Two children in and I am tired! Had both on the cusp of 40, several years later and a very little bit of normality is returning to our lives.
Cue the wife suggesting/saying we should have another.
I don't want another. I have thrown in arguments around practicalities, financials, time available for the children etc.
Problem is I managed to get an 80k+ WFH job 18 months ago, so time and money isn't the strong argument it once was. We are a true 50/50 couple around the children, housework etc.
I can't use my real reason - my real reason is that I dont really enjoy being a parent that much. Now I know every reason is valid but a quick search on that topic on here and looking at the responses from women on it if I say that it will go down like a cold sack of shit.
Are there any other reasons I can throw in that aren't going to send the wife mad? I have already steeled myself to a few years of resentment over not having a third and have already made preparations for the snip but if I drop the parenting line that will create a whole other huge issue.