To be tired of friends comedy double act?

[Necrotic]

My lovely friend is very funny on her own, she’s witty and a little sarcastic very much in a Jenifer Saunders type way. She’s not the type to “try” and be funny constantly, she just is … it’s her one liners, her facial expressions etc … she often has me in stitches and she is a good friend.

Anyway a few weeks ago she asked me how I was getting home one night and I said I’d be waiting for a bus. She said “Percy” will give me a lift (her boyfriend) as he was picking her up and they’d be driving past my house on the way home. I was very grateful.

Percy arrives and I get in the car. Immediately the comedy duo begins … sniping at each other, “comical” arguing back and forth … Insults to and throw … it was funny to be fair and I did laugh but it was constant, all the way home (30 minute drive) and by the end of the drive I was definitely fake laughing.

Percy has given me a lift every week since and the comedy act has happened the full drive every week - I’ve always laughed along but in all honesty it’s gotten a bit tiring now, it’s not actually that funny to someone not in the joke … I’ve laughed along to be polite but I’m bored of the act now!

So last night I didn’t laugh. I smiled at the jokes but didn’t laugh. Friend asked me if I was ok and I said I was fine, just knackered but did make an effort to say this with a smile! Percy then started to bring me in on the jokes and started throwing low level insults my way (nothing offensive) - I did laugh at that (the insults was funny) and she was punch him everytime and then it just got worse, comical shouting at each other, punching each other etc … all the while friend keeps looking at me to check if I’m laughing!! She text me late last night to ask if I’m ok again as I seemed unhappy in the car …

if I say I don’t need a lift home now she will know it’s personal but I can’t carry on this fake laughing!! It’s driving me nuts!! AIBU

I'd jump out of the moving car after 10 minutes of that...

There isn't much you can do though, other than be honest with your friend or suck it up.

Erm, they don't sound funny. So it's all little dick jokes and punching each other? Fuck that.

Soz mate, I love you but you and Percy are giving me a headache with all the tits and dicks and, for want of a better word, "bantz". Plus, every time you start punching each other I can't help but wonder if the bus is actually safer. I've sent you £20 for the lifts so far. See you next week 😘

I'd suggest just not laughing when you don't find it funny. If you laughed and laughed, then suddenly stopped laughing, it's no wonder your friend was checking on you! But if you make that the norm, she won't think somethings wrong

The more you reveal more about these friends of yours, @Necrotic

The more they sound to me like irritating fuck wits !

How 🤔 old are you and they are this couple then?

They sound emotionally exhausting 😩 draining to be around to be with...

They do! Unfunny but think they're hilarious, obviously a bit thick, dick and tit jokes... Awful!

Pretend to be asleep or dead ?

@Curseofthenation
L.o.l

I 👏 👏 👏 thought your comment about you prefer to jump out of a moving car , than be around this couple any longer🤣

Funny as fuck,

Thank you for making me laugh,
Which I don't do often these days...

I guess it may depend on how it comes out, but none of that sound particularly funny to me and it's all very one-track. I think in your shoes I just wouldn't bother to laugh, and if the friend asked if I was all right I'd just say "I'm fine, why do you ask?"

Could you lie and say the times have changed so it no longer works getting a lift?

Sounds like my idea of hell OP. I'd be 100% getting the bus from now on!

It does sound pretty tedious.
I'd try not laughing, and just answer questions with 'I'm fine' with a smile as you said earlier.

But to be honest I'd probably be trying to find a way out of the lifts too.

Blimey. Reminds me of when I used to drive DS and his mates when they were 11.
Either the humour is in the delivery or its one of those 'you had to be there' things.

I'd have to get the bus as this isn't going to stop. They obviously think they're hilarious and, to them, that's the only thing that counts. The constant checking your laughing just makes the whole thing seem like a performance which I'd find way too cringy.

Do they struggle to have serious conversations?

What would happen if you just asked Percy questions instead, like, "so tell my Percy, where did you grow up?" Etc. I wonder if that will take the need for the frivolities away or if he'll make that into some kind of sarcastic joke.

Very tiring though and if they don't take the hint, you'll have to tell your friend that whilst you love their company, and that they're very funny (kinda), you just can't keep that level of energy up and want to relax a little after whatever activity you do. So you'll take the bus.

Please, I need more examples... I feel like I'm in the car

I am friends with a couple like this. I totally get what you mean - it's funny for five minutes but when it goes on and on it's utterly draining! I find that if I spend a hour or more with them, my cheeks are aching from having to laugh or smile along - because if I don't, they think there is something wrong!

It's hard as they are genuinely good, kindhearted people, so I do want to be friends with them, but when they are together they seem to revert to this act. My friend has actually said that at home her husband can be moody and grumpy, so I really think it is an "act" that for some reason they have adopted together!

Sounds horrific. Either miss a couple of weeks to break the habit, or leave early so you can get the bus.

God they sound horrific.

YANBU but I've no idea what you can do - you can't be honest with your friend ak you can only stop taking the lift.

I bet as soon as they drop you off they sit in silence. It's just a (pretty boring) show.

Is this only in the car or are they like this always? I wonder of they have nothing in common anymore so this is how they cope.

Bloody hell, they sound annoying AF. I love being witty and joking around but I dont think I could stand this if its that constant- its absolutely cringeworthy. Anything thats overdone gets tedious- people who are relentlessly negative or positive or go on about certain topics are also tedious AF and it shows a distinct lack of personality to me . Joking constantly and not being able to have a normal conversation is plain weird. Plus, constantly being looked at to "check" you are laughing isnt funny at all- it comes across as desperate and incredibly needy for attention and praise. You could be the funniest comic on earth but if you are literally checking people are laughing and policing their facial expressions then it stops being funny and becomes really quite sad.

I couldnt bear this every week and would find an excuse to get the bus. Its not that they arent nice or kind people but their behaviour is odd- most people have balanced personalities - making jokes at times, conversation at others and sharing feelings/experiences when appropriate. I couldnt bear to have to sit through the chuckle brothers routine every week.

i get it op but two things: 1. They are happy. We want this for our friends and he sounds perfect for her. 2. There’s no malice. That’s massively relevant, their humour is not unkind, you just find it irritating.

Honestly, breeze past it. Look at your phone, change the subject, it’s half an hour. And for a friends happiness and maintenance of a friendship, I’d suck it up. Hopefully over time they will relax.

30 mins
Once a week

and you can’t suck it up

bloody hell

They sound EXHAUSTING and my face always tells a story, 😂, I worked with a chap like this and in the end I couldn’t muster up a smile or fake laugh anymore.

I was thinking how contrived all this sounds your friends with this so called funny comedy act duo going on,

They sound like they feel a need to be entertaining when they are around anybody ..

So they come acros for keeping up appearances sake,essentially hiding behind humour, so they don't reveal expose their insecurities they might have,
Need for to be centre of Attention,

Exactly!

Its difficult to believe that someone so sharp and funny that OP compared them to Jennifer Saunders reverts to such unfunny shite with this man!