To not like holidays?

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Just come back from a week away.
Had a nice time, but by day 4 I was ready to come home and tbh, I am always homesick by midweek whenever I’ve gone away.
I mean I had a nice time, and the weather was lovely, but I just want my home comforts back, my own bed, my own space, my comfy sofa.
Plus holidays are sooo expensive, and it was a “cheap” holiday (1.5k for 5 of us). I just think of everything else I could spend that amount of money on that would last way longer than a week.
now I’ve been home for just 3 hours and I’m already on the second load of washing. This is all I will be doing tomorrow as well - endless washing. And all the unpacking too. I just don’t enjoy it. But dh loves travelling and holidays and it’s just the done thing isn’t it? Having a weeks summer holiday. Surely I can’t be the only one who doesn’t really enjoy going away.

YABU - I love holidays. You’re a freak
YANBU - You are not alone - I don’t enjoy get the fuss either

Exactly what I was trying to say - I feel scruffy, tired, roughed up and not very rested by the end of it too! I don't have "routines" but I have ongoing stuff I like to do at home and for myself which makes me happy, and I'm just not very keen on having to give it up and live out of a suitcase, it's out of my comfort zone (physically and mentally).

As a child I was always never so happy as going home after a holiday, seeing the pets, getting back to home. I counted down the days to returning home with the same excitement and anticipation as others count the days to going away. I did enjoy holidays, but out of all the family I was the most "homesick". On the other hand I'm grateful I've travelled to some fab places and have experienced it with my own eyes.

Home is often much more comfortable (right pillow, perfect bed etc) but oh the joys of someone else cooking, not doing housework, not juggling parenting and work. Bliss. Couldn't ever give them up.

Well I cannot WAIT to go to Crete. Me, my husband and my nearly 15yo daughter.

I've not been on holiday for 7 years and I am itching to get away. The sunshine, the chilled-ness, the lazy days, the getting up when you want, a dip in the pool, a cocktail, a stroll in the sunshine.

Each to their own though.

I couldn't be doing with going on holiday with little kids tho.

Yes. Travelled loads whilst single, then partnered up, then with kids. I always smile when I read how "hard" it is to travel with kids. I have two SEN kids and I work my arse off to make sure they see the world. Lots and lots and lots of preparation and not giving a shit if my kids inconvenience other travellers by being too loud or a bit too excited. I do my best to keep them calm and occupied during a flight and mostly it's fine. But what I don't do is let myself feel shamed that my kids aren't like other kids. They take their place in the world. Where they belong.

Find a laundromat and have them wash, iron and pack your stuff in plastic on the second to last morning.

Total game changer.

I love holidays, but that first cup of tea and night in your bed is bliss.

Why do you go on holiday if you don't enjoy it? If your DH and the kids do then he can take them. I'm an avid traveller ( mostly solo now) and I'd hate to be away with someone who doesn't want to be there. Nobody is fully happy in that situation

If this was me I'd be worrying about the journey to the airport, what happens if we get a flat tyre, the roads are blocked, then the airport, what happens if I suddenly feel ill and have to sit on a flight with the runs or vomiting, then I'll assume the airline will lose the bags, the hotel will be in the midst of building works, the pool will give us a bout of noro or the food at the buffet will make us sick, there won't be enough to do, I'll forgot to pack something vital, it will rain constantly, there will be a conference at the hotel which will make the entire stay corporate and miserable etc etc.

I admire people who don't have this running in their head all the time.

Love holidays.

You can go self catering and eat out you know.

You please yourself. SC is great.

You have the thing about what to eat every night at home.

The trouble is if you don't ever get away, you continually work. While you are at home, there is always something needs doing.
Leaving the house you get a rest from working round the house.

oh god me too. Its just work.
I don't like travelling either, I like having nice days out in the millions of beautiful villages or towns or attractions around England, but I can come home afterwards.

It's just extra work going on holiday as a mum. and you know why your dh loves it? he's not doing the washing is he? think about it.

you've hit the nail on the head 👏

I'm not sure I would enjoy a "cheap" holiday tbh, I wouldn't want to go away for the sake of it, I'm not trying to escape my life. It would need to be a holiday I enjoy, camping is a holiday, but not one you'd catch me on, for example (I know others love camping). I'd rather save up for longer and do something I really want to do, I love our holidays, but it's taken a few years and career progression to get to the type we really want!

I’ve been to over 60countries but don’t like holidays.

I love to go for extended time for work to live and be part of somewhere different or I love to go for two nights max somewhere for a break or for work.

since we had DD5 we have done family packages holidays but only five nights max. We are about to do our first fortnight away- not really sure if either DH or myself will be fans of it.

we are doing a family European city break for three nights later in the summer for a tenth of the price and we are all very excited for that.

as a family we are not the best at not being busy.

This. You’re choosing the wrong destinations if you’re not enjoying your holidays.

I'm in the "who on earth doesn't like holiday" group I'm afraid. And I have 4 children too so yes it's busy but I love everything about holidays!
I like the planning. I like the anticipation. I like the feeling of not knowing what's round the next corner. And I love self catering and getting to do to a food shop in a different supermarket.

However although I have loads of children I am very chill about routines and have children that are very flexible and enjoy holidays too. I think that makes a difference.

I totally agree with you! It's so tedious doing all the packing, washing and unpacking. Plus we usually self cater when we are away,.so end up cooking in a tiny kitchen, with no oven (the French don't tend to do ovens!) and barely any utensils! Kids take ages to go to sleep as they're excited/ in new place and still up at the crack of dawn! It's hard work and the opposite of relaxing! Having said that, I feel like we are able to dolre sightseeing now the kids are a bit older, rather than just beaches, which I find boring. Hopefully it'll get easier, but they're 9 and 12 now and it hasn't yet 😂

I totally get you

Omg @Hairbrushhandle are you me?? I am exactly the same! I think I’ve got worse with the antibac since lockdown. We have a chance to book a holiday soon and I’m just endlessly scrolling up and down wondering which pool/buffet looks the least likely to give us noro. If I pick one I’ll just start worrying I’ve chosen wrong!! First world problems I know… but my poor brain is exhausted and we haven’t even booked it yet!!

Me too. Op must be doing it all wrong. Are you staying in really bad places or something? What's wrong with having all your meals made, rooms cleaned for you and just doing whatever you want??

I'm with you. Going on holiday is a box ticking exercise for me, I quite like it and it isn't 'same shit different place' for me but I really like my day to day life, my hobbies, my pets. So it has to be incredible to make up for going away from that.

DC are SN and used to be very limiting but they're much better now, however I'm not really sure they like being away much either.

DH likes it but partly because he wants me to have a holiday and doesn't get my take on it at all.

I find travelling the worst bit, it's unpredictable, anxiety inducing and a waste of time so now we stay in the UK and drive which is much better.

Can't believe people are calling you ungrateful, you're allowed to have feelings!

going all inclusive and hotel (so beds made, food cooked etc) would cost us at least £5000 - for one week!! That’s an insane amount of money just to sit next to a pool.
I could hire a cleaner to come every week to change our beds at home for us and have change left over for that.

I’m not saying I hate holidays, I just miss my home comforts and my own space, and do not think the hassle is worth the cost. I’d be quite content not to go away again and just use the money on improving our lives at home - like cleaners, restaurants, and going to the theatre etc. things I actually love doing.

going all inclusive and hotel (so beds made, food cooked etc) would cost us at least £5000 - for one week!! That’s an insane amount of money just to sit next to a pool

Wow!!

I generally get very bored after the first few days...I like having my 'stuff' around me.

For me it would be what I was doing/what type of holiday.
I love going on trips - but there is a big difference depending on what it is as to h