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Am I weird, or are they? (Light-hearted, I hope!)

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IchWill · 03/06/2023 01:03

Having a (supposedly) light-hearted conversation at work about 80s music recently, someone mentioned Shakin' Stevens and laughter ensued Ankit the double denim and the moves, when I piped up, laughing along and admitted he was my first crush.

Colleagues looked shocked, they worked out I was about 4 or 5 at the time, I said that was correct. To which they said, "You were 4 and fancied an adult? Bit weird!", Bewildered, I said all kids have pop star crushes and they said yes, as teens, not as a child. Now I felt like an absolute freak. I laughed it off though.

So, I asked my DP if he had crushes at that age and said no. Am I / was I a massive weirdo?!

PS: to make matters worse. My next crushes were Holly Johnson and Neil Tennant. which my family found hilarious and I was too young and sheltered to understand what was so funny.

Please make me feel like I'm less of a weirdo.

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IchWill · 03/06/2023 01:54

MistressoftheDarkSide · 03/06/2023 01:50

Yeah I have eclectic taste in men it seems 😹

Axl really was gorgeous then.... he certainly did a lot of living and it shows a bit, bless him.

My DP unfortunately died last year, and he was my ultimate passion, but sometimes looking at pictures is a bit painful so I watch GNR on YouTube..... Estranged is one of my resonant songs. And of course Sweet Child of Mine....

Bizarrely DP was in a covers band in his late teens and used to do GNR songs..... long before I met him.... I've seen photos though and he rocked the Axl look for a while..... so in a roundabout way the Universe gave me my rock star boyfriend.... at the age of 42 when he had moved on to Hawkwind covers and Blues.....

Sorry, gone off on a misty eyed tangent.....

But thanks for the memories ..... they are very precious.....

Bless your heart. So sorry for your loss, but glad you've great memories to comfort yourself with.

One of my best mates was in a GnR covers band, he could switch between being Steven or Duff. He was mainly Duff. Fab curly blond hair.

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NannyOggsWhiskyStash · 03/06/2023 01:55

My first crush when I was around 8 was Hywel Bennett of all people, swiftly followed by John Travolta, it's perfectly normal.

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IchWill · 03/06/2023 01:55

Plump82 · 03/06/2023 01:51

Oh that reminds me. I had a wee fancy for Lion-O in Thundercats!

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Brilliant. Just brilliant. 😂

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IchWill · 03/06/2023 01:56

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 03/06/2023 01:53

@IchWill I confess to being very young (6!6!)and heart broken at being told trembling lip Elvis was not for me!! - and the film Summer holiday just captured my heart!

How cruel of adults to shatter your dreams. 😓

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Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 03/06/2023 01:57

NannyOggsWhiskyStash · 03/06/2023 01:55

My first crush when I was around 8 was Hywel Bennett of all people, swiftly followed by John Travolta, it's perfectly normal.

Hywel Bennett was arrogantly gorgeous.

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IchWill · 03/06/2023 01:58

NannyOggsWhiskyStash · 03/06/2023 01:55

My first crush when I was around 8 was Hywel Bennett of all people, swiftly followed by John Travolta, it's perfectly normal.

Just googled Hywel. Looks so familiar. Never seen anything he's in.

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dozydoo · 03/06/2023 02:00

I was absolutely in love with Brian Adams when Robin Hood prince of thieves came out and I was about 3, then I fell in love with Kevin Costner, then Tom cruise, there were probably many more before I even started school! 🤦‍♀️ then every member of boy zone just after I started school 😂

then there was our local coal man, who I used to write about in my secret diary, in my head we were going to run off together, then there was the electrician who came to fix some wires in my primary school, the list goes on...... 🤦‍♀️

I always seemed to have a crush going on, either someone from tv, or my friends big brothers, but they were always a lot older than me, I thought that was normal? Tbf though, my husband is 15 years older than me 😂

TheLeadbetterLife · 03/06/2023 02:00

Lion-O was quite hot, but too serious. I fancied Venkman from The Real Ghostbusters and - god help me - one of the hero turtles. Michaelangelo maybe? Or Raphael. Can’t remember. Young love is so fickle.

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IchWill · 03/06/2023 02:02

Random teen crush just popped into my head. Danny (Price?) from Home and Away. He was Morag's long lost son I think. He was with Bobbie and tried to kill Morag I vaguely recall. Soap psycho vibes. Phwoooaaar. 😆

James Norton of his day.

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IchWill · 03/06/2023 02:03

TheLeadbetterLife · 03/06/2023 02:00

Lion-O was quite hot, but too serious. I fancied Venkman from The Real Ghostbusters and - god help me - one of the hero turtles. Michaelangelo maybe? Or Raphael. Can’t remember. Young love is so fickle.

I was more of a Spengler gal for Ghostbusters.

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IchWill · 03/06/2023 02:07

dozydoo · 03/06/2023 02:00

I was absolutely in love with Brian Adams when Robin Hood prince of thieves came out and I was about 3, then I fell in love with Kevin Costner, then Tom cruise, there were probably many more before I even started school! 🤦‍♀️ then every member of boy zone just after I started school 😂

then there was our local coal man, who I used to write about in my secret diary, in my head we were going to run off together, then there was the electrician who came to fix some wires in my primary school, the list goes on...... 🤦‍♀️

I always seemed to have a crush going on, either someone from tv, or my friends big brothers, but they were always a lot older than me, I thought that was normal? Tbf though, my husband is 15 years older than me 😂

Funny enough. Last week I said to a mate that when I was in my 20s, I recall think that I couldn't possibly imagine fancying an "old man" ever, even when I'm old.

My version of "old" back then, I now don't see as old. I'm 45 and fancy blokes in their 50s (Jake Shillingford), 60s (John Robb) and fuck... 70s!!! (Larry Lamb).

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ThickSkinnedSoWhat · 03/06/2023 02:12

Yes. At ghat age John Travolta and Arnie. Still wouldn't kick either out of bed shamefully 😂

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IchWill · 03/06/2023 02:13

ThickSkinnedSoWhat · 03/06/2023 02:12

Yes. At ghat age John Travolta and Arnie. Still wouldn't kick either out of bed shamefully 😂

Arnie looks good. Travolta bit too out there for me.

Just recalled my DPs weird crish. Alex Polizzi.

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TheLeadbetterLife · 03/06/2023 02:20

Thinking about this… is it weird that I don’t get crushes anymore?

My crushes were SO intense throughout my childhood and teen years, but now I never really fancy anyone. I kind of objectively chalk up some famous men as fanciable, but don’t actually fancy them.

Tanfastic · 03/06/2023 02:22

I had a crush on Magnum when I was about 6 and then Bobby Ball from Cannon and Ball. Must have been the taches 🙈😂......so if you are weird 😂

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IchWill · 03/06/2023 02:23

You see, I think I'm actually odd to still get crushes, at my age! While in a long term relationship. But I've always had crushes, so it's normal to me.

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IchWill · 03/06/2023 02:24

Tanfastic · 03/06/2023 02:22

I had a crush on Magnum when I was about 6 and then Bobby Ball from Cannon and Ball. Must have been the taches 🙈😂......so if you are weird 😂

I quite liked him on Friends. Tom, not Bobby. 😂

Loved Bobby as a performer, mind you.

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InglouriousBasterd · 03/06/2023 02:40

My first crush was Flash Gordon closely followed by Jason Donovan, closely followed by Roger Black. Diverse yet all blond Grin

IJustHadToLookHavingReadTheBook · 03/06/2023 02:43

Totally normal @IchWill! Or normal for me, anyway. I was in love with Jason Donovan at four! My husband didn't have any crushes until his teens though, so maybe it's a girl thing to fall desperately in love with celebrities at such a young age.

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IchWill · 03/06/2023 02:44

IJustHadToLookHavingReadTheBook · 03/06/2023 02:43

Totally normal @IchWill! Or normal for me, anyway. I was in love with Jason Donovan at four! My husband didn't have any crushes until his teens though, so maybe it's a girl thing to fall desperately in love with celebrities at such a young age.

I think you might be right. I loved JD for a while too.

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AmazingBouncingFerret · 03/06/2023 05:50

Jason Donovan was my first crush.

Then Donnie Wahlberg came along and tore my affections away!

Theblackdogagain · 03/06/2023 06:36

Another one for Boy George, I was 3, he was on the album cover and I loved his hair. I'm now 42 and my husband has long hair.

SuffolkUnicorn · 03/06/2023 06:39

3/4 years old I had a massive crush on derek Jameson yes him 😂 lasted for a few years

Plump82 · 03/06/2023 06:39

IchWill · 03/06/2023 02:13

Arnie looks good. Travolta bit too out there for me.

Just recalled my DPs weird crish. Alex Polizzi.

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She's my husband weird crush as well!

Oysterbabe · 03/06/2023 06:40

My first crush as a very small child was Ramsey off the Bill.