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To be so bloody happy to have another BOY on the way

581 replies

blueberry23 · 26/04/2023 19:41

Lighthearted thread

But I see so many threads with gender disappointment towards having a boy

My reasons for being over the moon for DS#2 in my tummy....,,

I will remain queen of my house (bar the dogs!)
Boys adore their mummies
Less emotions to manage
Less pink and glitter hopefully 🤣
Brothers
Dirty knees and climbing trees and rough and tumble

I'm just here for it all

What are your reasons if you love being a boy mum like me?

OP posts:
Questionquestionqu · 26/04/2023 21:01

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x2boys · 26/04/2023 21:01

I have two boys so I absolutely adore ,I'm sure I would have felt the same about two girls or one of each because they are my children it's ridiculous to compare just be happy with your kids

steff13 · 26/04/2023 21:01

I have two boys and a girl. All people are different people. 🤷‍♀️

But as the mother of two young men I take exception to the "fewer emotions to deal with" trope. Men feeling unable to express their emotions is partly to blame for why so many under the age of 45 commit suicide. Men have just a many emotions a women, and I could never feel grateful if my son's felt they were unable to express their emotions.

TooOldForThisNonsense · 26/04/2023 21:02

Killerqueef · 26/04/2023 20:57

My boy (6) is very emotional, cries a lot and has the most ridiculous meltdowns over ridiculous things. He needs my help climbing tiny things. He‘s awesome.

My girl (4) is constantly bruised and battered from her adventures. She rarely melts down and is completely fearless. She is also awesome.

I felt so lucky to have a boy and a girl. But I quickly realised that they are individuals and being a boy or a girl doesn’t matter so much. They have barely fit into the social expectations anyway.

Totally agree with your last paragraph. I have two boys and they are very different people, their sex is also the least interesting thing about them. I know I’d have loved a girl as much, I had a slight preference for one when pg with my second but when I had him I realised I just wanted my baby and the sex didn’t matter. I have 6 nieces as well who are wonderful girls who I love to bits, also all very different people!

Museya15 · 26/04/2023 21:02

My mum would've loved a boy after six girls and nine granddaughters, my dad didn't care but my mum never hides her disappointment.

canonlydoblue · 26/04/2023 21:03

Ah congratulations. Having two of the same is just lovely. I was a three boy mum for a while and loved it. I used to smile inwardly at the people who would tell me I had my hands full, and didn't I wish I had a girl.

I would say that when it comes to big complicated feelings and emotions my boys are definitely leading the way, whereas my girls are way more sensible (at the moment though, they're all still quite young!)

MrsTerryPratchett · 26/04/2023 21:03

Also...DS in my tummy? ffs.

IKR? At 3 DD know it was in a mummy's "ooooterus".

I do still work on fewer or less though.

Cantthinkofaname2203 · 26/04/2023 21:03

GemmaFoster · 26/04/2023 20:50

Congratulations OP, so happy for you. My little boy was the love of my life. But love my daughters too. X

So you prefer your boy? Describing him as “the love of your life”.

your girls aren’t? They’re just a poor second.

liste · 26/04/2023 21:04

Boys do not have less emotions. They're just socialised to ignore them.

The "queen of my house" bit also didn't quite sit right with me and I'm finding it hard to articulate why. Almost like there would be some sort of competitive nature to your relationship with a DD?

I think it's great you're happy to be having another boy but your reasons may be worth examining to make sure you're not raising your boys with assumptions about their interests, emotions and reliance on you.

35965a · 26/04/2023 21:04

Your post actually sounds like you are disappointed.

Silentbarking · 26/04/2023 21:04

blueberry23 · 26/04/2023 19:44

@Cantthinkofaname2203

I don't care what I had/have both times, could not have cared less.

That’s lovely OP, enjoy your healthy pregnancy and baby! ❤️

MathsNervous · 26/04/2023 21:04

I have a very emotional/dramatic 7yo DS! Congratulations OP on your second boy. I have four altogether and it's madness but they bring a lot of joy 😂

strawberryfluff · 26/04/2023 21:05

Cantthinkofaname2203 · 26/04/2023 19:43

I know you said lighthearted but your post embodies all the reasons people have gender disappointment.

can you articulate why you are happy to be having a boy without resorting to gender stereotypes?

Yes. All the examples suck and your boy might love glitter and hate climbing trees OP

nutbrownhare15 · 26/04/2023 21:06

😂

ScreamingInfidelities · 26/04/2023 21:06

blueberry23 · 26/04/2023 19:41

Lighthearted thread

But I see so many threads with gender disappointment towards having a boy

My reasons for being over the moon for DS#2 in my tummy....,,

I will remain queen of my house (bar the dogs!)
Boys adore their mummies
Less emotions to manage
Less pink and glitter hopefully 🤣
Brothers
Dirty knees and climbing trees and rough and tumble

I'm just here for it all

What are your reasons if you love being a boy mum like me?

What a load misogynistic bullshit.

RosaBonheur · 26/04/2023 21:06

Congratulations OP.

I had a slight preference for a girl the first time but I had a boy and he is my little love. He's just turned two and I adore seeing the world through his eyes. He's just the best.

Second time round I would have been quite happy to have another boy but I had a girl and she is just as gorgeous.

strawberrysunrise · 26/04/2023 21:06

'The queen of my house'

Are you Peggy Mitchell?

MeMyCatsAndMyBooks · 26/04/2023 21:07

Congratulations, I have 2 boys best thing in the world. I am not cut out to be a girl mum! Grin

nutbrownhare15 · 26/04/2023 21:08

Sorry that was in response to AutumnCrow

strawberryfluff · 26/04/2023 21:08

I will remain queen of my house (bar the dogs!) weird concept. Why would a girl "dethrone" you?
Boys adore their mummies some do some don't. Same as girls.
Less emotions to manage on the contrary, boys have emotions they are just often trained to suppress them.
Less pink and glitter hopefully 🤣 are you going to ban your boy from pink?
Brothers that's a definition of their sibling relationship sure. They might hate each other.
Dirty knees and climbing trees and rough and tumble same as my girl then?

Killerqueef · 26/04/2023 21:09

MeMyCatsAndMyBooks · 26/04/2023 21:07

Congratulations, I have 2 boys best thing in the world. I am not cut out to be a girl mum! Grin

What is it you think girls do??

They aren’t a different species

TheOrigRights · 26/04/2023 21:09

DS2 just started shaving and needed some good razors.
Now I can nick his to do my legs.

Apart from that he's lovely, gross, emotional, always hungry, not quite taller than me, funny, passionate about football (playing and supporting) and loves and loathes me.

I see the daughters of my friends starting to enjoy theatre, ballet or concerts together and I feel a small pang then as neither of my sons enjoy the same music / plays as me. Or talking about books. But I have lots of nieces so I take them out.

strawberryfluff · 26/04/2023 21:10

TheOrigRights · 26/04/2023 21:09

DS2 just started shaving and needed some good razors.
Now I can nick his to do my legs.

Apart from that he's lovely, gross, emotional, always hungry, not quite taller than me, funny, passionate about football (playing and supporting) and loves and loathes me.

I see the daughters of my friends starting to enjoy theatre, ballet or concerts together and I feel a small pang then as neither of my sons enjoy the same music / plays as me. Or talking about books. But I have lots of nieces so I take them out.

Can you not buy your own razors?

WavingThroughYoWindow · 26/04/2023 21:11

Congratulations OP on your baby! Wish you all the best.

The original post was not to my taste either, but let's not pile on a pregnant lady. There are other outlets to discuss this kinda thing...this is obviously one to walk away from.

Lwrenagain · 26/04/2023 21:11

I have 3 boys are they're all so completely different in personality that it's almost a surprise they share DNA.

Congrats! I'm pregnant with a daughter.
No idea what to expect from any of my kids, they're all little cases, I'm sure she'll be no different 😂