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To be so bloody happy to have another BOY on the way

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blueberry23 · 26/04/2023 19:41

Lighthearted thread

But I see so many threads with gender disappointment towards having a boy

My reasons for being over the moon for DS#2 in my tummy....,,

I will remain queen of my house (bar the dogs!)
Boys adore their mummies
Less emotions to manage
Less pink and glitter hopefully 🤣
Brothers
Dirty knees and climbing trees and rough and tumble

I'm just here for it all

What are your reasons if you love being a boy mum like me?

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blueberry23 · 26/04/2023 19:52

@Sissynova no you're misunderstanding 🤣 I mean that the mother/son relationship is such a special one and I find my DS and nephews to be so loving and protective towards their mothers. I think it's lovely 😊 of course I'm not saying girls don't love their mums. It's just different. No need to take offence :)

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pillsthrillsandbellyache · 26/04/2023 19:52

I have one of each. Its my girl who's for the rough and tumble, climbing trees and scraped knees. Her clothes get wrecked. My boy is the sensitive emotional one. I love the pink and glitter though. Cos she likes both 🤗

Summerof76a · 26/04/2023 19:53

What's wrong with pink?

HinCogNeetOh · 26/04/2023 19:53
Confused Little Girl GIF

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Itsbritneybitch22 · 26/04/2023 19:54

Congratulations on your 2nd boy 💙 💙

Less emotions to deal with for boys had me spit my tea out because my boys all 5 of them have been full of emotions much more than the girls, soooo dramatic and you have to make sure to help them with it because they will grow into men that need them emotions very much in check

My oldest 2 are amazing young men were all so close honesty it just gets better, all the stereotypes including the ones you’ve listed are why people are against having lots of boys but in reality no 2 boys will be the same, they will have each other as best friends forever its going to be a lovely life 💙💙

Throwawaynames · 26/04/2023 19:54

What's the point coming on this thread being like oh well my girl... no one really cares and it's not what the thread is about.

OP is probably posting this because time after time after time there is a thread about gender disappointment because the unborn baby's sex is male.

OP is just saying she's happy she's having a boy and asked what other boy mums love about being a boy mum... you don't need to come here and mention your girls.

(I have both).

My favourite thing about being a boy mum is I can't believe how much I know about dinosaurs and tractors now 😂

Oysterbabe · 26/04/2023 19:54

Boys have plenty of emotions. They're just conditioned to suppress and hide them by sexist shite like this thread.

Kranke · 26/04/2023 19:55

I have a toddler. Love them to pieces. They love mummy and daddy and shout for both. Get lots of kisses and cuddles from them. They wear pink, blue, green, rainbows, trucks, unicorn, and every other print under the sun. Loves books, trains, dolls, play kitchens, climbing everything and everyone. Has tantrums, loves apples and chorizo, hates rice. Would love another one.

MaryJean87 · 26/04/2023 19:57

Congrats. I've got 2 boys and 2 girls and they are all so different.The stereotypes aren't always true.

Sissynova · 26/04/2023 19:57

blueberry23 · 26/04/2023 19:52

@Sissynova no you're misunderstanding 🤣 I mean that the mother/son relationship is such a special one and I find my DS and nephews to be so loving and protective towards their mothers. I think it's lovely 😊 of course I'm not saying girls don't love their mums. It's just different. No need to take offence :)

What a weird takeaway. I’m not offended I just think your posts are depressing.

Hopefully the ‘boys have less emotions’ isn’t something you actively push on them because I think every early years professional or teacher would disagree with you.

Blossomtoes · 26/04/2023 19:58

SlashBeef · 26/04/2023 19:52

I think my boys must be broken..

Mine certainly is.

Wait til you’re a mil @blueberry23.

ExhaustedPigwidgeon · 26/04/2023 19:59

Boys don’t have less emotions that’s an ignorant and sexist thing to say.

i mean the whole thing is depressing sexist shit really

justmyluck1234 · 26/04/2023 19:59

I'd have been happy either way; but I've got my second boy due in a few weeks time and am over the moon. 💙

Skyeheather · 26/04/2023 20:00

Cantthinkofaname2203 · 26/04/2023 19:43

I know you said lighthearted but your post embodies all the reasons people have gender disappointment.

can you articulate why you are happy to be having a boy without resorting to gender stereotypes?

🤣🤣😀

Kranke · 26/04/2023 20:01

Throwawaynames · 26/04/2023 19:54

What's the point coming on this thread being like oh well my girl... no one really cares and it's not what the thread is about.

OP is probably posting this because time after time after time there is a thread about gender disappointment because the unborn baby's sex is male.

OP is just saying she's happy she's having a boy and asked what other boy mums love about being a boy mum... you don't need to come here and mention your girls.

(I have both).

My favourite thing about being a boy mum is I can't believe how much I know about dinosaurs and tractors now 😂

I know what you’re saying, but again it’s the stereotypes. I loved tractors and dinosaurs way more than my brother. He liked brushing all the stuffed animals and doll’s hair. There have been so many studies where children ‘look’ like the opposite sex (e.g. boys with long hair and wearing pink), and adults treating them differently. My child always gets missed-sexed. I can’t be arsed to correct them, but I see it with my own eyes how differently they treat them because of it.

pillsthrillsandbellyache · 26/04/2023 20:02

Throwawaynames · 26/04/2023 19:54

What's the point coming on this thread being like oh well my girl... no one really cares and it's not what the thread is about.

OP is probably posting this because time after time after time there is a thread about gender disappointment because the unborn baby's sex is male.

OP is just saying she's happy she's having a boy and asked what other boy mums love about being a boy mum... you don't need to come here and mention your girls.

(I have both).

My favourite thing about being a boy mum is I can't believe how much I know about dinosaurs and tractors now 😂

The OP posted and listed outdated stereotypes as to why she's happy she's having another boy. I'm happy I have one of each for the exact same reasons. I am entitled to point that out. However, I dont blame the OP for her need to list outdated stereotypes if she's around people who express disappointment when discovering they are having a boy. Cos that's shit.

LetUsPonce · 26/04/2023 20:02

I would have loved some boys. I adore it when you see a little group of little lads having a play fight and rough and tumbling together. It's like watching a bundle of puppies 😍.

FuzzyPenguin · 26/04/2023 20:03

Regardless of my child’s sex glitter is banned in my house. Evil stuff

YouAreNotBatman · 26/04/2023 20:03

And now we know how all those toxic misogynistic men are made!

violetskypurple · 26/04/2023 20:04

Are you not just reinforcing gender stereotypes and the reason why people have gender disappointment?

Boys adore their mummies I think most children, regardless of their sex adore their mums

Less emotions to manage Boys have emotions too, do girls have more emotions than boys?

Dirty knees and climbing trees and rough and tumble Shock horror, girls can climb trees and get messy too!

SpudleyLass · 26/04/2023 20:04

Oysterbabe · 26/04/2023 19:54

Boys have plenty of emotions. They're just conditioned to suppress and hide them by sexist shite like this thread.

This with bells on.

Op, be happy with whoever your son turns out to be but your reasoning is.....flawed.

My brother enjoyed pink and baby dolls more than I as a child and I was very much rough and tumble, as is my daughter.

My husband is the crier in the family and I admire him for it. I'm an emotionless husk in comparison.

WhiskersPete · 26/04/2023 20:05

Less emotions to manage.

This is why suicide is the biggest killer of men under 45.

The rest of your list is also a load of gendered nonsense tbh.

thevery · 26/04/2023 20:05

I have two boys. It is wonderful.

I don't understand or recognise any of the reasons you have listed.

"Less emotions"??????

SleepingStandingUp · 26/04/2023 20:06

blueberry23 · 26/04/2023 19:41

Lighthearted thread

But I see so many threads with gender disappointment towards having a boy

My reasons for being over the moon for DS#2 in my tummy....,,

I will remain queen of my house (bar the dogs!)
Boys adore their mummies
Less emotions to manage
Less pink and glitter hopefully 🤣
Brothers
Dirty knees and climbing trees and rough and tumble

I'm just here for it all

What are your reasons if you love being a boy mum like me?

Not all boys are close to their Mom's, not all girls hate their Mom's.
Boys have just as many emotions as girls.
Not all brothers are close.
The other two, probably guaranteed because you'll enforce your stereotypes.

I'm glad you're happy, I have 3 of them and I adore them, but we have some pink, some glitter, a ton of emotions, very little by way of dirty knees and tree climbing from the first born lives dressing up and theatre and dancing around in his pants.

But the ridiculous gender stereotypes you're repeating are exactly WHY people are disappointed before the poor kid is even born

Hugasauras · 26/04/2023 20:06

Honestly, this thread almost feels like you're trying to convince yourself or something or you're feeling defensive about it. Happy people generally don't need to post threads declaring they are happy about X or rely on clichéd old stereotypes to prove it.