To think less of dh because he voted for Brexit and reads The Daily Mail?

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I know the Brexit vote was years ago but it really made me lose respect for dh. Obviously we've moved on, but he doesn't read a newspaper apart from the Mail online, is obsessed with tiktok and had no idea who the Archbishop of Canterbury was today. He's in his early 50s. I'm not a pretentious arse but I read a newspaper daily and have a pretty good grasp of politics. I'm beginning to feel as though we don't have much in common. We've been together for 30 years!

Just divorce the fucker, share the spoils and "Go your own way".

Or don't.

I would probably just divorce him as well if you have nothing in common, you could live for a long time yet

me and my OH voted differently for brexit and it really took me a lot to get past it, he did have his own reasoning which I have to respect, my parents also voted against me and we had a couple of dinner parties where I ended up in tears…
however my oh still won’t admit he was wrong, but we’ve moved past it, eventually.
tiktok- that’s a weird one, I actually really like tiktok but it’s very built to what you have liked previously, I have learnt a lot from it but follow a lot of professionals so I suppose it’s what he is watching on tiktok?
part of why the brexit thing hit me so hard was because we have such similar views politically and I just couldn’t understand it

I read the Mail and the Guardian. Where does that leave me?

I'd like to think who someone votes for doesn't 100% define them. As an example I am ashamed that I voted Labour in the 90's, they then created the infamous dodgy dossier to take us into an illegal war killing millions. Once bitten I'll never vote for the warmongers again but does that mean that people should hold it against me forever?
(PS - You should be grateful he voted for Brexit and not Labour's illegal war like I did, how would you feel if he'd voted Labour?)

I would divorce a husband who voted for Brexit.

We’ve had huge fights / upset in my family as a result of the vote. Utterly heartbreaking to discover some of your loved ones are so utterly opposed to your POV.

The Daily Mail wasn't free the last time I was in a newsagents. Are you thinking of Metro, which is just bland rubbish for folk with a small vocab?

I love the fact that dh and I arnt politically aligned although when I asked him after the council vote, we were identical!

It's very healthy to have opposing views especially if you have children.

What I find odd and deeply unhealthy though is your deep down feeling that your dh can't think for himself.

That must, I can see irk you because you must wonder.... Did he ever love me, choose me etc because he's a zombie like man who can't make up his own view?

@YellowAndGreenToBeSeen Seriously? We’re in the US and DH’s family have a wide spectrum of political views, from his strongly left-leaning sister to his parents who voted for Trump. We simply don’t talk about politics and they’re a close, loving family.

Surely your relationships built over decades transcend people’s voting decisions. We think his parents are daft, but we’re not going to fight with them about it, they’ve been great parents to DH.

How we vote is an individual choice it does not have to be a deal breaker!

I don’t know, I think it could make things very challenging. For example, I felt strongly that I’d have liked my children to have had the same opportunities that I had, namely: being able to travel, work and stay long-term in multiple European counties without visas or restrictions. My DH felt the same way. Those were the sorts of views that informed our voting in the referendum.

Different views on such issues could have quite far-reaching impacts in terms of what a couple want to do in their lives and how they hope to raise any children they have. If a couple aren’t on the same page for Remain/Leave, there’ll likely be loads of other things they differ on, some of which will be more important than others.

What I find odd and deeply unhealthy though is your deep down feeling that your dh can't think for himself

Where have you got that from?

also reading the daily Mail for me isn’t a cardinal sin, I think there is a big difference between reading (pretty much any) publication and critically appraising it or believing everything that is stated, I enjoy reading differing perspectives.

I mean - assume you knew this about him before? I read quite a few newspapers - DM included. I don’t have tt - i have no time for it. The brexit thing - what are his reasons? I know loads of people who voted this way and have various reasons. None of them are racist btw. If you find you don’t like him anymore - then leave.

Plenty wrong with the guardian if that’s your only source of news.

I read the Mail and the Guardian to get both sides and my DH Has different political views. We rarely discuss politics but it doesn’t get heated! We just make jokes.

You could live for another 30 or 40 years. You could end up caring for him throughout that time. He won't suddenly see sense in that time, he'll just get even worse. You are at an age where a lot of women are waking up and thinking I don't fancy this for the rest of my life.

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The issue I would have being with someone who voted Brexit is that they knowingly chose to make my children's future and everyones children's futures harder and poorer.

As for reading the Daily Mail meh. It's free, the comments are definitely worth a read as a sharp reminder of how some people still think. As long as it's balanced with other free papers (Independent etc) then not a big issue.

Mumsnet never fails to go this way.
Sanctimonious leftie remainers bleating on about how awful it is that people think differently to them and how morally superior they are.
has it really not sunk in yet?
you’ve been on the losing side again and again yet still consider yourselves morally and intellectually superior to the people who vote for the wining side.
OP - If you don’t like your husband anymore and consider him too stupid to be with someone as well informed as you please tell him and let him find someone who will appreciate him.

I got it from your implication that he is unable to think freely because reading the daily mail told him to vote brexit??

It depends how important it all is to you. If you don’t care then run along happily for another 20 years.
I care deeply about politics and somebody who voted Brexit and who has right wing views in general is not for me. So a deal breaker.
but some people just don’t discuss it!

So you would prefer he be a sheep and follow exactly what you do? THAT would be acceptable then would it?

To be fair I think I would be depressed if I had voted for Brexit! 🤣

But on a serious note I think if your options on politics are do wide apart I'm not sure where you go from there!

My parents voted differently on brexit, my mother was also a Christian and my father an atheist and they were married for 50 years.