To have gotten the ick with my partner over his drinking habits?

[Newnailday]

So this is likely a me problem as I have mild OCD and often get irritated at small things that I know aren’t a real problem, I never say anything because I know it’s my issue not theirs. Looking for some perspective on this one though because it’s really putting me off my newish partner (of 5 months).

He has a lot of good points but the fact that he drinks soft drinks/fizzy pop all day long out of the bottle is really putting me off. I can’t even articulate why, it sort of feels embarrassing somehow? He also pulls his face at veg and eats sweets and chocolate constantly, he’s not overweight though.

I haven’t said anything and just tried to put it out of my mind because I don’t trust my own judgement on what’s annoying and what isn’t, but today we went for a day out together and he pulled a 2 litre bottle of Coca Cola out of his bag and started drinking from it in public. I felt sick and mortified, I didn’t want to be seen with him and I said I had a headache so that we could leave early.

Would that really put you off a partner or is my mind just blowing it out of proportion?

Considering hot chocolate and Baileys is a thing I wouldn't assume Hot chocolate is exclusively for kids.

Mind you, spirits and a fizzy drink is also a thing but adults aren't allowed fizzy drinks so who knows.

I've been on Mumsnet for less than a week and I've learnt:

• Adults can only drink water but if you host a party then an absolute minimum is to give everyone a free glass of fizz and ideally have a free bar all night
• There are a wide range of colours you can wear for a wedding - exc

Ah now a coffee with baileys and you’re talking my language 😅

• * except for green, red, white, anything too pale and anything too patterned

• You must clean your house every week and take less than 3 hours but if your DH asks then you don't have to but if you ask him it's unforgiveable and he's a LB to refuse

Mumsnet is enlightening

The bit about the 2l coke bottle in public made me twitch. It's more about how tacky and adolescent that would look than about the drink itself.

A few years ago I had a partner who wouldn't drink water and was literally addicted to Fanta Fruit Twist. He always had a huge bottle of it on the go wherever he went. Thankfully I raised my bar a little further from the ground.

You've got the ick because he displays the behaviours of a 5 year old boy.

Perfectly reasonable, would be a no from me!

I find it bizarre that someone can’t comprehend regional dialect and is claiming to be confused about it 😂

It IS utterly bizarre anyone would refer to non fruit juice as "juice" it isn't regional "dialect" it's just they've got it wrong.

@Hydrangeatea I also dated an English guy who, like you, couldn't get over the fact we call everything that's not milk or water, juice. Although he just kinda found it funny and not "utterly bizarre".

There's fruit juice, fizzy juice, and diluting juice. I also wound him up and told him water was council juice and milk was cow juice.😁

IDK where you're getting "it's wrong because juice specifically refers to the liquid that comes from fruit". Dictionary also says the liquid that comes from any food when cooked. I'm guessing that's how cola starts out at some point...

Coffee is fine. It might stain teeth, but it doesn't cause decay like soft drink does ( unless it's got heaps of sugar).

I find it bizarre that someone doesn't understand the word confused, yet they feel confident enough commenting on somebody using it 😂😂😂

Good for him finding it funny 😃I find it utterly bizarre.

Much like I find it utterly bizarre that Scottish people refer to a sandwich as a sangwich, I mean just why.

It would be a turn off for me, it’s just not “manly” to be acting like a 5 yr old, time to leave. Might be OK for casual sex but not to live with.

@Hydrangeatea I'll leave this here 😂

I think adults can drink fizzy drinks, E.g a fat belly coke with ice or a lemonade in a glass, in a pub, in summer after a long bike ride or on a crashing hangover.

Adults can not drink fizzy drinks at home or out and about from 2l bottles.

I have never seen a thin person who drinks a lot of fizzy drinks, “diet” versions or otherwise.

Most adults I know (apart from 2 SILs who are both considerably overweight and addicted to Diet Coke) stick to water, tea and coffee, beer/wine/gin and tonic.

Wait until I blow your tiny mind by telling you that in some parts of Scotland we refer to fizzy drinks such as cola, lemonade etc as "ginger".

And a teacake is a biscuit base with mallow on top all covered in a dome of chocolate.

Ginger also messages for groceries, bunker for countertop, baffys for slippers, "how?" instead of why and cunt instead of person.

Utterly BIZARRE.

This has reminded me of a school assembly or show I was watching at DS primary school, where 2 parents were eating out of a bag of doritos and drinking from a 2L bottle of coke!

It was weird for a few reasons. Mainly, who can't sit through a kids morning assembly without eating and drinking? But also the size of the bottle of coke!

It is odd behaviour, I don't blame you being put off.

Aside from regional variations fizzy juice is a real thing.
https://www.appletiser.com/en/products/appletiser
Appetizer is apple juice with added carbon dioxide. Guess what the carbon dioxide does? It makes the juice fizzy!

I also once worked with someone who would whip out a 2l bottle of coke in meetings. He did use a pint glass though.

If adults didn't drink fizzy drinks at home, why do supermarkets have aisles and aisles of them? Do you really think it's only under eighteens who drink it?

I also know lots of people who drunk fuzzy drinks everyday and who are perfectly slim and healthy 🤷‍♀️

But I suppose those goes against the MN stereotype that fizzy drinks are only for fat lazy slobs

I swear this place gets more batshit everyday 😂

Appeltiser

Ew I'd be embarrassed too, it's definitely teenage behaviour.

Better make sure you never move to the Netherlands. It's milk and/or buttermilk everyday with lunch, every single canteen in the country.

The 2L bottle of coke is definitely odd and a bit unneccesary, it must be a bit inpracticle carrying it around on a day out for a start.

Its new to me though that drinking fizzy drinks in general is a no-no for adults (well in MN world anyway). I quite often buy a bottle of coke or similar if I am on a day out and I am thirsy, and never considered it a childish thing to do. I have also seen plenty of adults drinking coke as a soft drink pubs, infact surely that is the got-to standard soft drink in pubs??

@coffeecupsandwaxmelts maybe some of those fizzy drinks are meant for the grown-ups who want mixers for their super healthy alcohol purchases. 😆

I wonder if there's any chance that he has diabetes? And maybe doesn't know? My dad developed T2 and he started drinking loads of fizzy lemonade (thirsty and the sugar, I guess, made him feel better) throughout the day.