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To hate these god awful acronyms people use on Mumsnet?!

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gentlemum · 29/04/2023 20:39

I'm new to Mumsnet and clearly this is how things are done on here, but does no one else cringe at the ridiculous acronyms people use on here?! Why can't you just say my son, my husband etc.. just something that irks me! 🙃

OP posts:
JMSA · 30/04/2023 06:58

Agreed and I have never used them. I always type 'daughter' or whatever as normal.

mainsfed · 30/04/2023 07:04

CoalCraft · 30/04/2023 05:37

I don't mind them but I think if you're gonna use them, you have to be tolerant of people who use "hubby", "kiddo", etc. "Darling husband" is hardly any less cringe, really.

The D is expedient because it can stand for a number of words (dear, dickhead, etc).

MH or MC (my husband or my child) wouldn’t work because you can’t use it when talking about someone else’s husband/child.

You’re not literally meant to be thinking darling!

ImustLearn2Cook · 30/04/2023 07:08

@gentlemum I started thinking about your OP and how acronyms have been used long before the internet. So, I googled it thinking that I’ll learn about the history of acronyms.

I haven’t yet come across an article discussing the history of acronyms before the internet, but I did come across an interesting article on grammarly.

And, not to be a grammar nazi, but what you are referring to as acronyms are actually initialisms.

https://www.grammarly.com/blog/abbreviations/

Typically, acronyms and initialisms are written in all capital letters to distinguish them from ordinary words. (When fully spelled out, the words in acronyms and initialisms do not need to be capitalized unless they entail a proper noun.)
An acronym is pronounced as a single word, rather than as a series of letters. NASA, for instance, is an acronym. It stands for National Aeronautics and Space Administration. Occasionally, an acronym becomes so commonplace that it evolves into an ordinary word that people no longer think of as an acronym. The words scuba and laser, for instance, originated as acronyms (self contained underwater
breathing apparatus and light amplification by stimulated emission of radiation, respectively).
Initialisms are similar to acronyms in that they are also formed using the first letter of each word in a longer phrase. Unlike acronyms, however, initialisms are pronounced as a series of letters. NFL(National Football League), for example, is pronounced en-eff-ell.
If you need to use an indefinite articlebefore an acronym or initialism, use the initial sound of the word (not necessarily the initial letter) guide your choice.
Internet slang often takes the form of initialisms: LOL, IDK, IMO, BRB. Although this type of slang isn’t appropriate for important correspondence like emails to your professor or colleagues, or in online comments when you want to be taken seriously, it can be handy for informal online chatting, especially if you type slowly.

What Are Proper Nouns, and How Do I Use Them?

A proper noun is a specific (i.e., not generic) name for a particular person, place, or thing. Proper nouns are always capitalized in…

https://www.grammarly.com/blog/proper-nouns/

AuntieStella · 30/04/2023 07:13

CoalCraft · 30/04/2023 05:37

I don't mind them but I think if you're gonna use them, you have to be tolerant of people who use "hubby", "kiddo", etc. "Darling husband" is hardly any less cringe, really.

They're more cringe on MN, which has an established lingo.

It's a community with an established language all of its own, and there's no particular reason to "have to be tolerant" of those who come in and start telling us off, especially when they're being illogical (ie saying that other speech habits are on an equal footing on MN as the actual MN speech habits)

If you want a "hubby" "kiddo" (and "hun"!) type site, there are plenty that use that language, and which wouldn't be particularly welcoming to MN typical posting style

Lex345 · 30/04/2023 07:16

I definitely find it easier to follow if someone uses DH/DS/DD etc especially if its a long post.

If you find these annoying, I can't imagine you will enjoy some of the older sranding jokes that get slipped in to threads, naice ham/penis beaker etc

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 30/04/2023 07:19

HTH acronym list (although I agree that they are abbreviations, not acronyms)

The D prefix could be Dear or Darling. The effect is much the same.

As with all written communication, context is all.

bozzabollix · 30/04/2023 07:23

My husband would think I’d gone demented if I called him darling.

Equally agree it’s cloying.

AuntieStella · 30/04/2023 07:27

bozzabollix · 30/04/2023 07:23

My husband would think I’d gone demented if I called him darling.

Equally agree it’s cloying.

If you find the established language of MN cloying (or not for you for any reason) there are hundreds of other chat sites where there are different norms and you may well feel more at home.

And despite MN listing only a nice interpretation "D" is a remarkable useful letter - daft, damned, dickbrained etc.

midsomermurderess · 30/04/2023 07:29

Blimey, some people are taking this weirdly personally.

PerryMenno · 30/04/2023 07:31

gentlemum · 29/04/2023 22:03

It's an opinion.. something I find mildly irritating and just don't understand the point of. And by the comments appears I am in no way the only one. As you and other people have commented, I'm new and not part of your established club with, I quote, 'fun rules' (didn't read these rules anywhere..) so it shouldn't matter to you what I think 😌

Have you only just discovered the Internet?

Loads of people have explained to you that DH, DD etc are not some special cliquey thing unique to Mumsnet. I see them on the US based cruise ship forum I'm on. And the Australian home improvement forum. Both of which also have their own common initialsations which have developed over time.

mainsfed · 30/04/2023 07:33

midsomermurderess · 30/04/2023 07:29

Blimey, some people are taking this weirdly personally.

Are they? I just see people schooling a newbie who thinks it’s clever to call everyone sheep.

ImustLearn2Cook · 30/04/2023 07:40

I just found the page where Mumsnet has a list of acronyms (initialisms) commonly used on Mumsnet.

However, I think some of them might be wrong. CF on this list stands for cystic fibrosis. I thought it was commonly used on Mumsnet to stand for cheeky fucker.

https://www.mumsnet.com/i/acronyms

Acronyms List | Mumsnet

What exactly does AIBU mean? Read the full list of acronyms and abbreviations you will find on our forums, including both Mumsnet specific and general terms.

https://www.mumsnet.com/i/acronyms

Sandunesandseashells · 30/04/2023 07:48

As usual, age will play a big part and those who are too young to remember mobiles before predictive text may miss the point. Letters were arranged by 3 or 4 on one button e.g. pqrs which would mean pressing the button once for a p or 4x for an s therefore any word with multiple s’s in took ages to spell out and so ad-infinitum. Initialisms were essential to sending or replying to texts quickly and took on a language of its own but as all things do, it became untrendy as phones progressed. This is why kk was quicker than ok despite having the same number of letters, yy quicker than yes etc.

mainsfed · 30/04/2023 07:50

ImustLearn2Cook · 30/04/2023 07:40

I just found the page where Mumsnet has a list of acronyms (initialisms) commonly used on Mumsnet.

However, I think some of them might be wrong. CF on this list stands for cystic fibrosis. I thought it was commonly used on Mumsnet to stand for cheeky fucker.

https://www.mumsnet.com/i/acronyms

Context is key.

My SIL has CF and can’t work

vs

My neighbour is a CF using my washing line

sashh · 30/04/2023 07:50

Some of it predates chatrooms, my mother often referred to her MIL.

TriesHardButOftenFails · 30/04/2023 08:07

my eternal thanks to the poster who gave the link to the Mumsnet (MN) list of acronyms. Very useful.
YLAL.

EdieLedwell · 30/04/2023 08:20

I was on Babycenter 23 years ago and dh, ds, dd were all in use.

It's the vernacular of forums for years.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 30/04/2023 08:24

I can’t say they’ve ever bothered me, except perhaps for on the very first forum I ever joined, over 20 years ago now, when it took me a while to work out who were all these dh’s they were on about. Dopey Herbert? Daft Harry?
It didn’t take too long to dawn, though.

pictoosh · 30/04/2023 09:11

This has made me laugh. These acronyms have been widely used on internet forums forever. Have you only twigged on to the internet OP? Or as my dad used to say, "that intranet" - he was clueless about it.

Your confusion is about 30 years too late but thank you for being so uppity and rude about it. You tell us.

ImustLearn2Cook · 30/04/2023 09:55

mainsfed · 30/04/2023 07:50

Context is key.

My SIL has CF and can’t work

vs

My neighbour is a CF using my washing line

Yes I know context is key. For other initialisms that had more than one meaning depending on context they listed them all. But not for CF, they only listed cystic fibrosis. Considering how often it is used on Mumsnet in reference to cheeky fucks I would have thought it would have been included. That’s all. I’m not trying to be pedantic. Just highlighting that there is a list on Mumsnet that can be used as a reference to help newcomers be able to read the threads more easily. But be aware that not all initialisms will be comprehensively included.

ImustLearn2Cook · 30/04/2023 10:10

@TriesHardButOftenFails Glad to be of service. I used it a bit in the beginning but it is in need of updating and adding to. Mumsnet should ask us to help them with that.

I looked up YLAL but it wasn’t there. Then I googled it and all that came up was YLYL (you laugh you lose or you live, you learn). So, I am guessing YLAL stands for you live and learn. Is that correct? See, I am still learning 😆

switswooo · 30/04/2023 10:15

SauvignonBlanche · 29/04/2023 22:32

If you see the MN abbreviation and acronym list I posted earlier

https://www.mumsnet.com/i/acronyms

RTFT is definitely Read the fucking thread 😁

Thanks for posting

sashh · 30/04/2023 11:25

pictoosh · 30/04/2023 09:11

This has made me laugh. These acronyms have been widely used on internet forums forever. Have you only twigged on to the internet OP? Or as my dad used to say, "that intranet" - he was clueless about it.

Your confusion is about 30 years too late but thank you for being so uppity and rude about it. You tell us.

You do know that 'intranet' is a thing?

midsomermurderess · 30/04/2023 11:37

‘schooling a newbie’. Christ, that is cringe making.

mainsfed · 30/04/2023 11:39

midsomermurderess · 30/04/2023 11:37

‘schooling a newbie’. Christ, that is cringe making.

No more than calling millions of women sheep, surely?