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momager1 · 25/05/2023 20:52

long story, short.
husband and I took early retirement and sold our home in Canada. 7 weeks ago we moved to a condo that we had purchased previously (for our retirement) In Dominican Republic. 3 min walk to gorgeous bavaro beach, lots of quirky little eateries, Small condo complex but upscale with two large pools and 2 bbq gazebos with included gas bbqs and dining tables for the owners to use. SURPRISE. 3 couples that we have not had alot of socializing with have all sent messages this week. 1 looking to stay a week in august, 1 a week in October, and the other couple want to bring their two kids over CHRISTMAS!! I need to figure out a good response to them all. I did want to message back FUCK OFF but my husband thought it was a bit harsh haha. Couple one have always been good hosts as have we on the rare occasion that we have been in each others house ( and good dinner guests, including asking what they can bring and when i say nothing, they showed up with flowers and two bottles of wine as they didn't know what i was cooking, so a red and a white) Couple Two. had them over for a bbq once. nice enough people that lived in our culdesac, but showed up empty handed and then asked for some of the leftovers as she didn't have time to make anything for their packed lunches the next day (it was a lunch bbq over at 5 pm) Couple three. JUST NO. In the message they sent they said that they know it is just two bedrooms two baths, but the kids could sleep in the livingroom and share THEIR bathroom. And they were so looking forward to my cooking for the week as they are not in a position to eat out much !! ( I am a NOW RETIRED restaurant owning chef. NO NOPE NOPITY NOPE.
So. How do I word my messages back to them that does not include FUCK OFF ?

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momager1 · 25/05/2023 23:33

no replies yet but in fairness all these people are working until at least 5 in Canada. I am expecting them overnight lol

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Batalax · 25/05/2023 23:33

momager1 · 25/05/2023 23:26

oh @Batalax I was not asking for germoline OR taytos.. this CF wants BOTH

I’m going to flounce then! I’m not going to give you the great pleasure of my company if that’s the attitude you are taking.

Your loss!

momager1 · 25/05/2023 23:37

@Shynapple everyone that we knew in any real capacity in canada , knew that we came to Punta Cana at least 3 x a year. For the last 20 years we have been saying we would retire here. We DID (our bad) put it on social media when we bought this place last year. It had tenants from montreal in it until beginning of april. then we were gone. everything sold. house..cars..furniture lol. didnt take a genius to figure out were we went.

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weathervane1 · 25/05/2023 23:37

Just say that you having paying guests over during that period so sadly it isn't available.

momager1 · 25/05/2023 23:41

@weathervane1 I would be afraid that they would offer some money. I doubt it. But do not want to take the risk

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fifig87 · 25/05/2023 23:41

isitshe · 25/05/2023 22:57

Ooh @momager1 I was going to ask you Northern or Southern Tayto, then I saw your last post. Yellow all the way. Best crisps ever for a crisp sammich.

Yellow Tayto are vile! @momager1 I actually enjoyed eating a pack of proper Tayto reading this!
I can bring some over and proper Cadburys(again none of that northern crap!). No bother at all 😉

Amybelle88 · 25/05/2023 23:53

I am GOBSMACKED that people are that cheeky wow 😂😂🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

wheretonow123 · 26/05/2023 00:01

The lasagne sounds awesome - any chance of the recipe?

crackersforcrackers · 26/05/2023 00:03

Placemarking for the Mars bar cheesecake! Grin

vdbfamily · 26/05/2023 00:21

Send them a link to nearby accommodation and say it would be nice to meet up one evening if they are nearby.

MzHz · 26/05/2023 00:21

I too am intrigued by the recipes!

you’ve prompted me to scope out houses to buy in Grenada seeing as retirement is looking for us too :)

echt · 26/05/2023 00:32

What always amazes me about CFs such as No.3 is their proposing the use of the living room as a bedroom. It's massively inconvenient unless there are two living spaces, and in any case should be offered by the host. As for the the forewarning of their intention to freeload on the food front. Words fail me.

As an aside, I knew two chefs in RL and both rarely if ever cooked at home. Takeaway Central was their motto; they'd had quite enough at work.

Well done on asserting your right to retire in peace, OP.

shortandpaleandoldandugly · 26/05/2023 00:40

Can't wait to hear their repliesWink

momager1 · 26/05/2023 00:46

Nothing yet @shortandpaleandoldandugly going to sign off soon for the night as it is almost 8 pm here and we want to do a beach walk with the mutts. I will update tomorrow when I wake up and see if anyone responded

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Ihatepickingausername3 · 26/05/2023 00:52

Quite frankly I’d have said the same thing.

Peachy2005 · 26/05/2023 01:12

Presumably Northern Irish Tayto not Southern Irish Tayto…😂

OrderOfTheKookaburra · 26/05/2023 01:14

Ooh, sounds lovely! I'll take a shift on your sofa in the Dominican Republic if you'd like a spell on my sofa in Australia!!! 😬

Avocadot0ast · 26/05/2023 02:28

HouseOfRunners · 25/05/2023 20:56

Block.
Lovely sigh of relief.
Glass of wine 🍷

I’m going to need this on a t shirt 😆

excellently put just do above!

Newestname002 · 26/05/2023 02:29

vdbfamily · 26/05/2023 00:21

Send them a link to nearby accommodation and say it would be nice to meet up one evening if they are nearby.

Just be aware that they would very likely think you're paying for their meal... nip that thought very firmly! 🌹

Fraaahnces · 26/05/2023 03:00

Honestly think an ex-chef living in such an amazing place SHOULD charge a frigging fortune to rent out the spare room on air bnb so she can send a link to CF’s like the cul-de-sac CF’s and let them know that holiday rates are of course, even higher.

Perlosa · 26/05/2023 04:11

I just can't imagine wanting to be somewhere you would surely know you weren't fully welcome

Beaverbridge · 26/05/2023 05:16

Eagerly waiting an update from the cf, s. Ps. Love your doggies, they look happy in their new gaff.

ApolloandDaphne · 26/05/2023 05:53

Looks lovely there. Our dog adores the beach but ours is a cold east of Scotland one!

marblesthecat · 26/05/2023 06:36

flyingtherag · 25/05/2023 20:56

Just reply saying no that won't work for you as you're enjoying not hosting now you're retired.

This. Except I wouldn't even bother replying to couple #3.

Stellawella · 26/05/2023 06:51

What a fab thread!

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