some afternoons and I could stay a month.

Maybe you need to find the right kind of holiday for you and you haven't had it yet.

Never got the "same shit, different location" thing either. The different location bit makes up for any of the child based annoyances in and of itself.

He’s usually very good with housework but he has driven for 5hrs today whilst I slept in the passenger seat so I can’t complain that he’s not helping right now.

I love holidays, they were hard work with the kids sometimes but I found taking the car helped with that (we drove to France, Spain or Italy) now I'm planning the next couple of years trips and so excited. I tend to choose more unusual places or transport, just sitting on a beach doesn't do it for me

I’m with you on the long weekend. We have 4 different ones this year, two camping, one city break and one holiday park. Enough time to do a few things somewhere new, not too much packing or unpacking before or after. Well except the camping but DH is in charge of all the camping stuff.

I used to LOVE holidays. Now I have kids, I love some bits of holidays amidst the hard work, but the lovely moments make it worth it. So whilst I do think YABU, I do also get it. I have a week booked off for my birthday and I’m going to spend it at home doing things i want to do.

I love holidays - just back today and can't wait til the next one. We normally do s/c though so I had a WM on holiday and took fewer clothes. We did a nice mix of sight seeing and lounging about. And lots of eating. I find a week or more in a hotel a struggle. Getting up and out for breakfast, no proper fridge etc.

Off topic but can I ask where you went for 1.5k for 5? We’ve just been on an underwhelming week away that cost 2.5k for 4.

I love holidays but I plan the type of holiday that I would enjoy. If you are in a villa rather than hotel then you can usually do a couple of loads of washing while you are there. That makes it easier when you get home. I realise it still sounds like a chore but it spreads things out a bit.

I get homesick too..

Absolutely love holidays! Had my 6yr old in tears today at having to go home. Only bit that bores me is the airport (currently sat in one), don't even mind packing and unpacking.

I love every second, the build up and looking forward to it and also the reminiscing, it's not just one weeks worth of value. I'm always planning the next one and never want holidays to end. I like not having day to day worries or chores to think about and splashing out on good food etc

we went to a eurocamp in France and used Tesco Clubcard points to pay for it. Self-catering, and we drove down, but that also included a trip to Disneyland. But I get homesick during all holidays regardless where they are - caravan, camping, villa, hotel…. It’s just the same as home but with (hopefully) better weather. Just packing to go, getting up stupidly early to travel, spending a crazy ton of money, then packaging again to come home and just wash, wash and wash etc. and whilst there just doing they same sort of thing we could be doing at home - chilling by the beach, museums, theme parks, golf etc - all available locally to where we live. Just doing it abroad.
even if we have a villa with washing facilities, I still come home and re-wash. The only advantage is I only have to pack for 3/4days as opposed to 8, so there’s less to do when home.

Sorry but you’re being very ungrateful. Lots of people would love a holiday. I can’t think of anything I’d rather spend money on. Surely you appreciate dedicated family time away from the daily routine, you’ll never get that again once they grow up