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To ask if anyone else is doing nothing for the coronation weekend?

141 replies

TheLostNights · 03/05/2023 12:15

We are not and I feel bad for it especially as I know so many who are.
We are on a tight budget so can't really afford to be doing much either.

OP posts:
HeadacheEarthquake · 03/05/2023 20:40

StarryCup · 03/05/2023 20:36

Life must be miserable with so much bitterness and anger

I haven't noticed much bitterness or anger. Mostly a complete lack of interest.

I usually try to take advantage of what I hope will be less crowded public places (e.g. shops, parks, NT properties) on these occasions. Always disappointed though.

To answer the OP's question, on Saturday I have hired the village hall (several months ago) to celebrate my daughter's 40th birthday. She has learning disabilities and doesn't really know it's her birthday as she has no speech, but there will be all her friends, balloons and best of all - cake, so she will be happy as the day is long. And of course as her family we will be happy that she's happy, but there will be sadness that she doesn't understand what it's all about.
She'll know it's massive fun and that attention will be on her, but she won't know why. Maybe she might wonder why every day isn't like this, and wish it was.
I might also wish her life was always this happy.

The Church/Village hall and grounds is usually used for celebrations such as the coronation, e.g. Will's wedding, Harry's wedding, platinum jubilee, annual summer fete, but on this occasion I got in first. Nobody has approached me to change the date, I like to think it's because she's more important than the king, but more likely nobody wanted to upset us by asking. It would look like pushing her aside, and we've lived her 41 years so everyone knows her, and us.

The plates and napkins are Disney. Her clever aunt has made bunting which does not favour red, white and blue, but Ernie and Cookie Monster, and Big Bird, not forgetting Sooty, whom she loves.

There will be not a single Union Flag or hat.

So yes, we're having a big celebration on Saturday!
But zilch to do with the coronation.

Maybe if you've been semi-forced into some sort of coronation party on Saturday, against your inner beliefs, just to fit in, and you have to make a toast or something, I'd love it if in your head you thought of my lovely daughter on her birthday and all the trials and tribulations she has been through, and us, on her behalf. I know, I know, it's a historical event when charles is crowned.

But. y'know, he's the reigning monarch with all and every support on tap.
And she's a middle aged disabled woman now, also with learning disabilities.
And we don't know how her future will go when we're not here to shout her corner. He'll be looked after at the highest level, until the day he dies.

My daughter will be thrown into the care system that will exist after I'm gone.
How she will cope with that, I have no idea. And that disturbs my sleep every night.

So. What has that to do with the coronation? Only that it co-incides with my daughter's 40th.

Starrycup sending you and your lively daughter so much love that is deserved xx

PinkyFlamingo · 03/05/2023 20:45

Well I'm in Scotland and I do cupcakes....I have 4 orders so will be doing that, and then buying a takeaway I think on the profits!

NeverTrustAPoliceman · 03/05/2023 20:46

StarryCup your post is one of the most moving ones I've ever read on MN. I hope your daughter has the happiest day and is able to sense what a special occasion it is for her.

I will certainly send her my very best wishes. I'll sing happy birthday to her in my head. We don't need to know your daughter's name, can we call her Starry after you?

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 03/05/2023 20:47

I’m in Scotland and other than the odd display in a supermarket I wouldn’t even know it was a thing. We’re going out for lunch on Saturday, Sunday will be a pj day I think, and DP is working Monday as bank holidays are just lumped in on his entitlement.

PumpkinsAndCoconuts · 03/05/2023 20:57

StarryCup · 03/05/2023 20:36

Life must be miserable with so much bitterness and anger

I haven't noticed much bitterness or anger. Mostly a complete lack of interest.

I usually try to take advantage of what I hope will be less crowded public places (e.g. shops, parks, NT properties) on these occasions. Always disappointed though.

To answer the OP's question, on Saturday I have hired the village hall (several months ago) to celebrate my daughter's 40th birthday. She has learning disabilities and doesn't really know it's her birthday as she has no speech, but there will be all her friends, balloons and best of all - cake, so she will be happy as the day is long. And of course as her family we will be happy that she's happy, but there will be sadness that she doesn't understand what it's all about.
She'll know it's massive fun and that attention will be on her, but she won't know why. Maybe she might wonder why every day isn't like this, and wish it was.
I might also wish her life was always this happy.

The Church/Village hall and grounds is usually used for celebrations such as the coronation, e.g. Will's wedding, Harry's wedding, platinum jubilee, annual summer fete, but on this occasion I got in first. Nobody has approached me to change the date, I like to think it's because she's more important than the king, but more likely nobody wanted to upset us by asking. It would look like pushing her aside, and we've lived her 41 years so everyone knows her, and us.

The plates and napkins are Disney. Her clever aunt has made bunting which does not favour red, white and blue, but Ernie and Cookie Monster, and Big Bird, not forgetting Sooty, whom she loves.

There will be not a single Union Flag or hat.

So yes, we're having a big celebration on Saturday!
But zilch to do with the coronation.

Maybe if you've been semi-forced into some sort of coronation party on Saturday, against your inner beliefs, just to fit in, and you have to make a toast or something, I'd love it if in your head you thought of my lovely daughter on her birthday and all the trials and tribulations she has been through, and us, on her behalf. I know, I know, it's a historical event when charles is crowned.

But. y'know, he's the reigning monarch with all and every support on tap.
And she's a middle aged disabled woman now, also with learning disabilities.
And we don't know how her future will go when we're not here to shout her corner. He'll be looked after at the highest level, until the day he dies.

My daughter will be thrown into the care system that will exist after I'm gone.
How she will cope with that, I have no idea. And that disturbs my sleep every night.

So. What has that to do with the coronation? Only that it co-incides with my daughter's 40th.

Your post is incredibly touching.
Thank you very much.

I'm back in Switzerland, so extremely unlikely to be (unwillingly) involved in any coronation parties.

But I will think of you and your DD and send my best wishes.

JCHL · 03/05/2023 21:07

I would very much like to gate crash your lovely-sounding party with my DS @StarryCup Flowers @ StarryDD Cake BearStar

Changetherecord1 · 03/05/2023 21:13

User5438790 · 03/05/2023 12:45

I'm not and DH is going to be spending the time clearing out the garage as the weather doesn't look to good anyway so he will be spending Sunday afternoon going to the tip, hopefully. I did buy a Coronation Colin cake though to keep DH's energy up.

🤣🤣

Fairislefandango · 03/05/2023 21:14

I wouldn't 'rather die than celebrate', but I'm (non-rabidly) anti-royal and am not remotely interested. I will have a normal weekend.

StarryCup · 03/05/2023 21:22

But I will think of you and your DD and send my best wishes

Thank you. Good wishes make me feel better.

GenderCriticalTrumpets · 03/05/2023 21:24

I will watch it because I love all the pomp but DH is working so I'll be on my own with the dog. Who, as it happens, really enjoyed staring at all the Queens funeral pomp so maybe we are the ideal pairing?

99victoria · 03/05/2023 21:26

All these people planning to have an afternoon tea while they watch the Coronation - it's happening at 11am isn't it? 😂

Notonthestairs · 03/05/2023 21:29

@StarryCup I'll raise a glass (might be a teacup) to your daughter on Saturday. I hope she has a wonderful time.
We are in a similar position with similar long term worries. But we have to grab the opportunity to celebrate them whenever we can. So hats off to you and all your family.

Pseudonamed · 03/05/2023 21:41

Fully booked up weekend. Absolutely NOTHING to do with the king of England or the coronation so technically while doing a lot, doing nothing for this.

SallySunrise · 03/05/2023 21:44

I'll probably have the tv on in the background while we're home on Saturday. I'm not sure that counts as "plans" as such.

PumpkinsAndCoconuts · 06/05/2023 11:14

@StarryCup

Happy 40th birthday to your daughter! All the best, I hope you have a wonderful day. 💐🎂

thecatsthecats · 06/05/2023 11:18

Of course I am. It's a hugely important weekend for us.

The Eurovision welcome party is tomorrow evening!

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