Hes taking a 45l hiking bag for hand luggage

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Were a family of 4, me, OH, DS 6, and LO baby.
Flying out tommrow I will have LOs changing bag with all his bits and bobs. DS will have his little backpack with spare change of clothes, teddy and colouring. OH usually takes a grey normal sized backpack where we put doucments, snacks and other bits as hand luggage. We've used the bag on other flights it's also wearable for both of us (even though he has this obsession of hanging everything off it.) We are also taking 2 hold luggage and stroller.

Earlier I told OH that we need to put something in the grey bag he said I'm taking my new bag, I asked which one he said it's in the other room, I went and had a look and it's a FUCKING 45L hiking bag with waist straps and just a monstrosity. I said we dont need such a big bag there barley enough seating room. Plus I will have baby in the baby carrier, so will struggle to carry other things. Especially If ASD DS6 has a meltdown and I have to carry him.

From the past few holidays Ive realised for us it's best not to have lots of hand luggage as we never get space in the overhead compartments despite how early we get to our seats, so we've had to put stuff under the seats. OH is also overweight and takes up a bit of extra room, he ends up squashing me most of the time, he always leaves his puffa coat on for the whole flight and just looks uncomfortable. He eventually takes it off but there never any space so he tries to shove it behind my seat for me to use as a cushion, which I dont want, as I'll be holding baby so less room anyway. I've tried to explain myself and the reasons but hes adamant hes going to take it.

I had sorted the bags on friday so everything was manageable but now last minute hes decided take that hideous hiking bag. Hes not packed a single thing, I've done everything, even packed his crap. I'm just fucking pissed off with this type of shit that he does. He always does random shit like this last minute. He doesnt even hike, he hates walking. He won't ever use that bag again. I'm just festering because i know exactly what will happen tomorrow because hes so predictable but as always it will end up being my fault.

I'm now planning to put the snacks into DS6 bag and I'll have the changing bag to hold and baby in sling. OH can hold his own shit, I swear I actually have no idea what he has put in the actual bag even though it weighs 7kg, I've not even put anything of mine in it, his water bottle and neck cushion is hanging off it, so have no idea what is actually in it.

He can't take that as hand luggage unless it meets the airline's guidelines. It generally has to be around a max of 50cm x 20 and no more than 10kg. (airlines vary !)

PerryMenno · Today 01:53
The bag doesn't actually look that big. Maybe it's just the photo

Yeah, it only looks about two inches high on my screen. I can't see what the problem is!

What are you going to do if/when he is told he can’t get on the plane with that as hand luggage?

@Earlystartsmakemegrumpy
Why do you need to quote OP’s original, quite lengthy post before making a comment? We have just read it.

hideous backpack check, poor executive function check, inappropriate coat use check… sounds like he himself is probably on the spectrum somewhere. (I work with undiagnosed / late diagnosed adult males).

I would do what you’ve done and keep anything important in the baby bag / the kids bags and leave as little to him as possible. That way if he gets told that he has to check hideous backpack into the hold or gets fined then he is the one that has to sort it out himself and you can wash your hands of it as much as possible.

He is obviously annoying, but if my partner started telling me to pack stuff in a case “weeks” in advance (why??) and telling me off for my choice of hand luggage I’d double down too.

He’s an adult. Let him pack and figure out bag size himself.

You see hilarious OP. He is a dickhead! Good luck and keep us posted. Say no to jacket cushion!!!

I think you're a little OTT about this. It looks like a fairly standard backpack to me.

As long as it’s within the allowed dimensions I don’t see an issue. He is a grown man and capable of choosing his own luggage. Maybe he wants more space inside rather than having things hang off it.

@Gotanygrapes84 100% I agree. He really does lack awareness in most situations

Watching with interest. 4 of us are flying with Jet2 in a few days and are all just taking a backpack which looks like the same size as OP's DH. All have been weighed and measured and fit the airlines guideline so hopefully all will be ok.

Good luck OP and enjoy your holiday.

Sorry I'm actually stuck on the puffa coat bit. Where are you going to that he needs a puffa coat and why does he wear it on the plane?

I don’t know why I’m so invested in Chronicles of a Dickhead. Especially as I could write my own Chronicle of a Knob, followed by Chronicle of an Even Bigger Knob.

Regardless, I do hope you manage to have some sort of à decent holiday.

(still sniggering at neck cushion. Is he 5?) 😀

Jeez, stop mothering your husband and allow him a bit of autonomy! He’s allowed to choose and pack his own bag. He’s an adult. If he packs the wrong things or has to sit being uncomfortable, that’s on him. But it’s not the end of the world. It’s certainly nothing to fester in bed about because you can’t face seeing him! Either there are LOTS of other marital issues and this is just a trigger for those, or you need to be a bit more gracious and grown up.

Maybe I'm missing something but that looks like pretty standard hand-luggage to me. Backpacks are better than suitcases as they can easily be squashed a bit to make sure they fit.

I've certainly travelled with baggage of that size before with no problems.

PP upthread said the bag is listed online as 60x36x26 and Jet2s hand luggage allowance is 56x35x25 so assuming it's not full and crushes down a bit it'll most likely be fine.

Honestly I think you're making a good deal of fuss over not very much in this instance OP. The refusal to pack for himself and whatnot being other issues of course.

Have a good holiday.

I’m very confused about wearing you’re going with Jet2 in June that requires DH to take a puffer jacket. But that bag looks alright for the overhead. And why are you telling him to pack weeks in advance? Just make sure none of your stuff is in it then it’s not your problem if it has to go in the hold. No big deal.

I have seen someone carrying a similar bag forced to check it in as hold luggage and pay an extortionate fee at the gate because the airline staff said it was too big for cabin baggage. I'm guessing that's what will happen here.

Why are you going on holiday with him? He sounds like a total pain. I hope he has other redeeming features and isn't like this in all areas of your relationship. You don't seem to like him or find him attractive.

My 40l wheelie suitcase has always been fine as jet2 hand luggage plus a small handbag.

@keikothewhale he needs to be ready for all eventualities just incase theres a blizzard in bodrum..🙄

@HoofWankingSpangleCunt PMSL

When my dd was 18 months old we went to stay with dh's parents in New York. I did all the baby packing, and ,own of course. We had a buggy, some toys, the gruffolo to read every night. Baby spoons. So much stuff.

We got there and it was so hot so I decided to get dd changed and put n some shorts or something myself. Dh unzipped his bag and inside he had some weights. Yes. WEIGHTS. No clothes. No shoes. Weights.

He's never admitted it but I think he thought I'd packed for him as I was arsing about for days.

He had to go out and get clothes.

Well the key is not overfilling it.

With a suitcase or even a holdall you just use something with the correct dimensions and you can fill it up knowing it'll fit.

With a backpack that exceeds the allowed dimensions you need to exercise some self control and not fill it all the way, and also make sure you don't pack any more in it before the journey home.

Otherwise you will find yourself at the airport, trying to wrestle your oversized backpack into the measuring box, panting, "It will fit, trust me", whilst a fed up looking member of staff who has seen it all before stands next to you saying, "No, it's too big, it has to fit without you forcing it, you will need to check your bag into the hold."

Can you not just let him take his bag and ignore him?

Huh? This is so bizarre. Why did he put the weights in his bag? Did he actually want the weights with him or was he expecting them to have disappeared and magically been replaced with clean, neatly folded clothes, shoes and toiletries?