Would you let your 4 year old wear a bare midriff top to nursery?

[Miya24]

Received a top and short set from a bag of hand me down clothes. It's aged 3-4. My daughter loves it, it's waterproof material so it's great for water play in the garden. Nursery is having a water play day tomorrow and my daughter is desperate to wear it. It sits right above the belly button and has cold shoulders as well.
Would you send your daughter to nursery in it or would it raise a few eyebrows? I'm thinking it may be more beach wear but I have no idea. I may be overthinking but I'd love some more opinions.

A grown style woman’s top? No it’s not! No different to any short sleeve tank top that kids and adults alike wear.

Put something else underneath it?

God forbid anyone see the ankle or a 4 year old!

Nope. No need for 4 year olds to wear those tops.

This!!!!

Applying the same logic as dress down days at school (and even 6th form) we always get a letter saying crop tops are not acceptable school wear.

It has strawberries and lemons on it! It shows the (dare Ind even whisper it) shoulders. It's hardly full on Meghan Thee Stallion raunch culture. Since when have shoulders been sexualised?

Good luck to some of these parents when their child hits the teenage years and they can't control what they wear.

Crop tops are a no for me, but I'm very strict with what my children wear. I like children to look like children and not sexualised. Crop top, bikini's, short shorts etc are all a no.
I'm sure this is just me overthinking things.

Nobody wants to out and out say that pervy paedophilic men might find your child even sexier.

My 5 year old has just started asking about crop tops and I've said yes. I think she deserves an innocent childhood and to be shielded as long as possible from modifying her behaviour to avoid dangerous men (she will sadly have years of that as an adult female as we all know).

I dont know why people say no to crop tops and still put their kids on facebook where all sorts of weirdos mash pictures together to make and share indecent images

I guess this depends on the exact age of the teenager. 13,14,15 and 16 I would still say no. So many young girls are out their showing too much skin and too many parents seem to have given up parenting too early.

Whilst I disagree with your viewpoint (I allow those things) I praise you for being honest and just saying you are making the decision that feels right for you.

I feel similarly about social media - i know in all likelihood that no harm will come to my child from being on there but I'm just not comfortable with it. It's hard being a parent and having all these choices to navigate that didnt exist 50 years ago!

I know I dont need to reply to you directly but I think it's nice to just make the point that we are all people doing our best and it would be nice if this thread doesnt turn into bun fight about right and wrong, we are all just parents doing our best.

Just sunburn for me. We can monitor that but I was always a bit iffy when care providers have a load of kids at once. Not really fair on them.

It's a lovely outfit, maybe promise a special outing where she can wear it if you don't want her to wear it for nursery?

Hell no

My teenage (16) niece is always wearing tiny clothes and it makes me feel nostalgic!

I used to love wearing skimpy stuff and as an adult I appreciate that my parents never voiced an opinion on my clothing choices. In hindsight my fashion was embarrassing and at points probably not appropriate (tiny skirts to the supermarket, corset type things to family meals, the list goes on!)

Now at the grand age of 37 I dont even wear clothes that show cleavage! Time and personal tastes change and i think it's nice to let the youth have their moment :)

The only thing that makes it a "grown woman style" is the cold shoulders, the single least sexy adaptation to a piece of clothing ever. She's showing no more than she would in a vest top where the main priority is sun cover.

At that age, our nursery requested the kids to wear sun safe swim suits for water play in summer.

No OP,, mines 8 and she's not allowed a bikini or crop top.

Cold shoulders are not sexy. Neither are little girls tummies. There's nothing sexualised about a little one showing arms and a bit of tummy

I honestly think some people on here and in real life don't realise how inappropriate it is to dress kids in belly tops ect The reasoning behind why it's inappropriate without spelling it out. But I guess if you think mini skirts and bikini tops on children is fine then there is no point in saying anything it's a lost cause.!

Good luck to some of these parents when their child hits the teenage years and they can't control what they wear.

Who says it's about control though?

I'd like to think by the time mine are teenagers they'll know about sun safety, are old enough to take responsibility for wearing suncream or covering up, and are old enough to make their own decisions/live with the consequences of daft clothing choices, just like we all did in our teens.

Young children aren't teenagers. That's why as parents we make many decisions for them.

Where did I mention ankle covering? I simply do not see any reason why my own child would need to be walking round showing her stomach like something out of a bloody nightclub. You never know what creeps are watching children nowadays, camera phones etc. Aside the obvious some of us actually care about protecting our children's skin from the sun, I'd rather mine wore a rash vest and shorts and had adequate sun protection. But sure. Take the fucking piss out of me. My child has additional needs ffs. They are vulnerable enough without being dressed like this.

It's a cute top I'd let mine wear it but only not to nursery as it'd a nightmare for them putting sun cream on.
There are a lot of weird comments here about this being an adult style sexy top, are you joking? Are no sleeves allowed? Spaghetti straps? Stops just about belly button so maybe an inch of skin on show. It's hardly risque.
People who are responding in the extreme spouting about modesty etc are the ones who have big issues not the mother whos child wants to wear a pretty top. I wonder how many are ok with their sons running about with no shirt on at the beach or having a water fight or can only girls be sexualised?

I’m so confused by this thread! I don’t see why not, genuinely can’t see an issue in the slightest. DD (she’s 7) regularly wears leggings and crop tops, the sort of things she wears to gymnastics, because she finds it comfortable and can run about and do whatever in them.

Trashy 🤐