Is this incredibly racist or am I being sensitive

[Restaurantlover]

Have had to nc as incredibly outing.

I enquired about a blossom tree installation in my restaurant, someone got back to me with a quote and I said great what’s his timescales. He let me know a date and I told him it would be suitable but nothing yet agreed.
Next thing I know he says he requires a 50% deposit because he’s ordered the blossom for the tree.
I never asked him to order the blossom, never agreed that the work would actually be done and certainly didn’t agree to give him 50% upfront.

I’ve had to block him as he is continuously ringing and messaging me and is just being plain nasty, to both my husband and I.

I think he’s gone a step too far with this Facebook post though, the reference to scrubbing korma pans and polishing shoes just gets to me, I feel he’s being racist, we have an Indian restaurant but I don’t actually go/work there so he’s obviously made that up to be spiteful.

I don't think its particularly racist is it?, it's a snarky comment aimed at your business, korma pans presumably are a thing one might wash up in an indian restaurant.
I'm an undertaker so someone might comment about seeing me polishing a coffin or somesuch.
He just sounds like a prick to be honest!

Well he was racist and she’s perfectly within her rights to not agree to go ahead with a business transaction if she doesn’t want to agree to the terms. Even if she had completely ruined his business, that doesn’t excuse racism.

Op, I agree his comments are horrible. But I also think a person like him would be horrible to a white person too in this scenario.

Why dont you report him to HMRC?

I like how you’ve made the business identifiable here when you were the one in the wrong initially by refusing to pay for a service you did actually agree to. Coming here to slag them off to a wider audience where they probably won’t see you do it. Hopefully someone sends them the link to this thread.

You agreed to the work and then backed out once it was time to pay up. How was he to know you are a time waster? I’m not surprised he’s pissed.

"Is this incredibly racist or am I being sensitive"
What's the point of this poll exactly?

Bloody hell you sound nuts.

OP, yes he's being racist but the BIGGER POINT here which you and everyone else seems to be ignoring is that if your messages with him could be reasonably taken to constitute a commission then he can take you to the small claims court. Plus, as I said upthread, it's bad PR for your other suppliers. So I'd focus on that first and foremost. You've said that your messages and conversations with him did not constitute a commission, so get your solicitor to put that in writing and get him to take the post down.

If you were offering a deposit that infers you had a contract?

OP you need to decide: is this incredibly racist as in the thread title or just subtly racist as you claim in your posts? Or its subtlety makes it incredibly racist?

It saddens me that you don’t see it.Its like racism has evolved so much, those of us it’s aimed at find it acceptable.

So why the thread then? You've asked if it's racist and you seem to think it is. No need to ask. If you think it is, it's valid to you.

It was after he asked for a 50% deposit, it was at the very end of our discussions, I told him he made no mention of requiring a 50% deposit and that was never agreed or even mentioned.
I said, for fairness to both of us, that 20% would seem more appropriate, then he started messaging and prank calling the restaurant. Sending nasty messages etc.

It was never that I didn’t want to pay, it was that I had presence of being a legitimate company and he didn’t, I didn’t want to be scammed.

Not really @notgojira it would infer they are negotiating terms of a contract not yet in place.

People were calling out his racism and that his post made no sense. He has deleted it now op it seems.

Why would anyone have to decide?! 😳

A sole trader doesn't need to be registered on companies house, or you don't have to trade with the same name. He may also earn below the VAT limit. He has a proper website (with history), with prices on, and a physical address on there in central London.

He comes across as a dick, but you screwed him around. You should have taken his first call and told him at that point you didn't want to pay for a deposit and as such wouldn't be proceeding. You have cost him money by ignoring him and pretending to be on holiday.

Thank you, I hadn’t seen he’s deleted his post. I’ve had a few messages of support which is nice. Hopefully thats the end of the matter.

I quite agree.

OP has expanded on the issue even more (after the 2nd time) and it shows they spoke at length and he was probably in the right to expect payment.

Seems to me its why OP isn't bothered about what else he's saying but wanting to know if he could be tagged racist or not.

What arse - and he posted this racist shit on his business Facebook page? Bonkers.

it looks like an order tbh but how could you even contemplate going through with it now if that’s what he posts.

your other suppliers won’t be affected at all. It’s a restaurant and suppliers are crying out for customers.

I hope someone does too.. 😉

Why did you pay a 20% deposit if you didn't want the tree?

I agree it was a racist comment. It reminded me of the Jade Goody ‘poppadum’ comment on Big Brother years ago. Sorry you had to deal with that OP.

Totally irrelevant but after some Facebook investigating I found your restaurant. Looks so good. Will deffo pay a visit next time I'm in the area (won't mention the drama though lol)

This is what I don't understand

People are weird when they declare "first time poster" , thinking tthey've done detective work, on a site where you can change names.