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To be tired of friends comedy double act?

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Necrotic · 06/05/2023 07:20

My lovely friend is very funny on her own, she’s witty and a little sarcastic very much in a Jenifer Saunders type way. She’s not the type to “try” and be funny constantly, she just is … it’s her one liners, her facial expressions etc … she often has me in stitches and she is a good friend.

Anyway a few weeks ago she asked me how I was getting home one night and I said I’d be waiting for a bus. She said “Percy” will give me a lift (her boyfriend) as he was picking her up and they’d be driving past my house on the way home. I was very grateful.

Percy arrives and I get in the car. Immediately the comedy duo begins … sniping at each other, “comical” arguing back and forth … Insults to and throw … it was funny to be fair and I did laugh but it was constant, all the way home (30 minute drive) and by the end of the drive I was definitely fake laughing.

Percy has given me a lift every week since and the comedy act has happened the full drive every week - I’ve always laughed along but in all honesty it’s gotten a bit tiring now, it’s not actually that funny to someone not in the joke … I’ve laughed along to be polite but I’m bored of the act now!

So last night I didn’t laugh. I smiled at the jokes but didn’t laugh. Friend asked me if I was ok and I said I was fine, just knackered but did make an effort to say this with a smile! Percy then started to bring me in on the jokes and started throwing low level insults my way (nothing offensive) - I did laugh at that (the insults was funny) and she was punch him everytime and then it just got worse, comical shouting at each other, punching each other etc … all the while friend keeps looking at me to check if I’m laughing!! She text me late last night to ask if I’m ok again as I seemed unhappy in the car …

if I say I don’t need a lift home now she will know it’s personal but I can’t carry on this fake laughing!! It’s driving me nuts!! AIBU

OP posts:
willWillSmithsmith · 06/05/2023 10:42

If you’re sitting in the back it’s hard to hear what’s going on at the front? Can’t you say sorry I didn’t hear that, or sorry I can’t hear you properly from the back? They’re not going to want to keep repeating their jokes .

BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants · 06/05/2023 10:45

Would get on my nerves also and he sounds like a dick to be honest. What age is he as all those stupid comments sound cringe. Must be exhausting for her if he is like that all the time but she will soon get sick of it. Just tell her after work you just need to unwind and sometimes too tired for all the drama.

ExhaustedPigwidgeon · 06/05/2023 10:53

Pretend to be asleep while you try and figure out how to never go anywhere with them again

Whoknewiwouldlovethedog · 06/05/2023 10:56

Are posters missing that this is 30 minutes. Once a week!!!!

PollyAmour · 06/05/2023 11:07

Suck it up or get the bus.

Nanny0gg · 06/05/2023 11:25

Necrotic · 06/05/2023 07:44

I e tried to make conversation … this was an example:

me: “are you watching the coronation?”
Percy: “she will so she can perv on Harry”
friend: “Dickhead, you stare at him more than I do!”
percy: “says you who was deliberately looking at his crotch at the fucking funeral”
friend: (punches Percy) “and you wasn’t comparing crotch sizes between him and William?”
Percy: “i was collecting data!”

etc etc ….

Another one

me: are you guys hoping for a hot summer?”
friend “he is so he can get his pigeon chest out”
percy “you’re jealous that you can’t walk around with your tits out”
friend “you’d like to walk around with your dick out but it’s so tiny nobody would notice”
percy (punches friend) “you didn’t say that last night”

…. basically any conversation attempt ends up like this

I thought you said they were witty?

Not at all amusing

FarmGirl78 · 06/05/2023 11:30

I'd be honest(ish) with your friend and explain that after a long day of work/rushing back/getting ready/night out you're just done in and want some quiet wind down time after your night out, so you just switch off on the car ride home, sorry if you're a bit quiet. Or use the same excuse to get the bus.... You need a bit of quiter time thinking to yourself without the need to interact.

FarmGirl78 · 06/05/2023 11:33

Necrotic · 06/05/2023 07:44

I e tried to make conversation … this was an example:

me: “are you watching the coronation?”
Percy: “she will so she can perv on Harry”
friend: “Dickhead, you stare at him more than I do!”
percy: “says you who was deliberately looking at his crotch at the fucking funeral”
friend: (punches Percy) “and you wasn’t comparing crotch sizes between him and William?”
Percy: “i was collecting data!”

etc etc ….

Another one

me: are you guys hoping for a hot summer?”
friend “he is so he can get his pigeon chest out”
percy “you’re jealous that you can’t walk around with your tits out”
friend “you’d like to walk around with your dick out but it’s so tiny nobody would notice”
percy (punches friend) “you didn’t say that last night”

…. basically any conversation attempt ends up like this

Ughhh. I've read the rest of your posts now. I'd be more concerned that your 14 year old friend is letting her 14 year old brother drive you both home.

FictionalCharacter · 06/05/2023 11:36

They sound tedious and childish. But you shouldn't have fake laughed at them in the first place! They think they're entertaining you with their little act.

Whoknewiwouldlovethedog · 06/05/2023 11:37

Necrotic · 06/05/2023 07:20

My lovely friend is very funny on her own, she’s witty and a little sarcastic very much in a Jenifer Saunders type way. She’s not the type to “try” and be funny constantly, she just is … it’s her one liners, her facial expressions etc … she often has me in stitches and she is a good friend.

Anyway a few weeks ago she asked me how I was getting home one night and I said I’d be waiting for a bus. She said “Percy” will give me a lift (her boyfriend) as he was picking her up and they’d be driving past my house on the way home. I was very grateful.

Percy arrives and I get in the car. Immediately the comedy duo begins … sniping at each other, “comical” arguing back and forth … Insults to and throw … it was funny to be fair and I did laugh but it was constant, all the way home (30 minute drive) and by the end of the drive I was definitely fake laughing.

Percy has given me a lift every week since and the comedy act has happened the full drive every week - I’ve always laughed along but in all honesty it’s gotten a bit tiring now, it’s not actually that funny to someone not in the joke … I’ve laughed along to be polite but I’m bored of the act now!

So last night I didn’t laugh. I smiled at the jokes but didn’t laugh. Friend asked me if I was ok and I said I was fine, just knackered but did make an effort to say this with a smile! Percy then started to bring me in on the jokes and started throwing low level insults my way (nothing offensive) - I did laugh at that (the insults was funny) and she was punch him everytime and then it just got worse, comical shouting at each other, punching each other etc … all the while friend keeps looking at me to check if I’m laughing!! She text me late last night to ask if I’m ok again as I seemed unhappy in the car …

if I say I don’t need a lift home now she will know it’s personal but I can’t carry on this fake laughing!! It’s driving me nuts!! AIBU

There is not even the remotest hint of what the OP later says about all the sleaze comments 🤔

Heavensalongwayaway · 06/05/2023 11:42

If she’s such a good friend can’t you just tell them to pack it in?

Onelifeonly · 06/05/2023 11:59

Put headphones on and listen to something on your phone you enjoy. Smile vaguely when she looks at you.

Whoknewiwouldlovethedog · 06/05/2023 12:00

Heavensalongwayaway · 06/05/2023 11:42

If she’s such a good friend can’t you just tell them to pack it in?

It’s mumsnet

it would seem so many have really “good friends” that they are unable to communicate with

finallygotospeaktoSky · 06/05/2023 12:05

Even the op's 30 minutes a week would be too much. Either ignore, talk to her or get the bus.
Pervy and my friend 😝

Whoknewiwouldlovethedog · 06/05/2023 12:07

finallygotospeaktoSky · 06/05/2023 12:05

Even the op's 30 minutes a week would be too much. Either ignore, talk to her or get the bus.
Pervy and my friend 😝

And now read the OP and say whether you couldn’t suck up 30 mins a week

the disgusting “pervy” comments only cropped up when posters basically said to suck it up

DRS1970 · 06/05/2023 12:07

Just tell them the laurel and hardy act is boring, then laugh out loud and give them a cheeky thump. Then whenever they speak thereafter do a comedy yawn. That will either give them a hint, or fuck with their heads. 😁

Whoknewiwouldlovethedog · 06/05/2023 12:08

It went from this in the OP

sniping at each other, “comical” arguing back and forth … Insults to and throw … it was funny to be fair and I did laugh but it was constant,

to offensive smutty abusive comments

BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants · 06/05/2023 12:38

Haha am laughing at the person who said more Benny Hill than Jennifer Saunders. So true, crude and not even funny at all

Nopetryagain · 06/05/2023 12:43

Because I’m an underhand coward I would let her know it isn’t funny without that seeming like the point of the conversation iyswim

e.g:

“Are you and your DP ok? I really don’t want to pry but I noticed when we’re in the car that you only communicate with each other using jokes that seem really forced and unfunny which is just not like you. You don’t have to confide in me and I’m could be wrong but know I’m here for you if you ever need to speak”.

QuickGuide · 06/05/2023 12:57

Why are you out with this couple every week? I think I'd have other plans for a couple of weeks and break the habit.

QuickGuide · 06/05/2023 12:59

How long does the bus take if a lift is 30 mins?!

willWillSmithsmith · 06/05/2023 13:13

Why don’t you just keep yawning through it and say you’re tired and looking forward to getting home. Put ear buds or headphones on and listen to something else. Get the bus. You have options!

whynotwhatknot · 06/05/2023 13:29

they sound like bad carry on sketch ad ilove those films

is she like this when theyre at home

mcmooberry · 06/05/2023 13:55

They aren't funny at all from your examples, I would only be able to endure this for 5 minutes max and for the sake of a lift, not 30! They seem to need you as an audience, surely they wouldn't talk like that without one??

No idea how to get out of it though, think you have to grin (if you can) and bear it.

finallygotospeaktoSky · 06/05/2023 17:07

who No, I wouldn't 'suck it up' for 30 minutes a week. I wouldn't want to listen to their shite, pervy and yes it is perverse, remarks for 5 minutes.
OP should pull on the big girl knickers and do something about it, preferably speak to her friend.

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