My parents own two houses (one they live in and the other they rent out). The mortgage on the house they rent out is coming to an end and my parents have been deciding if they want to keep their current tenants or sell up. That was until today when my dad mentioned 'gifting' the house to my sister (aged 20) as another option. Obviously I know that the house belongs to my parents and they are free to do whatever they want with it, but I couldn't help feeling upset about this.
I'm 27 and bought my property aged 25 through hard work and years of saving, so I feel that it is unfair that I had to work so hard to buy my house and my sister just gets gifted with one. My sister could sense I was a bit annoyed over the situation and said something along the lines of 'I don't know what your problem is, you already have your own house'
So, AIBU unreasonable for feeling a bit pissed off that my sister may be given a house basically for free when I had to work so hard for mine?
AIBU?
To be upset about my sister being given a house by my parents
mammamia77 · 13/05/2023 20:44
firsttimemumggg · 13/05/2023 22:55
You worked hard for how many years to save how much?
mammamia77 · 13/05/2023 22:34
@Verbena17 yes maybe their current house may be left to me when they die, but that could be many years away so I've still got years ahead of me of paying my mortgage while my sister lives stress free in a paid off house
mammamia77 · 13/05/2023 22:11
@Maireas I do appreciate that I'm fortunate to have been able to afford a house at 25, but it wasn't that difficult tbh... I lived at home after uni and put around £400-£500 in my savings accounts each month for four years. I also had an ISA account and was given 25% of the amount I had in there. I then bought a home that wasn't very expensive in a cheap area. I'd say that if you live at home for a bit, buying a house mid twenties is very doable.
Trixibella · 13/05/2023 23:06
They weren’t assumptions they were questions. How about if your parents gift her the house and she pays them “rent” til she’s bought it off them? Is that better? Then they get the money, not the bank.
Sissynova · 13/05/2023 21:01
I mean you are a lot more fortunate than you think if you viewing buying a house at 25 to be slaving away saving for years.
You’re only in your 20s and your sister is only 20. Is there actually any reason to think it won’t balance out over time?
I don’t think things need to happen at complete equal times for siblings for things to be fair.
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stayathomer · 13/05/2023 23:19
Op, even if your sister does exactly what you did, the changes now in both cost of living and cost of houses make it very possible she won’t be able to buy a house as you did. Also I don’t get all the posters saying they’d never ‘do that’ to their children. Honestly if you had a struggling child and a non struggling child and you couldn’t give the same to both you’d really not even up the score? I think anyone who said ‘no we helped ds1 out a little, we’ll help ds2 out the same amount and let her try and just figure it all out somehow’ may think differently if it happened irl. Op as someone whose parent didn’t speak to their family for years over a will and now relived practically the same thing as an adult and is only just back talking to their sibling- IT IS NOT WORTH IT. Its an absolute abyss of bitterness and sadness
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