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To be so bloody happy to have another BOY on the way

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blueberry23 · 26/04/2023 19:41

Lighthearted thread

But I see so many threads with gender disappointment towards having a boy

My reasons for being over the moon for DS#2 in my tummy....,,

I will remain queen of my house (bar the dogs!)
Boys adore their mummies
Less emotions to manage
Less pink and glitter hopefully 🤣
Brothers
Dirty knees and climbing trees and rough and tumble

I'm just here for it all

What are your reasons if you love being a boy mum like me?

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Clarabell77 · 26/04/2023 21:20

Cantthinkofaname2203 · 26/04/2023 19:43

I know you said lighthearted but your post embodies all the reasons people have gender disappointment.

can you articulate why you are happy to be having a boy without resorting to gender stereotypes?

Get a life

HistoryFanatic · 26/04/2023 21:21

You did want a girl. Smacks of "oh well I didn't like them anyway..".

JamSandle · 26/04/2023 21:22

Inthebitterend · 26/04/2023 21:17

Also why do people refer to themselves as a boy mum or a girl mum?

You're just a mum. I have one child, a girl, and I have not once referred to myself as a girl mum.

How cringey.

I'm with you on this. It's as if being mum to one or the other is better. Be happy for a healthy baby.

RosaBonheur · 26/04/2023 21:22

TeaAndTwoSugars · 26/04/2023 21:19

Less emotions to manage 😂i have a nearly 3 year old boy and that is definitely not the case.

Yeah, you should see my son's devastation if a bus goes past and we don't get on it.

Takemehome7 · 26/04/2023 21:22

Sissynova · 26/04/2023 19:47

Sounds like a ridiculous outlook.

Do girls not climb trees? Do they not love their mummies? Why would a boy be less emotional?

I find these ‘oh it’s so lighthearted and funny’ posts which actually just contain raging and damaging sexism quite depressing.

No one is saying that every single boy loves climbing trees and every girl hates it. But broadly speaking, boys are more focused on gross motor movements. This is just a scientific proven fact.

Girls have a higher emotional intelligence and are more agreeable and empathetic.

So it's not ridiculous.

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Lennybenny · 26/04/2023 21:23

I have 2 boys. I was ecstatic to have a 2nd boy. I honestly would've struggled with a girl and had antenatal depression because of the thought of it.

Boys do emotion and hormones when you let them and they start early as well...its just not as easy to see happening.

💙💙

Chasingadvice · 26/04/2023 21:23

HistoryFanatic · 26/04/2023 21:21

You did want a girl. Smacks of "oh well I didn't like them anyway..".

I love a psychic

GemmaFoster · 26/04/2023 21:23

Clarabell77 · 26/04/2023 21:20

Get a life

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Well said.

Killerqueef · 26/04/2023 21:25

Lennybenny · 26/04/2023 21:23

I have 2 boys. I was ecstatic to have a 2nd boy. I honestly would've struggled with a girl and had antenatal depression because of the thought of it.

Boys do emotion and hormones when you let them and they start early as well...its just not as easy to see happening.

💙💙

For your baby’s sake I am glad they have a penis

Ostryga · 26/04/2023 21:25

Boys only have ‘less emotions’ because they’re taught at a very young age to not show them. Which then leads to toxic masculinity later in life.

And as for boys protecting their mothers?! What the actual fuck. Why does an infant need to protect their parent?? Statements like this are absolutely ridiculous.

strawberryfluff · 26/04/2023 21:26

Killerqueef · 26/04/2023 21:25

For your baby’s sake I am glad they have a penis

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I hope he's not transgender

Tandora · 26/04/2023 21:27

Ummmm. Girls can climb trees and boys can have emotions. You better figure the second one out or you stand to be a pretty crappy mum.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 26/04/2023 21:27

TheOrigRights · 26/04/2023 21:09

DS2 just started shaving and needed some good razors.
Now I can nick his to do my legs.

Apart from that he's lovely, gross, emotional, always hungry, not quite taller than me, funny, passionate about football (playing and supporting) and loves and loathes me.

I see the daughters of my friends starting to enjoy theatre, ballet or concerts together and I feel a small pang then as neither of my sons enjoy the same music / plays as me. Or talking about books. But I have lots of nieces so I take them out.

Surely these are personality differences, not down to their sex. My son (adult) and I have always been able to talk about common interests in films, books and music. He did mostly Arts A levels and a humanities subject at university. He went to a boys' school with very strong music and drama departments and an excellent record of producing writers and linguists. That's just how some boys/men are, and meanwhile plenty of girls and women are passionate about sport, specialise in STEM subjects, etc etc.

strawberryfluff · 26/04/2023 21:28

strawberryfluff · 26/04/2023 21:26

I hope he's not transgender

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Nothing wrong with it just it's going to cause all sorts of issues as mum doesn't want anything "girly"

Takemehome7 · 26/04/2023 21:28

nutbrownhare15 · 26/04/2023 21:00

'less emotions to manage' is a big reason why men find it so difficult to express and manage their emotions in adult life. Boys and girls have emotions equally but boys are encouraged not to express them in order to be more 'manly'. Of all the gender stereotypes this is one of the most damaging to men and to women.

This is one of those ideas that's thrown around blithely without any concrete evidence. I've never actually seen any real studies on whether this is why boys struggle to express their emotions, or whether indeed this is a determining factor in male depression. I think we underestimate factors such as men and boys not being given enough responsibilities and encouraged to be competent and independent and strong. And the suppression of young boys' need to focus on their gross motor skills in early childhood, instead having to start school at age 4, meaning their cortex doesn't develop properly, causing problems in later life.

strawberryfluff · 26/04/2023 21:29

Clarabell77 · 26/04/2023 21:20

Get a life

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Nothing wrong with challenging sexism

Convovulus · 26/04/2023 21:29

Sissynova · 26/04/2023 19:47

Sounds like a ridiculous outlook.

Do girls not climb trees? Do they not love their mummies? Why would a boy be less emotional?

I find these ‘oh it’s so lighthearted and funny’ posts which actually just contain raging and damaging sexism quite depressing.

Agree

Takemehome7 · 26/04/2023 21:29

Takemehome7 · 26/04/2023 21:28

This is one of those ideas that's thrown around blithely without any concrete evidence. I've never actually seen any real studies on whether this is why boys struggle to express their emotions, or whether indeed this is a determining factor in male depression. I think we underestimate factors such as men and boys not being given enough responsibilities and encouraged to be competent and independent and strong. And the suppression of young boys' need to focus on their gross motor skills in early childhood, instead having to start school at age 4, meaning their cortex doesn't develop properly, causing problems in later life.

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*not being encouraged

Delpi65 · 26/04/2023 21:30

I've got 4 boys - lucky me - it's an awesome ride - no time for how do I look ? / Where's my best coat and shoes - just get out there and enjoy

WhoHidTheCoffee · 26/04/2023 21:30

OP, I have boys. I had mixed feelings about never having a daughter but as someone with siblings of both sexes, the relationship with my DSis is special and I’m glad DS1 and DS2 each have a brother (even if they’re not always glad 😬).

I’ve also found it very interesting in terms of how different they are - and for us, DC2 was absolutely the right person to complete our family. I hope it’s the same for you if this is your last baby 😊

bossybloss · 26/04/2023 21:31

BarryK3nt · 26/04/2023 19:49

I have a girl and she loves me to pieces. I think thou dost protest too much.

I agree with this!

Also I have a girl who climbed trees, loves me and always has and was never into pink and glitter!

newfriend05 · 26/04/2023 21:31

Boy mum here and wouldn't change it for anything

jontymcjont · 26/04/2023 21:31

blueberry23 · 26/04/2023 19:41

Lighthearted thread

But I see so many threads with gender disappointment towards having a boy

My reasons for being over the moon for DS#2 in my tummy....,,

I will remain queen of my house (bar the dogs!)
Boys adore their mummies
Less emotions to manage
Less pink and glitter hopefully 🤣
Brothers
Dirty knees and climbing trees and rough and tumble

I'm just here for it all

What are your reasons if you love being a boy mum like me?

How often do we read threads on here from mums who feel awful because they've found out they are having a second boy rather than a daughter?
How often do people complain about others saying "ooo would you like to yegf one of each? Never mind you can try fir a girl next time" etc?
I think the OP is just flipping this so she can shout about how bloody ace boys are.

Tandora · 26/04/2023 21:32

Takemehome7 · 26/04/2023 21:28

This is one of those ideas that's thrown around blithely without any concrete evidence. I've never actually seen any real studies on whether this is why boys struggle to express their emotions, or whether indeed this is a determining factor in male depression. I think we underestimate factors such as men and boys not being given enough responsibilities and encouraged to be competent and independent and strong. And the suppression of young boys' need to focus on their gross motor skills in early childhood, instead having to start school at age 4, meaning their cortex doesn't develop properly, causing problems in later life.

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Wait so your theory is that men are depressed because we didn’t encourage them to be strong and manly enough in early childhood? Instead we sent them all to school and turned them into sissy’s?? 🤣🤣🤣🤣