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AldiBag4Life · 2023-04-30T20:31:50+00:00

My DD18 told me last week she found an item of jewellery in a grass verge randomly one day when she was out walking to work - 6 months ago. I recently complemented her wearing it and asked about it - she told me she found it and said she assumed it was just junk jewellery, but it turns out from my research when I looked at it the markings, it’s worth quite a lot of money. It has no personal inscription on it (its *not a ring) *and I haven’t seen a post on our local group from anyone who has lost anything although I did tell her she could put a post up and if anyone described it then she should give it back. She hasn’t put a post up and she is planning on keeping it, not cos it’s worth money she just likes it, she isn’t selling it. I’m kind of feeling weird about it because it might be sentimental to someone. WWYD?

Sinamin · 01/05/2023 00:03

spongebunnyfatpants · 30/04/2023 22:13

It's thief by finding, it's a criminal offence. She needs to take reasonable measures to find the owner. Contact the police and see if anyone has reported it lost or stolen, local Facebook post etc.

Yes this.

Your daughter is a sneaky little thief OP. It's not hers, she didn't buy it or in any other way acquire it legally and has kept quiet about it for half a year which itself shows that she knew it was wrong unless she has been very badly brought up and I don't believe that to be true.

What if it turned out to be a bit of vital evidence regarding a crime, probably against a woman if it's jewellery? Unlikely but also possible, how else could it have just been randomly lying on a grass verge without it's owner going back to recover it?

Keyan · 01/05/2023 00:05

Ofcourseshecan · 30/04/2023 23:43

Yes it is, in effect. OP was asking if keeping found jewellery is unreasonable. Advising someone to break the law is unreasonable.

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Hmm, well, respectfully, I don't agree with that.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 01/05/2023 00:07

Oh good grief… settle down everyone, the OP’s daughter found a bit of jewelry that had been laying there for who knows how long. She’s not Ma Barker setting out on a life of crime. It’s not the missing piece of evidence in the crime of the century. Nor will there be a panic in a few days when the Crown Jewels have turned up missing.

Keyan · 01/05/2023 00:10

saltinesandcoffeecups · 01/05/2023 00:07

Oh good grief… settle down everyone, the OP’s daughter found a bit of jewelry that had been laying there for who knows how long. She’s not Ma Barker setting out on a life of crime. It’s not the missing piece of evidence in the crime of the century. Nor will there be a panic in a few days when the Crown Jewels have turned up missing.

Exactly. People are whipping it up, to make the OP feel bad for some reason.

switswooo · 01/05/2023 00:11

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 30/04/2023 23:49

Not sure there’s much she can do. My relative found a bracelet in the park, was worth a few hundred.

What did your relative do? Leave it there? Hand it in to the police? Put up a 'jewellery found' sign? Post something on Facebook? Or did they just tell themselves that there was 'nothing they could do' and so use that pretext to justify keeping somebody else's property?

This was pre-Facebook in the 90s. She did try and repatriate the item from what I remember but can’t recall the details, I was very young.

Not sure why you’re giving me the third degree

Bayleaf25 · 01/05/2023 00:12

Really sad that your DD doesn’t want to find the true owner. My DD wears a non expensive piece of jewellery that was her late grandmother’s but would be really upset to lose it. Agree with the ‘do unto others as you would yourself’ sentiment.

Sinamin · 01/05/2023 00:13

saltinesandcoffeecups · 01/05/2023 00:07

Oh good grief… settle down everyone, the OP’s daughter found a bit of jewelry that had been laying there for who knows how long. She’s not Ma Barker setting out on a life of crime. It’s not the missing piece of evidence in the crime of the century. Nor will there be a panic in a few days when the Crown Jewels have turned up missing.

There's no settling down needed thanks.

The OPs daughter has committed a crime by not reporting it/handing it in to the police station. The value is immaterial, she has taken something that is not hers. The law is quite clear on this.

Georgeandzippyzoo · 01/05/2023 00:13

AldiBag4Life · 30/04/2023 22:40

I didn’t realise it was a crime but I have told DD18 to try find the owner. I will talk to her again

Do a search on fb ie if it was a Pandora bracelet search on posts to see if someone has posted over the last Yr.
As you say it could be very sentimental to someone , even worthless things can mean the earth to the owner , so your DD is being very unreasonable .

Livinginanotherworld · 01/05/2023 00:16

I’d be horrified and embarrassed if I’d brought my daughter up to be dishonest and lacking in integrity. It’s no better than stealing if she has not handed it into the police station. What a poor excuse for a human being, appalling !

brought

Underminer · 01/05/2023 00:18

My gran was robbed and the thief must’ve dropped some items as he ran away. All four items were returned, having been found in various places in a park by different people, she was so happy as my grandad had bought them for her and one item was her gran’s. She never got the rest back. Could well be the case here, someone desperately hoping to be reunited with it.

switswooo · 01/05/2023 00:18

Sinamin · 01/05/2023 00:13

There's no settling down needed thanks.

The OPs daughter has committed a crime by not reporting it/handing it in to the police station. The value is immaterial, she has taken something that is not hers. The law is quite clear on this.

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I think saltine is right and people do need to settle down.

There’s no way I would have known to take found property to the police at 18.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 01/05/2023 00:22

Sinamin · 01/05/2023 00:13

There's no settling down needed thanks.

The OPs daughter has committed a crime by not reporting it/handing it in to the police station. The value is immaterial, she has taken something that is not hers. The law is quite clear on this.

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We’ll clearly the OP should call the police and report this heinous crime, along with disowning her and publicly shaming her.

You know, I think it’s time to make public stocks a thing again. She can pass out rotten fruit and veg to drive the point home.

SleepingStandingUp · 01/05/2023 00:23

switswooo · 30/04/2023 23:33

Not sure there’s much she can do. My relative found a bracelet in the park, was worth a few hundred.

Of course there is, we live in a world of social media. I'm sure the 28 yo can work out how to put a post up in a local site. As should your relative.

Livinginanotherworld · 01/05/2023 00:23

Really ? You obviously weren’t brought up very well then ? I think I knew that from primary school.

NBLarsen · 01/05/2023 00:23

Does your daughter have no empathy or social conscience at all? Greedy and selfish. As many others have pointed out, that piece of jewellery belongs to someone and is likely to be sentimental and missed.
Don't just do a facebook post, that relies on the right person using facebook and being in a particular group. The right thing to do is hand it in to the police. If it's lost through burglary or mugging etc it will have been reported missing.

Livinginanotherworld · 01/05/2023 00:24

That was a quote malfunction, I was addressing it to switswooo.

switswooo · 01/05/2023 00:25

Livinginanotherworld · 01/05/2023 00:23

Really ? You obviously weren’t brought up very well then ? I think I knew that from primary school.

I struggle believe to believe someone as judgemental as you would hand in lost property. You’d be straight down to the pawn shop.

HerMammy · 01/05/2023 00:27

I’d be horrified and embarrassed if I’d brought my daughter up to be dishonest and lacking in integrity. It’s no better than stealing if she has not handed it into the police station. What a poor excuse for a human being, appalling !

Good god, what an awful overreaction, she's not robbed a bank.

switswooo · 01/05/2023 00:27

SleepingStandingUp · 01/05/2023 00:23

Of course there is, we live in a world of social media. I'm sure the 28 yo can work out how to put a post up in a local site. As should your relative.

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She’s 18, not 28.

And I said it was in the 90s. Did you have Facebook in the 90s? Go perfect you.

SleepingStandingUp · 01/05/2023 00:27

Sinamin · 01/05/2023 00:03

Yes this.

Your daughter is a sneaky little thief OP. It's not hers, she didn't buy it or in any other way acquire it legally and has kept quiet about it for half a year which itself shows that she knew it was wrong unless she has been very badly brought up and I don't believe that to be true.

What if it turned out to be a bit of vital evidence regarding a crime, probably against a woman if it's jewellery? Unlikely but also possible, how else could it have just been randomly lying on a grass verge without it's owner going back to recover it?

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She didn't hide it for 6 months. She wore it recently, op asked about it, she said she'd found it 6 months ago. Hardly the same as hiding it away until the trail goes cold.

And yes I agree she should try and find the owner.

But I think labelling her a thief when to her immature perspective (gvie she's only just an adult with an u matured brain) she just kept something she found, is unfair.

Now she knows better, she should do better tho.

Beenaroundtheblocktoomanytimes · 01/05/2023 00:29

Shocked at your casual attitude and lack of morals.

Keep it????

Tell her to do the right thing and hand it in to police

SleepingStandingUp · 01/05/2023 00:29

switswooo · 01/05/2023 00:27

She’s 18, not 28.

And I said it was in the 90s. Did you have Facebook in the 90s? Go perfect you.

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Yeah my bad on the age typo.
I missed the 90s comment, but they had invented paper by then for making signs with and there were far more local police stations to visit than today. So yes, your family member should have done something.

ScribblingPixie · 01/05/2023 00:29

I think it's quite important that she learns to do the right thing. It really should be first instinct to think that the owner must be upset at losing it so how can can I best find them and return it.

EmmaEmerald · 01/05/2023 00:30

saltinesandcoffeecups · 01/05/2023 00:07

Oh good grief… settle down everyone, the OP’s daughter found a bit of jewelry that had been laying there for who knows how long. She’s not Ma Barker setting out on a life of crime. It’s not the missing piece of evidence in the crime of the century. Nor will there be a panic in a few days when the Crown Jewels have turned up missing.

My thoughts too
seriously OTT responses

Viviennemary · 01/05/2023 00:32

She is a thief. The item should be handed in at a police station.