To not like holidays?

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Just come back from a week away.
Had a nice time, but by day 4 I was ready to come home and tbh, I am always homesick by midweek whenever I’ve gone away.
I mean I had a nice time, and the weather was lovely, but I just want my home comforts back, my own bed, my own space, my comfy sofa.
Plus holidays are sooo expensive, and it was a “cheap” holiday (1.5k for 5 of us). I just think of everything else I could spend that amount of money on that would last way longer than a week.
now I’ve been home for just 3 hours and I’m already on the second load of washing. This is all I will be doing tomorrow as well - endless washing. And all the unpacking too. I just don’t enjoy it. But dh loves travelling and holidays and it’s just the done thing isn’t it? Having a weeks summer holiday. Surely I can’t be the only one who doesn’t really enjoy going away.

YABU - I love holidays. You’re a freak
YANBU - You are not alone - I don’t enjoy get the fuss either

There are lots of different types of holidays, there is no one size fits all. If you really can't cope with being away from home them maybe it isn't for you, otherwise you should work out what you want to do, what do you enjoy and plan around that. No point in choosing a holiday that leaves you feeling like shit. But I'm sure there is something that appeals?

I get you op
I was on hols last week was ready to come home after 4 days not because I wasn't enjoying it but equally like my life n happy to return to it
Was a lot of money to alternate between stopping the kids drowning and burning.

Been running the washing machine for 5days feels endless

This was me when I was young.
Now I’m older I want to go everywhere and see everything.

I’m sorry and I know I belong in the linguistic pendants corner, but I can’t cope with the “whoa is me”. Particularly as you say you’re a teacher. I’m hoping PE or something. I’ll get my hard hat on…..

I'm like this, I enjoy it for a few days then want to come home again.

Just out of curiosity do you travel with kids? It's exhausting and not usually much of a holiday.

OP- I hear you.

I get you. I loved them when I was younger. But now I like the idea of them but when it comes down to it they are a lot of hard work and hassle.

I really dislike going away… the stress in the lead up almost makes me Ill (I do worry over literally nothing though), so I count the weeks down to holiday the opposite of all my friends…. Then after I’ve almost been sedated enough to fly, I’m in unfamiliar territory (at a place I go every year lol). Then spend the next two whole weeks panicking about the return journey!!!! I KNOW I’m extreme. This year I more or less said to my partner “until I’ve either had therapy or wobbled my head, I’m not going more than an hour away from home” I’ve said he can go away on his own with the children or extended family (he adores holidays bless him) and/or we can have lots of mini breaks. Compromise is we are saving to buy a caravan so we can just go…

I'm glad you said it, I was having trouble restraining myself from commenting! 😆

Sounds like 1) you're doing too much of the packing, washing etc and 2) not taking the right kind of holiday for you and 3) you have small children which will indeed make holidays a chore. Grin and bear it for their sake and do less. If DH wants to go on holiday that badly and you don't, he can do the driving AND at least half the washing.

Surely you weren't doing any housework tasks when you holidayed in a hotel. The whole point is that you don't have to cook, clean, shop, make the beds, wipe surfaces...

I know I wouldn't enjoy a self catering holiday anywhere (same reasons as you - daily drudge in a less convenient setting), so I don't go on them.

I don't see any problem with preferring your own home.

But I have no idea what people on this thread are doing to make packing /unpacking such an event. Neither usually takes more than half an hour.

I don't think self catering is much of a holiday to be honest as invariably it is the woman who ends up doing much of the planning, shopping, prepping and cleaning up .
I adore holidays but never, ever self cater . Would prefer to stay home.

YANBU

I like holiday in the sense of time off work but going away somewhere for a week would be my worst nightmare. I usually go on the odd city break for a few nights but even at that I always find I'm desperate to come home...

😂 I think OP has three kids 🤣

You're probably just fatigued from motherhood at the moment OP.
Wait until they're a bit older and more independent and you will probably love holidays.

This is me. I always like to have something booked so I have something to look forward to when I come home.

I love holidays, always have, even when DC were little. But it has to be the right type of holiday.

When Dc were younger we used to go on lots of days out at weekends. So going on holiday was an opportunity to go on lots of days out in a different place. After a couple of disastrous packages to the sun we learned our lesson and went for weeks away around the UK and loved it. Yes I was still cooking but we got a lot more ready made stuff and I would have done it at home anyway. We went to castles, beaches, stately homes and living history museums, activity trails, canoeing etc. Great fun for us all.

The sunshine hotel holidays were really stressful. Too hot in early May, and other than beach / pool / sea there wasn't much to do. Early nights as DS was only 2-3 and DH and I drinking wine whispering on the balcony. In these cases we couldn't wait to get home!

He’s usually very good with housework but he has driven for 5hrs today whilst I slept in the passenger seat so I can’t complain that he’s not helping right now.

Then leave the washing til tomorrow!

I quite like being on holiday, the faff before and after would be outsourced if such a thing existed! But yeah, after 5 days or so, I want to come home. A two week holiday would do my nut in.

I much prefer weekends away than actual holidays. In fact I haven't had one (holiday), for almost 16 years either in the UK or abroad.

The holidays we have had are some of the best memories we have. Same for when I was young - family holidays were some great experiences and great family time.

We always do driving holidays across Europe - and there is a real sense of excitement once we get off the ferry and start our route.

I'm the same. I think holidays are often very overpriced and the experience is overrated. I miss being at home, my own things, my own bed. I'm never happier seeing my home after a holiday. If it was left to me, I'd never want to go on holiday personally, but my DH loves holidays and I know it's good for the DCs to go away and experience/enjoy holidays.

But the packing, the expense, the stress of travel, delays, the "where/what/when" to eat every night. I find it so stressful internally (although on the surface I'm practical and cheerful). I also eat and drink more than normal - every day is a treat day because "holiday", so towards the end of the holiday my clothes don't fit as nicely as they did because I'm heavier, everything smells of chlorine from the pool, sand seemingly everywhere (I really dislike sand!) I always get prickly heat and/or strap marks no matter how well I apply suntan lotion, my fake tan goes patchy, my manicure chips etc and all I want to do is get home and get back, sort myself out and wear "normal" clothes instead of swimwear.

I travelled quite a bit when younger and was fine then, but as I get older I appreciate my home comforts all the more!

^mentioning fake tan and manicures makes me sound high maintenance or that's all I care about. I paint my own nails and do my own fake tan, I cut and dye my own hair. I don't have any paid-for beauty treatments at all and haven't for years. I just mean that even these little things can make me feel even more out of my comfort zone.

I’m not a big fan of holidays either OP. I end up wanting to come home and finding it all a massive waste of money. The travelling is also stressful.

I actually live in a touristy area and so prefer to spend days out in local beauty spots and eat at local restaurants. I’m very lucky, and then I get to come home on the evening

I LOVE holidays , but if you don't then don't go ?
Are you happy for husband & kids to go ? Not fair for them to miss out if they enjoy it.

YANBU

I mostly find holidays a massive hassle. The searching, booking, clothes shopping, packing, TRAVELLING..! Ugh.
It's nice when I get there (except for him indoors being difficult to please and constantly on the lookout for things to moan about which makes it stressful but the aforementioned downsides mean I'm quite happy to get back home.