to think there's no upper age limit to wear jeans?

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My mum has always had some weird ideas about what's age appropriate for adults. Women over 30 shouldn't have long hair, for example.

She was telling me yesterday about having lunch with a friend who is in her 80s and turned up wearing jeans. "What's she doing wearing jeans at her age?" I suggested that she might be happy wearing jeans and comfortable in them and that there isn't an age limit. Oh yes there are, says Mum, "older people" shouldn't be wearing jeans.

Weirdo, isn't she?

That's my theory, @paradoxicalfrog . Wear what you want. There are no "rules". OK, I wouldn't want to wear some of the outfits my 17 year old wears, but that is through choice not because of an unwritten rule.

We don't care, @BitchFaceResting .

@BitchFaceResting u ok hun? Maybe we are all wearing jeans JUST to annoy you and your judgemental ways….!

My mum was like yours OP, until the day I turned up at her house wearing skinny jeans, baggy top, cons and sporting a bright red spikey hairdo at the grand old age of 48. I think that was the day she accepted defeat and never mentioned "appropriate dress sense and hair style" again. Bless her.

My OH is 59 and only started wearing jeans a few years ago. He never wore them in his youth or middle age! (He was grossly overweight and looked stupid in jeans, hence why he never wore them). He's finally lost his weight (seven stones) and first new clothes he bought were jeans, now his wardrobe is full of them and he wears nothing else. I have to admit his, now, small tight bum looks really good in them!

Don't care

HTH

I thought "sadly deluded" had died a death with the Covid threads. Apparently not.

The grotesque fetishisation of youth is so so scary. The idea that any grown woman will never achieve the ‘right body’ and women can only look good when they’re still children/teens… 🤢 why would anyone think that you can only look good when you’re a 16 year old girl?

😂🤣 thank you I was in a right grump , this given me my first laugh of the day

I remember seeing an online thing about it recently, where someone was fawning over a pic of Anne Hathaway, saying omg can you believe she’s 30, she must be a vampire etc. Someone had replied with that photo of Prince Philip and the caption ‘what society thinks any woman over 20 looks like.’

Your mum sounds as if she might have had critical parents herself and has just absorbed that and passed it on. It's sad really. Imagine having that sniping critic as your inner voice.
My mum was the same. It's a tricky inner voice to rid yourself of.
Best to nod, smile and take absolutely no notice of her sad rules. 😊

Very good point @Kanaloa

I'm still reeling that frumpy floral dresses that looked "middle-aged" in the 80s have swung round into fashion again.
I just can't.

I'll stick with my denim, dungarees, and long plaits despite having to keep scrolling down the year of birth on online forms.
There's no point in prematurely aging yourself once you're an adult.

I think I take the wear what you want too far. Dad (60) and I (female, 40) turned up separately to do a messy job/trip to the tip and we were both wearing karki cargo bottoms and a black t-shirt. Does anyone else dress like their Dad? 😂

😂😂Denim Act :)

OP I think your mum has found your thread!

Your mum is right. There was a little known law passed some years ago saying women mustn’t have long hair or wear jeans once they reach 25. I believe it’s a life sentence with no chance of parole and predominantly time spent in solitary confinement. It’s surprising more don’t know about the legalities of such things….

(YANBU!)

I'm 67 I wear jeans, t- shirt and trainers every day. It's the clothing of my youth and I see no reason to exchange them for a nice twin set and tweed skirt. Rock on!

We are on this earth for a tiny blip of time. People who make up silly rules like this irritate me so much. Your mother is in danger of one day being remembered as a judgemental cow. I would rather be remembered as someone who worse jeans into my 80s!

Wore not worse! 😂

You're probably onto something there - I never met my mum's dad as he died when she was a teenager but knew her mum well. She would ALWAYS make comments when my sister and I were wearing skirts/dresses about how nice it was to see us dressed properly. Never made comments about seeing us in trousers, but the criticism was implicit. I don't think she ever wore trousers in her life.

I have a relative in their eighties who wears sparkly jeans!! My late MIL made dh when young change out of his jeans when going up the town as jeans where not proper trousers and for playing or working in only.
Though I notice a lot of young people don't wear them the same and same to prefer leggings or joggers. Remember reading once that teenagers and young adults don't want to be seen wearing the same clothes as their parents hence the joggers etc as our generation still are wearing jeans. Of course not a hard and fast rule.

The grotesque fetishisation of youth is so so scary. The idea that any grown woman will never achieve the ‘right body’ and women can only look good when they’re still children/teens… 🤢 why would anyone think that you can only look good when you’re a 16 year old girl?

This in spades. Also I'm presuming that poster hasn't met many 16 year old girls because these days they come in all shapes and sizes, not necessarily the 'perfect' one, whatever that is.

I had very short hair for most of my adult life and was often told that it wasn't feminine. Very odd because I've never been mistaken for a bloke. Now, post menopause, my hair is a bit longer and looks exactly like I've had an 80s curly perm ! Still wearing my jeans though.

I'm 55, I have short hair (but it is often interesting colours) and I wear whatever the hell I want. I feel more comfortable in dresses, but they will be colourful, teamed with tights in crazy colours and patterns, and I wear colourful ankle boots too.

My mum died when she was 78 and wore tie dye leggings, multicoloured shirts and whatever she wanted right up until the end.

I think the 'traditional old lady' style of dress and hair is vanishing, and a good thing too.