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To be so bloody happy to have another BOY on the way

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blueberry23 · 26/04/2023 19:41

Lighthearted thread

But I see so many threads with gender disappointment towards having a boy

My reasons for being over the moon for DS#2 in my tummy....,,

I will remain queen of my house (bar the dogs!)
Boys adore their mummies
Less emotions to manage
Less pink and glitter hopefully 🤣
Brothers
Dirty knees and climbing trees and rough and tumble

I'm just here for it all

What are your reasons if you love being a boy mum like me?

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SherbetDips · 26/04/2023 21:11

Well done 👏

AutumnCrow · 26/04/2023 21:11

My boy bubba from my tummy wummy has wrote poetry and that why i luffs him and there's nuffink rong wif that

GirlOfTudor · 26/04/2023 21:11

I'd be happy to have another boy because it would save money on clothes. The majority of what we bought for our 1st were very masculine colours. Whilst my husband doesn't care about colours and genders, I can't help but care!

Clarabella77 · 26/04/2023 21:12

Sissynova · 26/04/2023 19:47

Sounds like a ridiculous outlook.

Do girls not climb trees? Do they not love their mummies? Why would a boy be less emotional?

I find these ‘oh it’s so lighthearted and funny’ posts which actually just contain raging and damaging sexism quite depressing.

Agree.

TheOrigRights · 26/04/2023 21:12

Can you not buy your own razors?

Yes. I was being light hearted, but thought that was clear.

legalseagull · 26/04/2023 21:12

God what sexist tripe. Girls can climb trees and boys can like glitter (my 4yo currently has pink nail varnish on). All kids should love their mums.

I don't understand why people put these stereotypes on their kids.

strawberryfluff · 26/04/2023 21:13

Scalottia · 26/04/2023 20:59

Agree. I know OP wrote lighthearted, but her post has really annoyed me.

Also...DS in my tummy? ffs.

Less emotions to manage my arse.

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Totally agree. Just saying something is lighthearted doesn't make the underlying issues any less relevant for discussion

OKwhatsNext · 26/04/2023 21:13

Aww congrats op.
I have two boys, I absolutely adore them. They are so lovely and kind and the mummy cuddles are INSANE.

We decided to have a third baby, we were absolutely convinced we would have 3 boys, no idea why other than I couldnt imagine otherwise I guess! I loved being a boy mum. Lo and behold though we had a girl! And she is just magnificent.

I can tell you so far there is absolutely no difference whatsoever other than what's in the nappy. They eat, shit, cry and cuddle the same 😂 I have no favourites, no stronger feelings in any direction. They are amazing for the individuals they are. My eldest is so bright and funny, my youngest son is so gentle and affectionate, my little girl is as strong as an Ox 💪 What IS annoying though is every single person I meet telling me I had a third baby to have a girl. Now that pisses me right off!

Embrace the news your baby is well and look forward to those unbeatable new baby cuddles 😻 nothing better (jealous 😍)

MakesMeFeelSad · 26/04/2023 21:13

Cantthinkofaname2203 · 26/04/2023 21:03

So you prefer your boy? Describing him as “the love of your life”.

your girls aren’t? They’re just a poor second.

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"my little boy was the love of my life"

I wouldn't be questioning someone who put was in a sentance like that

Can you not see why that might not be the best idea?

Newnamenewname109870 · 26/04/2023 21:13

blueberry23 · 26/04/2023 19:41

Lighthearted thread

But I see so many threads with gender disappointment towards having a boy

My reasons for being over the moon for DS#2 in my tummy....,,

I will remain queen of my house (bar the dogs!)
Boys adore their mummies
Less emotions to manage
Less pink and glitter hopefully 🤣
Brothers
Dirty knees and climbing trees and rough and tumble

I'm just here for it all

What are your reasons if you love being a boy mum like me?

But this is all just massive sexist assumptions which is why people want boys or girls in the first place.

If I had another it would be because I love the fact there is a brand new human growing inside me and he will be totally his own! I guess very sex specific, hopefully less harassment!

JamSandle · 26/04/2023 21:14

Less emotions to manage? Not true at all.

BiscuitLover3678 · 26/04/2023 21:15

This kind of post actually really annoys me because it’s so sexist! Actually he might love glitter and be really emotional and yes he would love you just as much as a girl would.

GemmaFoster · 26/04/2023 21:15

Cantthinkofaname2203 · 26/04/2023 21:03

So you prefer your boy? Describing him as “the love of your life”.

your girls aren’t? They’re just a poor second.

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My girls would never be a poor second. But my beautiful boy was always more huggy & cuddly until the day he died at 20 years old. Just a different relationship with my beautiful daughters who I love immensely.

Rosebel · 26/04/2023 21:15

My son is a total daddy's boy, my friends son is also a daddy's boy so not sure boys do love their mum's more. All children are lovely. I have 2 girls who were in to pink and glitter but not now. I also have a little boy now and he is rough and tumble but that could always change.
As long as they're happy that's what matters.

Comedycook · 26/04/2023 21:15

Less emotions to manage?! I have a teenage ds and I can assure you this is not true..

BiscuitLover3678 · 26/04/2023 21:16

legalseagull · 26/04/2023 21:12

God what sexist tripe. Girls can climb trees and boys can like glitter (my 4yo currently has pink nail varnish on). All kids should love their mums.

I don't understand why people put these stereotypes on their kids.

It’s why people get gender disappointment in the first place. Sorry this isn’t going the way you want op!

Inthebitterend · 26/04/2023 21:17

Also why do people refer to themselves as a boy mum or a girl mum?

You're just a mum. I have one child, a girl, and I have not once referred to myself as a girl mum.

How cringey.

OCDmama · 26/04/2023 21:17

Jeez sexism much? I've got one of each. He's a baby now but the boy is already much more difficult to look after!

I should probably tell my daughter to stop climbing trees...

Babycakes6 · 26/04/2023 21:17

No, thanks 🙄

MuMmaOf3littles · 26/04/2023 21:17

I'm in a completely outnumbered household with boys. I've got one daughter who's a complete Daddy's girl and two boys who are both Mummy's boys through and through (which I secretly love). I'm due our 4th and final baby in July - another BOY 😃

strawberryfluff · 26/04/2023 21:18

It's actually disgusting

Bethany7 · 26/04/2023 21:18

I have a boy and a girl and girls are definitely harder in my opinion!
Of course I adore my daughter who is my second but I genuinely didn't mind if I had had another boy at all. (I didn't find out)
Every child is a blessing and my chn bring me equal amounts of joy.

Congrats O.P!

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 26/04/2023 21:18

Cantthinkofaname2203 · 26/04/2023 20:23

Can you not see though that the o/p’s post is precisely why people have gender disappointment?

they want nice, clean, well behaved girls they can dress in pink and sparkles. That sit and craft and not spend hours in the freezing cold playing in the mud.

they don’t want a dirty greedy boy (my mil’s description of her son as a baby).

the sooner we get rid of these toxic stereotypes and people get their heads around rugby playing girls and ballet dancing boys, the sooner people will accept that their baby might not be a collection of stereotypes and they might not get what they want, even if the sex matches up.

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Exactly.

Iamuhtredsonofuhtred · 26/04/2023 21:19

Less emotion? I’ve got 2 of each and my 6 year old boy is the most dramatic and emotional out of all!

TeaAndTwoSugars · 26/04/2023 21:19

Less emotions to manage 😂i have a nearly 3 year old boy and that is definitely not the case.