clairvoyant told me to expect pain

[Lilypad26]

I was attending a private event yesterday - in an upstairs area of a restaurant. As I came out of the loo there was a woman (not part of the party but had come upstairs from the general area of the restaurant to use the loo) stood chatting to my friend. I said hello assuming it was another guest from the party that I hadn’t met.

The new lady was crying, and said she was overcome with emotion because she could see how lovely my friends future was going to be and how someone who she’d lost was by her side. I was really taken aback as it had also let to my friend crying (she lost her husband a few years ago and mention of loss is very hard for her). My friend kept telling me to take down the new ladies number as she was brilliant, but I avoided this request when I realised she wasn’t part of the party.

When I realised it was just a random lady, I was polite but clearly eager to leave the room as it was evident both were pretty drunk. I don’t think I hid it very well that I was sceptical.

My friend then said “oh lily is getting married next week tell her if her life will be ok!” The random woman asked me to look into her eyes and although I did, I struggled to maintain eye contact as I wanted to leave.

The woman then started crying again said she was so overcome with emotion as she could see so much pain in my life. I was stood quite shocked and just said ok (whilst trying to dab my friends tears still as we were supposed to be at a happy event).

Now I’m lay awake unable to sleep as I keep thinking why would someone make this up?

I will be marrying the love of my life in 5 days and this is not what I needed to be thinking about. AIBU to still be thinking about it?

WS about to say what @PinkButtercups said. Pissed woman seeking attention latches on to your friend’s vulnerability with some generic Woo. When you appear @Lilypad26 she’s not quite drunk enough to miss your scepticism and so decides to tell you any old bollocks as long as it’s negative to teach you a lesson. You should have said, “I’m able to see into your future too. Just moments from now I see a negative event for you when someone tells you to fuck off and stick your nonsense where the sun doesn’t shine”.

Obviously a lunatic. As they all are.

Sounds like typical wedding shoes to me. Think about wearing trainers instead!

She was a drunk emotional leech. Make sure your friend is OK. Move on.

Completely agree with PP that your appearance at your vulnerable friend’s side and your completely understandable skepticism and instinct to protect your friend will have irritated her, and I think she’s said this to upset you. She may have also hoped you’d end up paying for a more in depth reading to learn more. She sounds horrible, I don’t believe in this stuff at all but this would still really upset me, so I do get it, and she’ll know this. No one can know for sure what the future will look like, all we can do is make the best decisions we can in the present, and treat other people with kindness and respect as we do so- another skill she clearly lacks. Please don’t think any more of this. Enjoy your wedding!

It's clairvoyancy clickbait.

Outrageous that she said anything at all to you when you hadn't asked her opinion. She was probably touting for business by saying something that she knew you'd want more information on.

So pleased you've found the love of your life and are marrying him soon. Focus on that and put this random drunkard's ambiguous ramblings the hell of your mind!

'You're going to experience pain in the very immediate future if you don't fuck off'

She sounds like a dick! A drunken idiot!

Your response makes so much sense. When my friend told me to take own the ladies number for her she must of seen it as an opportunity to charge my friend money but I didn’t hide that it there was zero chance I was doing that.

Thank you!

I wish I’d had the guts to say that!

I wish I’d had the guts to say that!

Ha, she was clearly punishing you for being sceptical of her 'gift'
I bet if you'd been mooooooooved and let a tear out, she'd have seen your future through a rosier lens.

Laugh it off. I went to see a medium (so he claimed) in London years ago. I'm not from the UK and the ludicrous stereotypes he spewed out made me laugh (or have a seriously? expression on my face) and then because he was embarrassed to be so ignorant, he told me i as closed off and shut down and repressed. He told me he had a policy of offering a refund to repressed closed-minded people and would I like to avail of that. ''Thank you yes'' I said so I got my money back. I think my friend was jealous.

Watch the new derren brown on ch4
He has always said how mind readers and fortune tellers are rubbish but he does a thing where he does similar but he's reading people's unconscious cues, very clever but it's not future telling.
I would just try and forget that, also what kind of fortune teller goes so negative!

These people are charlatans and make money preying off the gullible. Just ignore.

This really.

This person wants to make money. They want you to pay for the service so they can tell you what "pain" it is. It's a load of rubbish. Ignore it and enjoy your happy future with your new husband.

It’s a very vague thing to predict. As charlatan’s psychic’s predictions usually are. Most people experience pain at some point in their lives.

Please don’t give this any more headspace.

All clairvoyants are either complete and utter charlatans or deluded. Why would she make it up? Either because she gets a kick out of that kind of attention or she’s mentally unwell. Have an amazing wedding day and don’t give it another thought.

Sounds like she was burbling a load of old shite, OP. Don't let people like this upset you.

Don’t give it another thought. These people are either lying or mentally ill (ask Tim Minchin) and it’s pretty clear that she picked up on your scepticism and took her nasty, petty revenge.

I had a work colleague who genuinely believed she's psychic.

She told me I'd have three kids. I have two. Said my husband would run his own business, have staff, drive an Audi. I'd work in this business too, and not have to worry about money. Also told me MIL would inherit/win pots of money. Fifteen years later & none of it has happened, nor will it. Just glad I didn't take it seriously.

I'd file it for a funny story for retelling another time & go have an awesome wedding and life! Your future is unwritten.

OP - she’s clearly not a clairvoyant, if she was she would have known that you cannot tell a person that their future holds pain because it’s mind programming. Whatever was brought to your attention is brought to existence. Like in matrix (not sure if you watched it) when the oracle told neo not to worry about the vase. He then proceeded to break it and the oracle replied ‘I told you don’t worry about it. But the real question is would you have broken it if I didn’t say anything?’.
basically, what I’m saying that there are a lot of lunatics around. Some people can relate to what these lunatics are saying. Like with horoscope, it’s so generic. To be honest, ‘I see pain in your future’ is quite generic too. We all will go through times of pain, there’s no way around it. It’s part of the parcel. Don’t program yourself to expect pain though and do not extrapolate this ‘prediction’ to your upcoming marriage. The future is always omnivariant. Nothing is ever set in stone as you can shift between realities depending on what you focus on.

Horrible woman!

She gave your friend a good and tempting prediction (though vague) and when you showed signs of keeping the friend away from paying for future predictions, you were punished with a bad one.

Your prediction was so vague as to be meaningless: everyone has pain in their lives.
(The Princess Bride quote: ''life is pain Highness, and anyone who tells you otherwise is selling simething'' )

If this drunken woman manages to spoil your life with worry then she has actually created pain for you and got revenge (for possible loss of income from her chosen sucker that night).

I agree with above that she is a charlatan.
Perhaps make use of her by making a point of noting and enjoying every non-painful moment ahead.

If you never saw any black swans it doesn’t mean they do not exist. It’s a category that cannot be empirically quantified therefore fair play to say they might exist but you never encountered one 😉

25 years ago I was told by a clairvoyant that I’d be coming into a great deal of money soon . Today I’m counting down to pay day, my whole house (council tenant) needs decorating but I can’t afford it and I have an old banger of a car . I wish I could have the £20 back that I gave the clairvoyant to tell me this nonsense . Ignore it and enjoy your wedding .

Guess what? I'm a clairvoyant too. It's not a protected term so tbh let's all be clairvoyants!

I can see that your life will have a mixture of joy and sorrow.

That's because you're a human being and live in the world.

Consider me infallible on this point ;-)