To keep my son off school.

[ThankYouMama]

GM.

My partner has been admitted into hospital for treatment for his OCD.

Our 6 year old son is upset and confused, our 17 month old is staying at my partners mother until he has finished his treatment and is feeling better.

Yesterday he behaved pretty badly, and is refusing to go to school today. I really don't want to send him, because I don't know how he is going to behave whilst there, and I will probably be on edge for the whole day

Yes. The OP is not being entirely truthful about why she leaves the younger boy all day with her husband. She has said that it's because she cannot cope with two DC. But actually, the older child is at school anyway, and the reason she gave before for not looking after the younger boy was that she couldn't look after two simultaneously. Apparently the DP thinks this.

And yet - she claims that is the younger child was a girl she would be okay with looking after her.

I do not understand.

Sadly, I have to agree with this.

You both are abusive and dysfunctional and I feel sorry for your children. There is something very disturbing happening in your home and your children need to be protected from both of you.

It all sounds very difficult. I hope your son had a good day at school. As others have said a routine will be really good for him and for you too.

Sometimes anxiety can affect bonding with your baby, but with your partner in hospital and so that stress taken away, maybe you will be able to increase your bond. Your partner could be in hospital for months so it would be good to work towards having the baby back with you. You could take him out now without your partner inspecting him on return.

Good luck 💐

There are more types of abuse than physical abuse. Your partner has OCD to a level requiring hospitalisation, you cannot manage both children in your own, you have severe anxiety, you want to keep your son off school for fear of Social Services involvement and to make yourself feel better - these are all forms of abuse. You need to be asking for support for Authorities, not trying to hide from them. I’m a Designated Safeguarding Officer and have previously been a Social Worker, if I could identify you, I’d report this situation.

Thank you @Leapintothelightning really hope the kids get help. On them posts she mentioned 6 year old running away from her and how she got really anxious about taking the 17 mth old out for couple of hours on her own !

OP, have you taken your oldest child to the doctor about his obsessions, as you said you were going to?

What I don't get is how the hell 2 people without jobs can afford to live in Central London, shop in Harrods and book the priory. OP, you say you've never claimed to be wealthy but you must be to live your lifestyle!

This is all very very sad. In a way I hope that SS do get involved, because I think all four of you need support.

well this is quite the read

OP has claimed to be independently wealthy on her other threads.
She also says that her partner is wealthy.

Neither of them work. Apparently they both inherited money.

@ThankYouMama you have said in your previous thread that you have a degree in Psychology.One of your issues is that you feel unable to manage both children outside the house and that you need parenting classes .

Below is from your other thread

Sometimes he runs away from me whilst outside, I always think to myself what if he was to do it when I have the baby with me.

He does not understand that every time we to the supermarket or a shopping centre it doesn't mean that he has to get a toy/roblox/fornite voucher. There has been times when I have said "NO" and he gets upset and refuses to move, or he will not get back into the car ☹️

I can only admit, I am a very soft parent, I do not enforce any kind of discipline, outsiders would say that our 6 year old is very spoilt

How have you got to your 20s and done a university degree in Psychology without realising that children need some boundaries ?That if you bribe and give them every thing they want then you have created the situation of them not understanding ,and being difficult . You will be creating immense difficulties for your children if you remain a "very soft parent".It's up to you to help him understand that every trip to the supermarket doesn't involve a treat .
Are you an only child ?

So you leave the baby home with hima dn dow hat?

Yeah, it sounds all kinds of wrong. At first I was going to ask you why on earth you don't go and retrieve your son from your MIL, but with this extra information I think he's probably much better off where he is.

I hope SS do get wind of how you and your husband are mistreating your children. It sickens me.

Also @ThankYouMama I do think your circumstances are very unusual and will enable other people who may also use MN to identify you .So sadly I think you will need to ask MN to delete the two threads .
Unless you don't mind being recognised ,maybe you don't ? You're not guilty of anything ,other than being out of touch with reality .And it seems -maybe because of upbringing /culture /lack of support - that couldn't be avoided .

Typical of "money", sadly. "I want, therefore I shall have".

Still, on the plus side, I expect she's minted enough to pay for the years of therapy they're going to require to get over this.

Thank you, I appreciate your kindness 🌺

I am home now, my eldest son had a good day at school, I bought us some food from outside which he refused to eat, despite choosing it himself.

Hopefully it will be a struggle getting him to go to bed this evening.

Hopefully ?

obviously she means "hopefully it won't "

@ThankYouMama good luck tonight .It is really hard with little ones .

Good luck tonight love ❤️ its worth mentioning to the school his dads away for now so they can give extra TLC too x

Thanks for correcting me, it's been a long day, I didn't get much sleep last night.

Thanks, yes I'll tell them tomorrow.

How was your younger boy when you went to see him?