Active discussions

Best Amazon Prime Day deals: Mumsnet favourites

Best Amazon Prime Day deals:
Mumsnet favourites

Shop now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

To think this is a massive issue- wrong text sent to boss

98 replies

Lis1992 · 02/06/2023 14:48

Help!! I woke up this morning to realise that my boss had been sent the wrong message. My friend sent a text reply for me as I wasn’t feeling well, and sent it to my boss accidentally. The message said I was embarrassed as I’d got sick on the side of the road and that I’ve no tolerance for wine etc. I was drunk and emotional and told my friend to basically just type what happened on the text and tell my other friend I was feeling awful. So she did. How do I handle this? Boss has ignored it so far but I’ll need to explain obviously. This is a massive f* up isn’t it? Ahhhhh. I honestly feel so upset and I don’t know if it’s just the hangover fear blowing this out of proportion or if it as big as I think it is!

OP posts:
pontipinemum · 02/06/2023 15:19

I suppose it depends on your boss. My current one would prob find it funny. I think I'd send a quick text saying 'So sorry, I'm sure you can guess that text last night was sent to you incorrectly! Hope we can never mention it again 😑

mrlistersgelfbride · 02/06/2023 15:19

Write back "So sorry, I sent that to the wrong person!"
Do it now so you don't worry about the silence anymore.
It really isn't a big deal.

OnlyFannys · 02/06/2023 15:19

I really dont understand exactly what has happened? Your mate used your phone to message your boss saying you were sick on the side of the road? Had you asked her to message someone else saying that?

NineOfNine · 02/06/2023 15:22

It’s a bit embarrassing, but as you weren’t due in at work today, it shouldn’t be an issue at all.

TequilaNights · 02/06/2023 15:23

Lis1992 · 02/06/2023 14:58

I’m so nervous because they have ignored it so im worrying even more

Possibly because they know it wasn't meant for them?

Catlord · 02/06/2023 15:23

It's fine. You had a bit too much to drink one evening when not at work. Not your boss's business. You could message and say 'sorry- not meant for you. I'm feeling much better today though! See you at work tomorrow'.

RubbishRobotFromTheDawnOfTime · 02/06/2023 15:24

For everyone struggling understand, this is from the OP:

My friend sent a text reply for me as I wasn’t feeling well, and sent it to my boss accidentally.

I was drunk and emotional and told my friend to basically just type what happened on the text and tell my other friend I was feeling awful

OliveTree75 · 02/06/2023 15:24

Mine would find this funny but he’s pretty laid back. Even so, I don’t think there’s an issue at all!

Redshoeblueshoe · 02/06/2023 15:28

Your boss is ignoring you - because it's a non issue.

Weallgottachangesometime · 02/06/2023 15:28

I would just text a quick-
“apologies for the the previous text, it was meant for a friend who has a similar name. How embarrassing 🤦🏻‍♀️”.

Megifer · 02/06/2023 15:28

Stop worrying, this is just beer fear taking over.

Not helpful but I'd love it if one of my team sent me a message like that 🤣

Hannahsbananas · 02/06/2023 15:31

RubbishRobotFromTheDawnOfTime · 02/06/2023 15:24

For everyone struggling understand, this is from the OP:

My friend sent a text reply for me as I wasn’t feeling well, and sent it to my boss accidentally.

I was drunk and emotional and told my friend to basically just type what happened on the text and tell my other friend I was feeling awful

Why do you think this your post makes anything clearer? 😂
We’re wondering why op has asked her friend to pretend to be her, to a mutual friend, instead of just telling the mutual friend that op is feeling hung over.
It’s quite an unusual way to carry on 🤷🏻‍♀️

MsRosley · 02/06/2023 15:32

Just email them, explain, and apologise. They'll probably laugh it off.

Hannahsbananas · 02/06/2023 15:32

Megifer · 02/06/2023 15:28

Stop worrying, this is just beer fear taking over.

Not helpful but I'd love it if one of my team sent me a message like that 🤣

Oh, give over. Why would anyone?

Clarinet1 · 02/06/2023 15:34

SoVTired · 02/06/2023 14:52

Just ignore it and don’t bring it up, unless they do. In which case explain what happened.

Pmsl at “Bring it up” given the context!

EggInANest · 02/06/2023 15:35

Not well explained OP, but if the upshot is that you didn’t miss work, didn’t lie to your boss etc, just text ‘sorry, please ignore, phone hijacked by friend, sent to wrong person’.

If it is a WhatsApp msg, delete it.

WoofWoofBeachLife · 02/06/2023 15:37

It's none of your boss's business. Why are you so worried? It wouldn't affect your job, or would it?
If I received that message I'd ignore it as an error. Just reply apologies that message was sent to you in error. And remember not to put kisses on it 🤣🤣

itsgettingweird · 02/06/2023 15:40

If your friend sent it from your phone surely it's written as if it's someone else typing and not you?

So "oh poor x got shitfaced ......."

So boss would have worked out it was a friend sending it and sent it to them by mistake.

In which case I'd pretend I hadn't even noticed and if boss brings it up feign ignorance!!! "Oh no - can't believe friend typed that and sent it to the wrong person"

milkysmum · 02/06/2023 15:40

Really struggling to tell what has gone on if I'm honest.

Megifer · 02/06/2023 15:42

Hannahsbananas · 02/06/2023 15:32

Oh, give over. Why would anyone?

Show quote history

Because its funny 🙄

Namechangedforthis2244 · 02/06/2023 15:43

Ive been a line manager for a long time.

Your boss isn’t replying because they’re being kind to you. If they don’t reply you can delete and apologise and they can then either laugh it off or pretend they didn’t see it. Everyone on the same page that it was a mistake and you make sure it doesn’t happen again.

If you don’t delete or apologise they’ll have to have an awkward conversation with you on your next shift about not drunk texting them. ….

wildeststorm · 02/06/2023 15:45

Oh Lord no don't worry! I thought you had called in sick and lied or something! They've ignored it because it's obvious it wasn't meant for them so don't worry!

NowZeusHasLainWithLeda · 02/06/2023 15:45

The boss has ignored it because they realised it wasn't for them.

However, I do agree that that's pretty unfortunate instead of messaging a mutual friend to say how hilarious it was you'd drunk so much you were vomiting on the street, they messaged your boss. Unless of course you've saved both people under the same name (and surname?) on your phone.

greenduckling · 02/06/2023 15:45

LordSugarTits · 02/06/2023 15:18

So you asked your friend to text another friend saying, Lis feels awful, she's pissed and threw up on the pavement but instead the friend sent it to your boss?

I'd be suspicious that it wasn't an accident, but that aside, just ignore it. If your boss mentions it just say some bloke nicked your phone in the pub thinking he was funny if you can't simply say, oh yeah, sorry, that was for someone else 🤷🏽‍♀️

My first thought - I'd be wary of your friend

greenduckling · 02/06/2023 15:48

milkysmum · 02/06/2023 15:40

Really struggling to tell what has gone on if I'm honest.

OP got drunk and vomited, perhaps, still under the influence of alcohol, she asked her friend to text a mutual friend using her phone (maybe she was too drunk to text herself? Had her head over the toilet?) and instead of texting their mutual friend, her friend texted OP's boss