Would you let your 4 year old wear a bare midriff top to nursery?

[Miya24]

Received a top and short set from a bag of hand me down clothes. It's aged 3-4. My daughter loves it, it's waterproof material so it's great for water play in the garden. Nursery is having a water play day tomorrow and my daughter is desperate to wear it. It sits right above the belly button and has cold shoulders as well.
Would you send your daughter to nursery in it or would it raise a few eyebrows? I'm thinking it may be more beach wear but I have no idea. I may be overthinking but I'd love some more opinions.

I'm not talking about those banging on about sunburn.

Is it waterproof? Doesn't look it.

I'd keep it for wearing at home.

I wouldn't have a problem with it. I was sitting out in a friends garden the other day (in Scotland so roasting for us) and there was about 13 kids ranging from ages 4-11 all playing out and most of the girls were in those two-piece primark sets with the cycling shorts and matching vest crop. Including my 8yo DD. The only one that hadn't got changed from school looked uncomfortable af and flashed her knickers more times than I can count. I just genuinely don't see a problem with little girls bellies. The boys had no issue going "taps aff"! If men want to sexualise them that's their problem, not my DDs, and I think pedos will sexualise them regardless of what they're wearing so my DD can wear what makes her happy 🤷🏻‍♀️

I have raised my dd to wear whatever she feels good/comfortable in and my ds to never make a judgement about a women based on what she is or isn't wearing.
So yes, I absolutely would have let dd choose to wear that if she wanted to.

They are both fantastic adults. Dd is strong and full of confidence, ds is the same and treats the women in his life in a way that makes me feel immensely proud.

Yeah, my kids are an absolute credit to me too, but I wouldn’t have sent dd to nursery wearing that 😂

It’s not appropriate for children or for street wear for adults.

@Hannahsbananas
So passive aggressive, are you kids the same?

We need to stop policing what our girls wear. As parents and as a society.
Shame on anyone that does.

And why is it not appropriate?
Aside from sun protection issues, the only other feasible reason is totally wrapped up in sexualising young girls almost from birth
Why is it not appropriate for a young girl to show her midriff?
Because certain people may view it as 'sexy?

Society needs to stop blaming women for (predominantly) men's revolting behaviour.

I wasn’t being passive aggressive, I was calling out that post for the baloney it was.
Hth 😉

@Hannahsbananas
Do you think boys shroud dress 'appropriately' too or is it just girls?

Actually I'm not interested. You're clearly a 'tad' old fashioned in your ways!

Why do you keep picking on my posts? I didn’t use the word “inappropriate”, but several other posters have.
Maybe go and annoy them instead? 😘

Lol at being considered old fashioned for thinking that top is pure tat, though…

So many emojis!!

Wouldn't be allowed at my nursery, we change any child in strapped or sleeveless tops into a T-shirt due to the risk of sunburn, as per our policy. Parents are aware of this and asked to send them in in sleeves. There are always some who ignore it, usually the same parents who don't send in sun cream.

Wow a lot of mixed opinions on this thread. I didn't send her in it if anyone is interested. Mainly from the sunburn aspect as many of you correctly pointed out.

Looking at the label it's from Primark. It came in a huge mixed bag of free clothes.

It flashes a bit of tummy and shoulders. I appreciate in some cultures that that wouldn't be acceptable but there's objectively nothing explicit about bellybuttons or shoulders in anyone.

I don't think our tops were ever long enough to tuck in in the late 90s as a teen. Everything "sexual" was covered. And if men or lads got sexually aroused by bellybuttons, that's on them to police their own behaviour.

Pep and Co is Poundland

Ah yes you're right my mistake

Shoulders and tummies are not suitable in the workplace. Nursery and school are workplaces for children. What’s wrong with a gingham dress or polo and shorts instead?

Shoulders are perfectly fine in the workplace unless maybe you're in Saudi or work in a nunnery. Good Lord! Please alert the Church elders!! 🤣
Please let our children be young and innocent at least for a short time, they already grow up too quickly especially in the world of social media now 😒

It’s not a professional look, so it’ll depend where you work?
That top wouldn’t be an acceptable look anywhere I’ve ever worked, certainly.
But I don’t know what you do for a living.

Well obviously not that top, but shoulders are hardly offensive. I'm a Senior Manager and have worked in multiple industries, construction, health, finance etc that's never been an issue. I do vaguely remember in my very first job in an accountants office in my early 20s I was told by someone retiring about not showing my shoulders, that was about 20 years ago. I did anyway, and it didn't cause a stir.

Nursery is not a work place fgs.

And I day this as someone who's kids wear uniform to nursery.

Yeah and obviously this too 🤣 just imagining sending off DC in his tie and briefcase 😂