To have gotten the ick with my partner over his drinking habits?

[Newnailday]

So this is likely a me problem as I have mild OCD and often get irritated at small things that I know aren’t a real problem, I never say anything because I know it’s my issue not theirs. Looking for some perspective on this one though because it’s really putting me off my newish partner (of 5 months).

He has a lot of good points but the fact that he drinks soft drinks/fizzy pop all day long out of the bottle is really putting me off. I can’t even articulate why, it sort of feels embarrassing somehow? He also pulls his face at veg and eats sweets and chocolate constantly, he’s not overweight though.

I haven’t said anything and just tried to put it out of my mind because I don’t trust my own judgement on what’s annoying and what isn’t, but today we went for a day out together and he pulled a 2 litre bottle of Coca Cola out of his bag and started drinking from it in public. I felt sick and mortified, I didn’t want to be seen with him and I said I had a headache so that we could leave early.

Would that really put you off a partner or is my mind just blowing it out of proportion?

Yuck. Bin him off.

You can decide to not be in a relationship with anyone for whatever reason you like, you don’t have to put up with anything you find unattractive.

I'd hate that, I'm imagining other gross habits will reveal themselves in time. Move on!

Who carries a 2 litre bottle around with them? That’s heavy!
You are entitled to be put off by whatever you like - it’s not like you can control it. For me, I think I would be thinking they are immature and this may not be conducive to an adult relationship. No veg, sweets and fizzy drinks - he’s got stuck at around age 11.

I once broke up with someone because he licked a knife. I was repulsed.

YANBU.

Nope - wouldn't be for me. Feels like a lack of restraint and immaturity to me. I also get the ick when grown adult men drink glasses of milk. How old is he?

Sounds chavvy to me. Not exactly a classy gentleman. If it's bothering you then end it sooner rather than later.

"Fizzy pop"? How old are you? 3?

You can leave someone for whatever reason

But he can also drink however he wants.

“Fizzy pop” is surely a reasonable, if slightly old fashioned, expression?

YANBU OP. This would put me off completely. There’s something about drinking fizzy drinks more than very occasionally that really puts me off too - something very childish about it - and all day every day would completely repulse me.

The sweets wouldn’t turn me off as such but would concern me for his health, but pulling a face at vegetables would again be a turn off. Again, it’s just very childish.

Someone with genuine food issues with veg, but would went about communicating that in an adult way, wouldn’t be a problem, it’s the face pulling.

I broke up with someone like this. He ate / drank like a child let loose with their lunch money. Absolute fucking nightmare trying to cook because he refused to touch anything that wasn't beige and stored in a freezer. Imagine watching a grown assed man eating chicken nuggets and smileys every night 🫠. Wouldn't touch vegetables. Would only drink fizzy juice. By the end I'd managed to get him to try soup for the first time in his life. Fucking SOUP. I still get the ick just thinking about it. He was absolutely gorgeous as well and excellent in the bedroom but I just couldn't be attracted to him any longer.

There's something childish about drinking fizzy drinks every day as an adult?

Why? Should we only drink tea and coffee and alcohol?

Wow you'd not be able to deal with 90% of the adults I know. We all drink fizzy drinks every day!

Is there a list of acceptable MN drinks for adults? Alcohol -no, fizzy drinks -no, milk- no. I presume water, tea and coffee are acceptable?

Thanks all, good to know that it’s not just me. I think you’re all right that it seems childish, it somehow makes me think of a teenager holed up in their pigsty of a room gaming until 5am so I think that’s what unsettles me. He’s almost 40 though so I think he’s past the point of outgrowing it by now.

@Falt this made me laugh, I bet he was fun at restaurants😆

I thought this was going to be about his decline into alcohol dependence!
I know it's not a huge deal in the grand scheme of things, but it would put me off aswell I think. A 2 litre bottle of coke?- a bit ridiculous to be carting around! What kind of bag does he use?- this would also put me off- particularly if it's a satchel type thing!

Water
Water is all adults should drink

Unless its a party in which case unlimited alcohol should be supplied by by host

Unless its a party in which case unlimited alcohol should be supplied by by host

Which would be pointless because this is MN and anything more than a thimble full of Lambrini renders you incapable of dealing with the DC needing to be rushed to hospital, the inevitable house fire, major flood, hurricane, earthquake or any other disaster that is going to happen.

Yikes, how dare men drink a healthy nutritious drink!

Sounds like my ex. Used to drink can after can of fizzy drinks. I hated it and found it really grabby- we’d buy them out of the weekly shop and even though he was the only one drinking them, but he’d pick up 2 cans in one go to drink in the living room.
all I could think was if you’re thirsty have a glass of water rather than chugging can after can. Surely you have one as a treat not pick up two at the same time. God it grated on me.

I wonder if it’s not about the fizzy pop (although that is odd) and more that “the ick” is a way of your gut telling you this isn’t right. Even if he is a “nice” guy. Maybe he’s just not your guy and there is no need to force it. I bet there are other things too on a connection/emotional level just not quite right.

It would be like dating a teenage boy who has just been given his pocket money. Think what his teeth will be like. He'd also be full of gas and I wouldn't stick around for the explosion!

Poor eating habits would put me off too. He sounds like a man child.

I would be the same. Don’t even like it when my husband has squash 😅 he’d never order /buy a coke out but has been known to have a kombucha or two! I would drink a Coke in a restaurant but maybe not walking down the street. I don’t know why 🤷🏻‍♀️
you feel how you feel, go with it if it matters!

Oh and the food, how important is good food to you? We love to cook together and go to tasting experiences, explore new cities trying local delicacies so I wouldn’t be compatible with someone who ate freezer food a lot (love a chicken dipper, but not every night!)

Yanbu, it screams immaturity which would be a huge turn off for me.