To be tired of friends comedy double act?

[Necrotic]

My lovely friend is very funny on her own, she’s witty and a little sarcastic very much in a Jenifer Saunders type way. She’s not the type to “try” and be funny constantly, she just is … it’s her one liners, her facial expressions etc … she often has me in stitches and she is a good friend.

Anyway a few weeks ago she asked me how I was getting home one night and I said I’d be waiting for a bus. She said “Percy” will give me a lift (her boyfriend) as he was picking her up and they’d be driving past my house on the way home. I was very grateful.

Percy arrives and I get in the car. Immediately the comedy duo begins … sniping at each other, “comical” arguing back and forth … Insults to and throw … it was funny to be fair and I did laugh but it was constant, all the way home (30 minute drive) and by the end of the drive I was definitely fake laughing.

Percy has given me a lift every week since and the comedy act has happened the full drive every week - I’ve always laughed along but in all honesty it’s gotten a bit tiring now, it’s not actually that funny to someone not in the joke … I’ve laughed along to be polite but I’m bored of the act now!

So last night I didn’t laugh. I smiled at the jokes but didn’t laugh. Friend asked me if I was ok and I said I was fine, just knackered but did make an effort to say this with a smile! Percy then started to bring me in on the jokes and started throwing low level insults my way (nothing offensive) - I did laugh at that (the insults was funny) and she was punch him everytime and then it just got worse, comical shouting at each other, punching each other etc … all the while friend keeps looking at me to check if I’m laughing!! She text me late last night to ask if I’m ok again as I seemed unhappy in the car …

if I say I don’t need a lift home now she will know it’s personal but I can’t carry on this fake laughing!! It’s driving me nuts!! AIBU

She's happy with her boyfriend and having fun. They're giving you a lift. You're complaining. YABU.

YABU. Get on the bus next time.

I can totally imagine how annoying it gets. But if they are having fun maybe try to go along with it, or maybe try to change the subject and ask them some questions to break up the conversation.

I appreciate the lift but friend constantly checks up on my laughing status the whole way home … the fake laughing is so tiring!

@Necrotic and I get it but you wouldn't have to fake laugh on the bus!

YANBU couples are just annoying.
Get the bus.

They're doing a nice thing by offering you a lift - if they're that annoying then get the bus home 🤷‍♀️

Sounds exhausting! Not much you can do to stop them so might be easier for you to get the bus.

For 30 minutes a week, it sounds better than my night bus. At least the shouting, insults and punching in the car are only jokes.

Honestly I’m at the point now where I’d rather get the bus but how do I say that without making it obvious that it’s personal?! They drive past my house to get home so I can’t even say it’s about not wanting to put them out of their way. I’ve offered petrol money and they won’t take it either. They’re both lovely and I have absolutely nothing against them … they’re both very funny but it really is constant with no breathing space inbetween

Err don't get a lift!

I wonder what they’re like when they’re alone. Also, is he able to concentrate on the road while all that is going on?

No advice, sorry, but I agree, it sounds draining. It’s only once a week though, right?

I'm surprised at the first few replies.

Sounds utterly tedious and painful. I wouldn't want to put myself through that every week. I no longer accept low level insults either (I realised I used to laugh along with these and now I challenge them. The cou0le of friends who used to do this seem to have stopped.) I don't find constant put downs make me feel good.

I wonder if they're like it all the time when it's just the 2 of them? They sound really hard work. Could it be new relationship madness?

I really don’t mind the insults thrown at me, it was nice to be included in the act 😂 and the insults were very witty … even if I was the target! It’s just the pressure of having to laugh for 30 minute straight. This is why I don’t go to stand up comedies often … there is only so long I can laugh at the same person. Went to see Kevin Bridges last year and whilst he was very funny … I was glad when it ended 😂

How tedious. Ask them serious questions to try and move discussion on. They like attention clearly but that would get in my nerves.

Could you try and start a conversation before they start their nonsense? Like "Percy, I'm interested in your opinion on this..." and distract them?

They obviously think they're doing you a favour providing you with" hilarity "!

Next time if she says you've been quiet:
'I'm fine. Percy's great, and you're hilarious together. Its just you make me laugh so much I get a headache. After I've been laughing all night with you already I'm just a bit quiet on the way home. I was the same after Kevin Bridges, so nothing personal!'

I e tried to make conversation … this was an example:

me: “are you watching the coronation?”
Percy: “she will so she can perv on Harry”
friend: “Dickhead, you stare at him more than I do!”
percy: “says you who was deliberately looking at his crotch at the fucking funeral”
friend: (punches Percy) “and you wasn’t comparing crotch sizes between him and William?”
Percy: “i was collecting data!”

etc etc ….

Another one

me: are you guys hoping for a hot summer?”
friend “he is so he can get his pigeon chest out”
percy “you’re jealous that you can’t walk around with your tits out”
friend “you’d like to walk around with your dick out but it’s so tiny nobody would notice”
percy (punches friend) “you didn’t say that last night”

…. basically any conversation attempt ends up like this

Given the example, that would stop being funny after about 30 seconds. Possibly less.

You could have an extra drink,
might be cheaper than the bus, you’ll find them funny again.

Sympathies op, they sound like awful people. You are friends with them though...

I wouldn't feel safe with a car driver being punched and punching another passenger.

So many distractions for the driver in general.

Could you say something about really appreciating lift and loving the way they have such fun but you’ve realised at the end of a long day you like just some quiet time and that’s why you were quiet. You realise it makes you look like you aren’t happy but you are, just tired and happy to listen. Then say you realise you being quiet might be awkward for them and you are quite happy to sit quietly on the bus?

Or make a big joke if it and say you’re getting the bus. I don’t know 🤷‍♀️!

They don't sound like awful people, 😂 Jesus