To think this is a massive issue- wrong text sent to boss

[Lis1992]

Help!! I woke up this morning to realise that my boss had been sent the wrong message. My friend sent a text reply for me as I wasn’t feeling well, and sent it to my boss accidentally. The message said I was embarrassed as I’d got sick on the side of the road and that I’ve no tolerance for wine etc. I was drunk and emotional and told my friend to basically just type what happened on the text and tell my other friend I was feeling awful. So she did. How do I handle this? Boss has ignored it so far but I’ll need to explain obviously. This is a massive f* up isn’t it? Ahhhhh. I honestly feel so upset and I don’t know if it’s just the hangover fear blowing this out of proportion or if it as big as I think it is!

Your boss is human too! Probably read it and chuckled, I know I would.

Thanks all. You’ve been really helpful. Sent a text explaining and he was 100 percent fine. He is a supportive boss generally anyway and he told me not to give it a second thought!

If it makes you feel better, I've done a lot worse. Suffice to say it was sexually explicit and to the wrong person.

This just says how you were feeling. No worries at all OP.

You’re mega overreacting. Just say oops wrong person! And forget it. What is it that you think is so so so bad?? That you got so drunk you were sick and your boss knows? That’s nothing! Everyone has done it.

How did she even know who your boss was unless they have the same name? Sounds deliberate of her. So she was replying for you, wouldn't the previous chat be there and she just replies on that chat?

And this is yet another reason why bring your own device policies at work are a terrible terrible idea.

If your employer needs to communicate with you over a mobile phone, they should issue you with one instead of commandeering your personal phone.

(I should finish typing before I hit post.)

If you have a separate work phone and personal phone, your work phone does not go with you on nights out and then this kind of event simply cannot happen.

Other reasons why:

• Your work phone can be configured by your IT department to be remotely wipeable in case of loss or theft without you risking your personal private data being deleted during the wipe.
• Loss of your personal phone does not interfere with your work and you can take your time to choose an appropriate replacement without your employer breathing down your neck.
• Having work-related factor authentication tokens etc on your work phone means you can protect your employer's data by leaving your work phone at home whilst still taking your personal phone with you.
• You can have Tinder or similar on your personal phone with no risk of a copy-paste error between your very private apps and your work apps.

It’s a non-issue. Your manager has definitely read the message but has decided to ignore it rather than cause you further embarrassment. If I was them I would have replied maybe with a bit of a joke depending on what our relationship was like anything from “don’t worry about it, hope you feel better in time for your next shift” to “that’ll teach you to get pissed and give your phone to a stranger”

Having work-related two factor authentication tokens

Honestly this is fine. Your boss ignored it to be kind. If any of my employees sent me this I would delete straight away and never mention it to them.

Yep!

I think most people these days realise that people fire off messages a lot and every now and then one of them is going to go astray. It's not a big deal.

But ... I would be careful in the future in trusting your "friend" not to drop you in it again.

You weren't scheduled to be in work. You didn't call in sick. You didn't skive off. There is nothing to worry about. I'd just either ignore the error entirely or say " Sorry texted in error. Have a good weekend and see you [whatever day you are next in]". It's not a huge problem.

Don't worry about it....i once got a message from a member of my staff at about 3am about how she wanted to lick me out and missed my juices 🤣.......it could have been waaay worse lol

By boss would find it hilarious

Your boss won’t think anything of it. I’m sure they have done many things like that, we all have. Your only human and entitled to go out and let your hair down. 😊

I actually re read the message that was sent and it makes it seem that I got sick IN the taxi!! Annoying. But I feel it would be too weird to text boss again and say I was clarifying that it wasn’t in the taxi, when I have already texted him to explain the wrong text etc!

Your friend seems to have properly stitched you up.

@Hannahsbananas she was very drunk too when sending I suppose

it might make you feel better to know that an old colleague thought they were texting their FWB but it was actually our boss. (Same first name!) It wasn’t explicit but it was on the racy side. Luckily the boss saw the funny side.

A quick text saying ‘sorry wasn’t meant for you’ is ample.
as long as you didn’t call in sick because of the hangover then it’s no business of your boss what you do on your nights off

This

Imagine if you'd just done that in the first place without starting a thread