To keep my son off school.

[ThankYouMama]

GM.

My partner has been admitted into hospital for treatment for his OCD.

Our 6 year old son is upset and confused, our 17 month old is staying at my partners mother until he has finished his treatment and is feeling better.

Yesterday he behaved pretty badly, and is refusing to go to school today. I really don't want to send him, because I don't know how he is going to behave whilst there, and I will probably be on edge for the whole day

What So have you only had severe anxiety for a couple of days then, why wasn't u already on meds. This makes no sense

Why is it ridiculous? You've made it clear you long for a daughter. Why wouldn't you try again when you're young, money isn't an issue, your oldest is at school all day, and you have other people to look after your extra boy for you.

I thought the same. The 6 year old already asked to go with brother to his nans why don't you let him go so you can take time to sort yourself out too.

@Weedoormatnomore

He has to go to school, my partners mother doesn't live local to us.

This thread is quite sad really.

You need support. Your attitude towards your children because of the sex they are is very concerning.
You don't seem to see any issues with sending your other child to live with your inlaws.
You have accepted no responsibility for not safeguarding your children against your partners abusive behaviour (whatever the cause).

Start the medication and seeing your life from an outside point of view.

I experienced that too, it really affected me.

I got anxiety medication as a single mother. I took it because I had to be the best mother for my children and I wasn't that when I was so anxious.

I am not going to take medication, therapy is my medication.

I am not going to start taking it because people here have told me to, I have my own mind!

I am not going to start taking it because people here have told me to, I have my own mind!
Don't take it because people on Mumsnet said so.

Take it because you've acknowledged yourself that you currently cannot provide a safe and stable environment for your children and they deserve a happy and healthy home environment.

Or to put it another way, how much harm should your children continue to come to because you don't want to take appropriate medication?

Those poor children. Hopefully school have already started to flag up the 6 year old issues and maybe a TAF is needed or you could consider if your mil would have your other dc too? Sounds like better off elsewhere abd you're not the main carer, try to think about the boys not you.

I don't actually think anyone is trying to piss you off OP, I think most of the replies are worried that you don't seem to think your current situation is at all worrying, please remember social services aren't there just to take kids away from the bad parents, they are there for family support and it sounds like you could do with some professional support at the moment.
Your children BOTH need you, and for the minute, yes, your baby is fine at your in-laws but you need to start working on him coming home in the next few days even if that means that your friends/family/in laws etc keep a regular check on you all, what is it that you struggle with when having both together as I'm sure if you advised what it is then there would be someone here who could help you to sort a plan to break those issues down at a speed you can cope with.
It's not easy living with someone with mental health issues, nor is it easy to live with your own, but you owe it to your children to be the best version of yourself and that involves loving and caring for them equally.
I hope you reach out for some help with things, your partner may well be in hospital for a while, this could well be the opportunity you needed to sort things out with both children, your home and any cleaning/day to day jobs that need doing. Don't forget OP baby steps are still steps they just need to be going in the right direction.

Sounds like SS need to step in.

You said that my username was creepy no? creepy in which way?

Again, ThankYouMama is a book that I read to my baby.

To think a username is creepy without explaining why, tells me that you have a sick/warped mind, because you're the only one here that has commented on it.

Please do not comment again.

Yes, it’s a book about teaching children gratitude to their mother, amongst other things. As I said, creepy. It doesn’t seem that your poor boys have a great deal to be grateful for, frankly.

Please don’t tell me what I may or may not comment on.

Sort yourself out and be a parent.

You can't control who comments here. That's not how mumsnet works.

the fact you jump on this post speaks volumes and not in a good way
your baby is not even with you right now

Why did you bother getting medication if you weren't going to take it?

You don't have to choose between therapy and meds @ThankYouMama , the best results come from doing both together. Medication is evidence based.