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Drinking before school pick up

65 replies

Wowwhatasunset · 26/04/2023 21:13

Is it wrong?
Have you ever done it?

I live abroad and summer is approaching, it’s hot, tourists are here, beautiful days at the beach, lunches out, cocktails etc
Dd started school in September and I started back working part time, including some weekends, it’s all busy and rushed and I’ve worked it so I can have a Friday off.
A couple of friends suggested we started a weekly yoga class and then go for lunch and a glass of something/cocktail
Would this be weird? To then go to school pick up? I’d walk as live very nearby.
Just feel weird about it, getting paranoid a teacher would smell my breath or something 🙈
I would not be drunk obviously.
It just wasn’t the same in the U.K. but it’s v different here.
Aibu to feel weird about it?

OP posts:
Wowwhatasunset · 26/04/2023 21:14

*Live nearby, not very nearby 🙄

OP posts:
YukoandHiro · 26/04/2023 21:15

A glass of wine over Friday lunch socially or a weekday business lunch is fine as long as you're not driving to pick up the kids.

Hamsterwheel21 · 26/04/2023 21:16

Sounds like a lovely Friday afternoon. As long as you’re not drunk and know your limits, you’re not driving so go enjoy!

onepieceoflollipop · 26/04/2023 21:17

I work shifts so have occasionally done similar
it just means you are having your weekend on a different day
It’s the same as having a glass of wine or two with Sunday lunch or Saturday afternoon tea with Prosecco

GraysPapaya · 26/04/2023 21:17

I can't see an issue with this! I'm quite jealous of your Friday to be honest, yoga and a cocktail in the sun!

CharlotteUnaNatalieThompson · 26/04/2023 21:17

I did this a few times when my son's were in school. Totally fine as long as you're not pissed and driving

ILikePizzas · 26/04/2023 21:33

I think there is a spectrum between tee-total and turning up in slippers and onesie after a day of drinking neat gin on the sofa and commenting on Mumsnet.................

BluebellBlueballs · 26/04/2023 21:35

So long as you're not slurring your words or stumbling about I'm sure you'll be fine...

Nursejackie1 · 26/04/2023 21:47

ILikePizzas · 26/04/2023 21:33

I think there is a spectrum between tee-total and turning up in slippers and onesie after a day of drinking neat gin on the sofa and commenting on Mumsnet.................

Are you sure you aren’t insinuating it’s fine to get sloshed if you are middle class over a posh lunch but disgusting if you are skint and having a few cans/cheap gin … alcohol is alcohol a however you dress it up

Killerqueef · 26/04/2023 21:49

If you’re not drunk and not driving then I don’t see the problem

Reluctantadult · 26/04/2023 21:50

Sounds amazing. Where do you live 🤔😁

ILikePizzas · 26/04/2023 21:51

Nursejackie1 · 26/04/2023 21:47

Are you sure you aren’t insinuating it’s fine to get sloshed if you are middle class over a posh lunch but disgusting if you are skint and having a few cans/cheap gin … alcohol is alcohol a however you dress it up

I thought I'd made a pretty innocent comment, but I see I have attracted the Mumsnet "I take a sip of sherry at Christmas then birch myself" brigade. Blimey. Some people are just desperate to take offence, aren't you?

strawberryfluff · 26/04/2023 21:51

I wouldn't because I really can't handle my drink and one drink would render me useless as supervising my child.

Sissynova · 26/04/2023 21:54

Total non issue imo. DH and I regularly take a Friday afternoon off to go out for a nice lunch and have a glass of wine or two then head back to do nursery pick up.

ShirleyPhallus · 26/04/2023 21:55

ILikePizzas · 26/04/2023 21:51

I thought I'd made a pretty innocent comment, but I see I have attracted the Mumsnet "I take a sip of sherry at Christmas then birch myself" brigade. Blimey. Some people are just desperate to take offence, aren't you?

🤣within about 5 posts too

”sounds like you could have an alcohol problem, OP”

Offthexmaslist · 26/04/2023 21:55

Goodness me is MN unclenching ?? Is it not the mantra that any consumption of alcohol beyond a small glass of Prosecco at Christmas... is tantamount to a life forever lost to alcoholism and child neglect . ?
A COCKTAIL?
ON A FRIDAY LUNCHTIME ?
BEFORE PICKING UP SOLE CHARGE OF KIDS ?

Give your head a wobble and report yourself to social services at once .

onepieceoflollipop · 26/04/2023 21:55

I read Pizzas comment as referring to quantity I.e. one or two drinks fine (even if it’s cheap!), totally sloshed not fine (even if it’s posh cocktails!)

EllieM27 · 26/04/2023 21:57

I voted YABU because I think it’s fine but looking at the results was I supposed to vote YANBU if I think it’s fine? 🤔

Anyway, it’s fine. Few things are better than a mojito on a summer afternoon!

hairdresserbreakup · 26/04/2023 21:58

Offthexmaslist · 26/04/2023 21:55

Goodness me is MN unclenching ?? Is it not the mantra that any consumption of alcohol beyond a small glass of Prosecco at Christmas... is tantamount to a life forever lost to alcoholism and child neglect . ?
A COCKTAIL?
ON A FRIDAY LUNCHTIME ?
BEFORE PICKING UP SOLE CHARGE OF KIDS ?

Give your head a wobble and report yourself to social services at once .

😁 exactly my thoughts. This is a fickle, fickle place.

OP - it sounds lovely! I'm sure, as PP have said, as long as you don't turn up hammered, it will be fine. Enjoy!

Killerqueef · 26/04/2023 22:01

Offthexmaslist · 26/04/2023 21:55

Goodness me is MN unclenching ?? Is it not the mantra that any consumption of alcohol beyond a small glass of Prosecco at Christmas... is tantamount to a life forever lost to alcoholism and child neglect . ?
A COCKTAIL?
ON A FRIDAY LUNCHTIME ?
BEFORE PICKING UP SOLE CHARGE OF KIDS ?

Give your head a wobble and report yourself to social services at once .

It’s because she is abroad. It’s culture, innit

Yellowdays · 26/04/2023 22:06

I can't imagine doing it. I'd never relax enough to enjoy it if I knew I had kids to contend with afterwards.

Kablea · 26/04/2023 22:07

What?! I wouldn’t give this a second thought? One of our favourite things to do is to take a day off work (when the child is in nursery), go out and do all the things we can’t (galleries, leisurely shopping, then a slap up lunch and share a bottle of wine, maybe even have a digestive). I didn’t realise this was a prisonable offence?

ILikePizzas · 26/04/2023 22:08

onepieceoflollipop · 26/04/2023 21:55

I read Pizzas comment as referring to quantity I.e. one or two drinks fine (even if it’s cheap!), totally sloshed not fine (even if it’s posh cocktails!)

Thank you. It was. I didn't have class (or class hate) in mind when I wrote that comment.

ziggiestardust · 26/04/2023 22:08

That sounds lovely OP. Go and enjoy yourself!

NamelessNancy · 26/04/2023 22:19

"Abroad" is a big and varied place. I can't see anything wrong with it tbh as not driving but really how it is interpreted depends on the specifics of the culture wherever you are OP. Middle east - probably not a great idea, Mediterranean Europe probably perfectly Ok. From what you've said I think it probably does fit in with local culture so no problem.