Mixed sex sleepovers for teens

[Creasedover382]

Appropriate or not? DS aged 14 would like to invite 2 boys and 2 girls over to camp in our back garden.

YANBU-Not Appropriate
YABU-Absolutely fine if parents are happy with it

Not a chance.

It would be no from me, until they’ve done their GCSE’s.

I went to mixed sex sleepovers throughout my teenage years - we were all a close group of friends, not a single inappropriate thing ever happened at one of these sleepovers!

I think if parents are happy with it, why not? Camping in the garden sounds fun!

No way! Teenage hormones running wild and a sleep over are not a good combination. I wouldn’t let my dd come.

Depends on the teens! Me as a teen? No.

Not a chance

This is very new territory for us as DS hasn't had any female friends since primary. I didn't even speak to boys until I was at uni (painfully shy!). I've no idea what's considered appropriate. My gut says no.

In separate tents?
Lots of teens will be doing exactly this on their DofE expeditions which is a very alright mumsnet thing to do, and I can assure you that staff are not awake all night supervising!!

Listen to your gut.

No chance

I had mixed sex sleepovers in my teens, big group of mixed friends. Nothing untoward happened! But if they are going to have sex they will have it anyway, sleepover or not. I’d allow it if all parents are happy

it's a no from me.

No, I wouldn't allow this. I have a 15 year old DS. He's a sensible lad but I would not want him in that scenario with underage girls.

No. I can’t imagine any of the parents will agree anyway.

I'd have no problem with it, all sounds like fun.

Ooh thanks for asking @Creasedover382 because my DS who is 13 wanted to go to a sleepover in a tent at a girls house and I said nooooo wayyyyyyy.

Not until 16 / after GCSEs.

No I wouldn't allow this.

Lost my virginity in a back garden tent party in year 10 😳

Absolutely not. And I suspect that the voting options are confusing because most parents would not be cool with that.

By which I mean no don't let your child do this.

Only if separate tents.

I would be fine with this if I knew the parents and the kids involved.
as previous PP said, if they want to have sex they will. Tent party or no tent party.
I’d be more concerned that they stayed in their tents all night and didn’t go on a midnight wander when they thought you were asleep. Or alcohol being smuggled in.
If they are sensible and you’re not worried about that, then I’d allow it.

I'd allow it, I did this most summers as a teen and loved it

I can only go on my own experience. I had mixed sleepovers at my house age 15/16. None of the group were dating, nor had sex/drugs etc. We were just a large group of friends.

Slightly older, my girlfriend and I arrived later in the evening to a party of just boys. It was like lord of the flies! They were all incredibly drunk and left 1 semi-unconscious boy outside, hosed him down and left him on his back vomiting! I put him in the recovery position, got him warm and called his mum.

Only you know your DS and his friends, but sometimes a mixed group can be more sensible.