To be so bloody happy to have another BOY on the way

[blueberry23]

Lighthearted thread

But I see so many threads with gender disappointment towards having a boy

My reasons for being over the moon for DS#2 in my tummy....,,

I will remain queen of my house (bar the dogs!)
Boys adore their mummies
Less emotions to manage
Less pink and glitter hopefully 🤣
Brothers
Dirty knees and climbing trees and rough and tumble

I'm just here for it all

What are your reasons if you love being a boy mum like me?

You're the size you are, surely? If you're not tiny, surrounding yourself with 6' + off spring isn't going to change that. And why do you want to look tiny anyway?

You're right the style is very different. The style on here is deliberately cutting and malicious, far worse. I'd far rather just be called a name than the psychological warfare that goes on.

Hmm. Seems like you're trying to convince yourself you're happy about having another boy.

I had a son,then 18 years later,a daughter. I imagined pretty dresses,dollies etc. She's now 11 and the biggest tomboy ever. Good luck with that.

So much malice and misery, Jesus, lighten up.

I love having sons but haven’t had any special treatment because of it. I guess it may mean getting the last chocolate in a box or something 😁

People criticising mums on here for saying they like looking tiny next to their strapping sons I think it’s a totally normal feeling, it may not be modern or feminist but it is real as I and do many others in RL have commented on it. Maybe it’s to do with your once tiny baby son now towering over you that does it but I know when I see photos

Oops pressed too soon. When I see photos of me with my towering sons it always makes me smile, remembering how tiny they once were.

This is interesting, I think the concept of boys being less emotional than girls is definitely a modern cultural thing, in my experience they are equally emotional but express them differently and are taught to suppress them. They are also emotional about different things. They might seem less emotional about friendships and this is what we witness a lot as parents so the stereotype forms.

But many differences are biological. Interestingly noone really questions sex differences in the animal kingdom. When primates are observed and their social interactions studied, there is an acceptance of the evolutionary forces that lead to behaviour and social differences between the sexes, even though there is a 'society' present there too. Yet we are very reluctant to accept this as humans.
I think picking apart what is nature and what is nurture is endlessly fascinating, but I am particularly interested in it from an evolutionary standpoint.

But the sex differences that we identify in other species are largely physical (no one denies that in humans) and when behavioural are very clearly tied to either reproductive role or strength differentials. That's not the same thing at all as trying to tie personality traits to sex.

I should be upfront though that I don't think evolutionary psychology is a real science - it is more or less the same thing as just so stories (right now things are like this, so evolution must explain that, so here's how that must have happened - there's a logic leap between step 1 and 2 that I don't accept).

There's a bus that goes to Netmums should be along shortly for those who have got lost.

You lost me at 'less emotions to manage'

The only thing I can think of is a small part of the bath room cabinets assigned to their sanitary products.

With both my pregnancies I never even imagined I’d have a girl , didn’t and wouldn’t want one, I mean who would want a girl that could give me the grief I gave my mother.

Yes of course; but there is nothing “scientific” about declaring “girls are more agreeable” to be a well established fact 🙄

This!!

Also, girls love their mummies 🙄

@Peppadog so you'd be less happy with your sons if they'd inherited your height? I reckon my twins will be 6fters, but my eldest more 5ft 10
Seems unfair to him he should be a disappointment to me cos he inherited by genes not his Dad's? Perhaps he can make up for it with the special treatment he can only give me cos he doesn't have a sister? What would that be?

Wow I really hadn't given it that much thought 🤣

wth. My girl does all the ‘boy things’ you’ve described. Gender stereotyping is shit OP. What if your boy doesn’t want it do that? Super damaging view you’ve taken.

Me too. It’s sad isn’t it? Because what parents actually mean when they say that about boys is that they don’t expect (or want) them to communicate their emotions.

That’s exactly what they mean, and yes, agree it’s depressing.

I wasn’t bothered what I had when pregnant. I’ve got 2 boys and a girl. When having my 2nd people kept saying I bet you want a girl but I really wasn’t bothered at all.

So what's the special treatment you get that you reckon they'd have stopped if you'd had a daughter?

Even if you don't think about the things you say, it doesn't lessen the effect it has when you say it to people

Well I'm sorry if I have somehow offended you, but I have never said anything negative about girls at all. I would be equally delighted to have girls but also find it special being the only female in the house. I won't respond again, if you want a fight I'm sure someone else will oblige.

I adore my boy. I adore my girl too. 🤷

Is there an effect though? It was just a throwaway comment, nothing for anyone to get upset about I’d have thought. 🤷‍♀️

I can only comment on my life and my experiences @MagpieSong . I didn’t have a daughter so have no idea whether boys' behaviour is less complicated or not but that's what many mothers of girls told me when mine were growing up