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clairvoyant told me to expect pain

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Lilypad26 · 14/05/2023 02:38

I was attending a private event yesterday - in an upstairs area of a restaurant. As I came out of the loo there was a woman (not part of the party but had come upstairs from the general area of the restaurant to use the loo) stood chatting to my friend. I said hello assuming it was another guest from the party that I hadn’t met.

The new lady was crying, and said she was overcome with emotion because she could see how lovely my friends future was going to be and how someone who she’d lost was by her side. I was really taken aback as it had also let to my friend crying (she lost her husband a few years ago and mention of loss is very hard for her). My friend kept telling me to take down the new ladies number as she was brilliant, but I avoided this request when I realised she wasn’t part of the party.

When I realised it was just a random lady, I was polite but clearly eager to leave the room as it was evident both were pretty drunk. I don’t think I hid it very well that I was sceptical.

My friend then said “oh lily is getting married next week tell her if her life will be ok!” The random woman asked me to look into her eyes and although I did, I struggled to maintain eye contact as I wanted to leave.

The woman then started crying again said she was so overcome with emotion as she could see so much pain in my life. I was stood quite shocked and just said ok (whilst trying to dab my friends tears still as we were supposed to be at a happy event).

Now I’m lay awake unable to sleep as I keep thinking why would someone make this up?

I will be marrying the love of my life in 5 days and this is not what I needed to be thinking about. AIBU to still be thinking about it?

OP posts:
GoodChat · 14/05/2023 04:51

She was probably on something

WiddlinDiddlin · 14/05/2023 04:52

Oh what a load of shit.

She was preying on your vulnerable friend, its an easy guess that most people have lost someone in their lives by the time they're an adult.

I bet at least ten people on this thread have lost either a parent, partner, sibling, child, friend or even pet, which the phrase: 'someone you have lost is by your side'. I could count parent, umpteen dogs, grandma, auntie, several friends and a cat in that category!

As for pain, again statistically, live long enough and something shitty will happen, emotionally, physically, financially. Again I could count a handful of events in my life that fit that statement.

We could all make predictions for anyone in this thread and if we stick to common stuff, chances are we'll be right.

I bet someone in this thread has a relative with a name beginning with J, they want to let you know they're alright, and everything will be fine. You have some tricky stuff to deal with soon but someone will be by your side to help you through.

S'all bollocks. Stop renting this woman space inside your mind and go to sleep!

Hal9001 · 14/05/2023 05:06

Well, people make shit up, that's your no 1 take. They make shit up. You've had advice from 'clairvoyants' or believers on this thread.

None of that's real.

I mean, you will absolutely feel some pain. Because that's life. A little rain and all that.

Will your husband to be cause you pain? I don't know. Maybe your 'sensitivity' is because you know deep down he's not great OR
maybe people are pulling your chain.

Don't listen to people who claim to know things about you.

If you feel in some way that they're telling you 'something' ask yourself why.

It's not because they're psychic, but they may be tapping into a vulnerability. That's what you need to examine.

RebeccaCloud9 · 14/05/2023 05:17

Ugh, 'clairvoyants' are all just lying bullshitters who make it all up. At best, they are entertaining and can provide some comfort to those who buy into it and are told nice things. At worst, they are cruel scam artists. She was drunk, and pissed off that you weren't fawning over her like your poor friend was.

RebeccaCloud9 · 14/05/2023 05:19

(if you want to believe her/put your mind at rest, do you want kids? Childbirth is painful, could that be in your future?)

justprance · 14/05/2023 05:36

What a cow bag!!!!!

I saw a clairvoyant once (I paid for it!) who told me that I would meet the love of my life soon and have a daughter.

(I had just gotten married 6 months earlier and was pregnant with DS1. Had 4 in total.)

No harm, no foul.

However, the clairvoyant who told a close family member that despite their infertility and failed IVF attempts, they would definitely saw them with a baby in their future, and kept reassuring them that it would happen, I wish nothing but pain on that person. They instilled false hope on a very obvious vulnerability that went against all medical findings that my relative was having a very hard to digest.

Creepyrosemary · 14/05/2023 06:09

You're getting married, maybe you want to birth children? There, there is your pain. The odds of you having a painless life are none. But you'll probably have a happy life.

She probably overheard another guest talking about the brides loss and made up the rest. Some people love to suck drama and energy out of other people. No sane person will predict you bad in your life.

Creepyrosemary · 14/05/2023 06:10

I was predicted three children. I have one and am middle aged enough to not expect two more!

Vegetus · 14/05/2023 06:32

HabitatRat · 14/05/2023 04:36

The look into my eyes thing is a bit weird. Clairvoyants go by energy, and any one who is genuine (they do exist), wouldn't just go up to random person, especially whilst drunk.
I've seen future events in my own life. I have done since I was a kid, but if I started seeing someone else's, I wouldn't just go up to them and tell them. You just don't do that.

They do not exist FFS 😂 the shit some people will believe is fascinating.

Mummyoflittledragon · 14/05/2023 06:35

When I was a teen, my aunt paid for a reading. I was told I’d marry a man with a name starting with V. I’ve been with dh for about 30 years now. His name does not start with a V.

YukoandHiro · 14/05/2023 06:44

It's a load of bullshit OP. She might believe what she's saying but even if she does it's still a crock of shit so please don't give it a second thought

georgarina · 14/05/2023 06:46

I went to a psychic who said I would become a lawyer and have twin boys at 30.

(No and no)

SpinMeRightRoundBabyRightRound · 14/05/2023 06:47

Sounds like she could tell you were sceptical and wanted to get a dig in for that. Write her off as a spiteful drunk…

SparklyBlackKitten · 14/05/2023 06:49

She predicts pain in your future?and that a person your friend has lost is by her side
Bhahhahha. Couldn't say more generic shit than that . Thats not a clairvoyant that's a con artist 😆

Quveas · 14/05/2023 06:50

Absolutely everybody has lost someone important to them. Absolutely everybody has some pain in their life. That isn't clairvoyance. It's obvious facts. Nobody can see the future. It's rubbish.

SparklyBlackKitten · 14/05/2023 06:51

She probably feeds of getting reactions from gullible people

Seriously op . Forget her.
This is a bunch of nonsense. Of course you experience a lot of pain. We all will over time . And we all have lost someone at some stage .
This lady is nothing more than a stain on a nice evening

Oysterbabe · 14/05/2023 06:54

Ignore the ridiculous, pissed bint and enjoy your wedding.

Hal9001 · 14/05/2023 06:55

Mummyoflittledragon · 14/05/2023 06:35

When I was a teen, my aunt paid for a reading. I was told I’d marry a man with a name starting with V. I’ve been with dh for about 30 years now. His name does not start with a V.

Where the fuck is Victor??

WHY hasn't he impinged upon your life???

EmptyItNow · 14/05/2023 07:00

Nov

EmptyItNow · 14/05/2023 07:01

EmptyItNow · 14/05/2023 07:00

Nov

Oops. Early posting.

Nobody can tell the future. That is all you need to know. Do move on from this encounter with a random drunk. And happy wedding!

MayThe4th · 14/05/2023 07:03

There is no such thing as being able to see the future. Even people who believe that they can are wrong. They can’t.

if you have a gut feeling that something is going to happen and it does, you will cling to that one thing as proof that you can see the future, instead of remembering the other 999 times when nothing happened.

clairvoyants fall into two categories. Charlatans, and delusional idiots. There’s no such thing as clairvoyance.

PinkButtercups · 14/05/2023 07:10

Because you were stand-off(ish) she wanted you to feel uncomfortable for you to ask her 'why so much pain?'. Just ignore her and enjoy your wedding.

schnauzerbeard · 14/05/2023 07:12

I wouldn't even give it a second thought.

Alwaystheweather · 14/05/2023 07:12

There are no clairvoyants. It’s really, really easy to test the reality of clairvoyance using proper controlled experiments, for obvious reasons, and no clairvoyants have ever passed that test.

No one can tell the future.

Random lady was in pain herself, when people are in pain they see pain and threat. Because this lady thinks she is a clairvoyant, her psychology, in her state of pain, made her think she could see pain in your life. But in reality, all she was doing was reflecting her own emotional state and what was happening in her own life.

Train yourself to to remind yourself future reading is fiction, and to let the memory go, every time it comes into your head.

MrsSkylerWhite · 14/05/2023 07:14

Please don’t take any notice of such nonsense.

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