To keep my son off school.

[ThankYouMama]

GM.

My partner has been admitted into hospital for treatment for his OCD.

Our 6 year old son is upset and confused, our 17 month old is staying at my partners mother until he has finished his treatment and is feeling better.

Yesterday he behaved pretty badly, and is refusing to go to school today. I really don't want to send him, because I don't know how he is going to behave whilst there, and I will probably be on edge for the whole day

Apparently not.
The OP says she has plenty of her own inherited wealth.
A match made in heaven.

How odd

Well, I was desperate for a baby and he ticked all the boxes at the time, looks wise and personality,
A 17 yr old was perfect father material?? Jesus wept 🙄

I have a few threads on here, if you had taken the time out to read them then you wouldn't be accusing me.
@ThankYouMama ,or anyone else ,could you link to these?

What a complete mess

This is actually triggering my anxiety reading this !
obviously we don’t know the full picture but the overwhelming majority of advice is the same.
Get your own help as soon as you can
And take some responsibility for how your boys are growing up.
I went through some extremely difficult therapy/counselling and my ds was my driving force. Our situations are different in that I was aware of what was going on and I didn’t want history to repeat itself. Im not sure you fully understand your own situation. Trust me these early years are what are going to shape these tiny humans. These boys are going to be MEN. I have 2 ds and strive to do my job well enough that they are able to have healthy relationships when they are adults and live a full and happy life. What do you hope for? x

www.mumsnet.com/talk/feeling_depressed/4796505-partners-ocd

OP's posts on this one are really quite telling

There is so much wrong here it's difficult to know where to start.

Two dysfunctional people get together and create an unholy mess involving two innocent children.

It's the saddest thing I've read in a long time.

Yes, she says this because she is paranoid when the partner doesn't answer his phone when he's out.
He says he hasn't cheated but she doesn't believe him. She has no evidence that he's cheated. She just thinks he has.
Who knows?

wow - that was quite a read.

I'm not sure your relationship is actually good for your DP mental health or yours.

This is totally fucked up. Your poor kids.

@TheShellBeach Oh crikey.

That's legal and completely normal, seriously it's a three year gap why is everyone making op out like she's a pedo? I had my son when I was 16 so sorry if I don't understand why everyone is pitying dad
I also don't understand why everyone is assuming she's rich just because she mentioned going in Harrods she didn't actually say she was buying anything. Have none of you ever just gone around a big department store just looking for fun.
Anyway OP I think you need to sort your head out maybe go to the doctor's if your this anxious it's affecting your life. Also it's not your son's fault he wasn't born a girl you need to accept that and look after him properly

I think the issue isn't as much a 20 year old dating a 17 year old, but a 20 year old spotting a 17 year old with already established mental health problems, and deciding that said 17 year old was just the perfect person to immediately have a baby with.

I'm sure your 17mth old finds it very overwhelming to be away from both of his parents as well. Especially as he can't understand what is going on.

We are not assuming she is rich - she has told us on her previous thread. She lives in central London and has enough inherited wealth to mean she can afford never to work.

She’s “rich” because she doesn’t work/has never worked and is living off an inheritance that is enough to keep her for life without ever having to work (info from a previous thread)

I'm sorry for your situation but I remember your last post
Do you think the situation with DP is the cause of your anxiety?
While DP is away gives you a breathing space to build up your own coping strategies.
Do you take medication for your anxiety?
I coped with mine by desensitising myself to situations very gradually( including agarophobia) because I had 3 DC to care for.
Seek help for yourself so you can give your DC the best childhood possible
When you're feeling stronger think about your relationship with DP
Both partners with enduring Mental Illness is not good
And please get your baby back
Its unfair on your 6 year old
Believe me, I get it, but don't let anxiety rule your lives

Just realised I missed the bit where you really wanted a girl as that would be easier
If this is even real... You need a bed in the Priory too

OP It's very worrying that you don't feel able to look after your baby because he isn't a girl.

Can you explain why having a daughter would be different? How is it you can state so positively that you'd keep your baby with you all day if she was a girl but feel you cannot because he is a boy? Because it doesn't make sense at all.

Presumably you leave the younger one at home then because he's a boy not because you can't cope.

Otherwise you'd drop the oldest at school & keep the youngest with you rather then leave him to cope with an adult that you can't cope with.

That is absolutely disgraceful.