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To think less of dh because he voted for Brexit and reads The Daily Mail?

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Pineda · 06/05/2023 21:27

I know the Brexit vote was years ago but it really made me lose respect for dh. Obviously we've moved on, but he doesn't read a newspaper apart from the Mail online, is obsessed with tiktok and had no idea who the Archbishop of Canterbury was today. He's in his early 50s. I'm not a pretentious arse but I read a newspaper daily and have a pretty good grasp of politics. I'm beginning to feel as though we don't have much in common. We've been together for 30 years!

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Pineda · 06/05/2023 23:22

SleazyLizzard · 06/05/2023 23:21

I’m glad he’s reading the Daily Mail, it’s a paper which champions women’s rights.

Ugh

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quietnightmare · 06/05/2023 23:23

@Pineda
Only because you 'allow it'

Kendodd · 06/05/2023 23:23

Kiwivicjules · 06/05/2023 23:19

I voted Brexit thinking that the NHS would be better off . I didn’t do my homework and have regretted my vote for many years . I definitely was ignorant but didn’t realise it at the time 🤷‍♀️

Did you also vote to 'get Brexit done' in 2019?

BonnieLisbon · 06/05/2023 23:23

I'd rather be single. Sorry.

Kiwivicjules · 06/05/2023 23:24

Pineda · 06/05/2023 23:20

Tbf this is what dh thinks. I know he regrets it but deep down I think it was so stupid I can't get past it.

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Yes I made a stupid choice but I genuinely at the time with a million other problems thought it was the right vote…I am not stupid 🙄

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Pineda · 06/05/2023 23:24

quietnightmare · 06/05/2023 23:23

@Pineda
Only because you 'allow it'

No, he's never asked for permission to wipe his own bum. That's just something you've made up in your head.

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Kendodd · 06/05/2023 23:25

SleazyLizzard · 06/05/2023 23:21

I’m glad he’s reading the Daily Mail, it’s a paper which champions women’s rights.

So does Putin.
Big fan of him as well?

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Pineda · 06/05/2023 23:25

Kiwivicjules · 06/05/2023 23:24

Yes I made a stupid choice but I genuinely at the time with a million other problems thought it was the right vote…I am not stupid 🙄

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I didn't say you were. Dh isn't stupid really. But it was a stupid thing to do.

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blacksax · 06/05/2023 23:26

I think less of anyone who reads the Daily Mail, irrespective of how they vote.

CosyFanTucci · 06/05/2023 23:26

It’s impossible not to lose respect for someone who voted for Brexit. The Daily Mail has a supernatural skill at pandering to people’s lowest instincts - it poisons people. Both are a complete turn-off.

Kiwivicjules · 06/05/2023 23:26

Kendodd · 06/05/2023 23:23

Did you also vote to 'get Brexit done' in 2019?

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Definitely didn’t vote for BJ if that is what you are asking!

SleazyLizzard · 06/05/2023 23:27

id rather read the Daily Mail than the Guardian, I cancelled my subscription to the Guardian when I realised they sack Gender Critical journalists and employ the odious Owen Jones.

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Pineda · 06/05/2023 23:29

SleazyLizzard · 06/05/2023 23:27

id rather read the Daily Mail than the Guardian, I cancelled my subscription to the Guardian when I realised they sack Gender Critical journalists and employ the odious Owen Jones.

I read the Guardian because its free and not hugely right wing. I swerve Owen Jones though.

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CremeEggQueen · 06/05/2023 23:29

Pineda · 06/05/2023 21:27

I know the Brexit vote was years ago but it really made me lose respect for dh. Obviously we've moved on, but he doesn't read a newspaper apart from the Mail online, is obsessed with tiktok and had no idea who the Archbishop of Canterbury was today. He's in his early 50s. I'm not a pretentious arse but I read a newspaper daily and have a pretty good grasp of politics. I'm beginning to feel as though we don't have much in common. We've been together for 30 years!

Sounds like you don't know him very well?
Been with my DH for nearly 30 years and if he'd suddenly started voting for Brexit and reading the Daily Mail it would have signalled a major personality change that would have me thinking WTF?!

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Pineda · 06/05/2023 23:30

I'm not so obsessed with the trans issue that I think the DM is a decent paper.

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Marchintospring · 06/05/2023 23:30

You’ve lost respect for him.
I think that’s one of those things that ultimately break relationships pretty quickly.
Doesn’t matter if the reason is the Daily Mail or he’s given up looking after himself or he’s done something stupid. It’s that feeling.
Have a look at yourself too. How have you changed? Has that impacted his changes or was he always a bit different in his thinking to you?

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Pineda · 06/05/2023 23:30

CremeEggQueen · 06/05/2023 23:29

Sounds like you don't know him very well?
Been with my DH for nearly 30 years and if he'd suddenly started voting for Brexit and reading the Daily Mail it would have signalled a major personality change that would have me thinking WTF?!

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I thought I knew him very well!

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Pineda · 06/05/2023 23:31

Marchintospring · 06/05/2023 23:30

You’ve lost respect for him.
I think that’s one of those things that ultimately break relationships pretty quickly.
Doesn’t matter if the reason is the Daily Mail or he’s given up looking after himself or he’s done something stupid. It’s that feeling.
Have a look at yourself too. How have you changed? Has that impacted his changes or was he always a bit different in his thinking to you?

This is what worries me. I havent changed politically or intellectually AFAIK

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Kendodd · 06/05/2023 23:33

It's the ones who voted to 'get Brexit done' I really can't stand.
By 2019 everyone knew how damaging Brexit would be for the hard won and fragile peace in NI, it had even claimed the life of Lyra Mckee. Leave voters didn't give a shit, they watched the birth of the New IRA and voted to push Brexit through anyway.

CremeEggQueen · 06/05/2023 23:33

Pineda · 06/05/2023 23:30

I thought I knew him very well!

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So is it your views that have changed over time, or his?

PollyPeptide · 06/05/2023 23:33

User1264876 · 06/05/2023 21:51

Probably reads the mail because it's free, a lot of MN read the mail, they say they don't but they always know what's in it and come on here and moan about it.

Exactly. And then they simper, I just read this in the Daily Fail. Thereby trying to signal a contempt for a paper they clearly enjoy reading.

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Pineda · 06/05/2023 23:34

CremeEggQueen · 06/05/2023 23:33

So is it your views that have changed over time, or his?

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His.

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Pineda · 06/05/2023 23:34

Kendodd · 06/05/2023 23:33

It's the ones who voted to 'get Brexit done' I really can't stand.
By 2019 everyone knew how damaging Brexit would be for the hard won and fragile peace in NI, it had even claimed the life of Lyra Mckee. Leave voters didn't give a shit, they watched the birth of the New IRA and voted to push Brexit through anyway.

Tbf he didn't vote for our (useless) tory mp in 2019.

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TheHandmaiden · 06/05/2023 23:35

All that matters is whether you love him. If you have contempt for him because of his politics then the marriage is dead.

CremeEggQueen · 06/05/2023 23:38

TheHandmaiden · 06/05/2023 23:35

All that matters is whether you love him. If you have contempt for him because of his politics then the marriage is dead.

Depends how widely they differ - if mine suddenly started spouting Daily Mail type racist stuff we'd have a clash

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