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To be so bloody happy to have another BOY on the way

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blueberry23 · 26/04/2023 19:41

Lighthearted thread

But I see so many threads with gender disappointment towards having a boy

My reasons for being over the moon for DS#2 in my tummy....,,

I will remain queen of my house (bar the dogs!)
Boys adore their mummies
Less emotions to manage
Less pink and glitter hopefully 🤣
Brothers
Dirty knees and climbing trees and rough and tumble

I'm just here for it all

What are your reasons if you love being a boy mum like me?

OP posts:
ShowOfHands · 26/04/2023 20:07

As a secondary teacher, the boys have fewer emotions trope is toxic masculinity at its best and I see the myriad ways in which this untrue stereotype maligns and damages boys. There's a reason we have the mental health stats we do around young adult males and daily, I see the damage caused by erroneously telling boys they have fewer emotions. Emotions are good, emotions are there to be experienced, lived and regulated. Emotions are not bad. We need to stop this. Children have emotions. It's more acceptable in girls though and god, that makes me so sad.

I love my boy too btw. He's materially, no different to his sister apart from in their personalities which correlate very little with their biological sex.

Congratulations. I'm sure your boy will be smashing.

SizeofaChaffinch · 26/04/2023 20:07

Embarrassed for you

MadameSzyszkoBohusz · 26/04/2023 20:08

I mean, I have one of each, and the boy is much more emotional, and much more drawn to all things pink and glittery. Congratulations on your pregnancy though.

TheOriginalEmu · 26/04/2023 20:08

Yea of course you can be happy you’re having a boy. I was very happy when my sons were born. The same as I was happy when my daughters were born. I have 5 kids, one of whom is transgender. They’re all different people who did and liked and like and love and enjoy and hate different things have nothing to do with their sex organs.

Throwawaynames · 26/04/2023 20:09

@Kranke I get that. I didn't mean it in a stereotypical way. I just meant at the moment he's really into them and we're learning together and I love it.

I don't necessarily agree with the OPs list of stereotypes but I understand where she's coming from in a sense.

I have both a boy and a girl and I'm just raising humans who are individuals and letting them lead the way of what they want to do.

Daffodilmorning · 26/04/2023 20:10

I adore being a mum to my two boys… but less emotions, dirty knees, and less pink and glittery things? You’ve clearly never met my fantastic boy toddler 😂

He is the single most sensitive kid I’ve ever met, requests I clean any dirt off him immediately (not my doing, I have no issues with mess… plus it’s hard when the little guy also loves being outdoors), and is currently asleep cuddling his pink, sparkly unicorn. My niece, on the other hand, fits your list pretty well.

Briallen · 26/04/2023 20:10

I should probably tell my daughter to stop climbing trees and getting muddy and to love me as much as her brother does 😂

WhatAmIDoingWrong123 · 26/04/2023 20:11

Sissynova · 26/04/2023 19:47

Sounds like a ridiculous outlook.

Do girls not climb trees? Do they not love their mummies? Why would a boy be less emotional?

I find these ‘oh it’s so lighthearted and funny’ posts which actually just contain raging and damaging sexism quite depressing.

Exactly. Why the OP can’t just be excited she’s having a boy without having a dig at girls is really silly. All this talk of better toys and loving their mummies… girls love their mummies too.

LakeTiticaca · 26/04/2023 20:11

All boys here. All grown up now. Boys do tend to be less dramatic IMO, and make friends quicker after falling out. Tend to fight more though!!
I've got granddaughters now, a nice change from have a house full of males . I love them more than life itself but they can be soooo dramatic!! 🤣🤣

SingAlongAndItMightJustGetYouThrough · 26/04/2023 20:13

My boy must be weird then cause he hates climbing trees and dirty knees. Soz he didn't live up to your expectations

Ossoduro2 · 26/04/2023 20:13

OP is probably feeling defensive about having boy no 2 precisely because of all the head tilts and ‘will you try for a third’ comments she’s likely to get because our society prefers girls (as children) on the whole. I have four lovely boys and I’ve experienced the head tilts and the comments and it’s hurtful. Boys are wonderful, girls are equally wonderful, but small boys get a worse rep so OP is pointing out why those stereotypical traits that other people dislike can also be something to celebrate.

TheDalaiShawarma · 26/04/2023 20:13

As a mum of 2 wonderful boys whose heart sinks every time I see a gender disappointment thread (which are ALWAYS about boys), those criticising the OP are missing the point entirely.

Pornstarmatinee · 26/04/2023 20:13

🙄😒. Sexist crap.

superplumb · 26/04/2023 20:13

2 boys mum here. Both are so cuddly and lovely towards me. They are really really funny too but I have a toilet sense of humour. They are quite sensitive though but we are not in the teenage years yet . Plus side is you already have the toys and clothes to pass down. Having two of the same gender saved me a fortune.

SleepingStandingUp · 26/04/2023 20:14

Hugasauras · 26/04/2023 20:06

Honestly, this thread almost feels like you're trying to convince yourself or something or you're feeling defensive about it. Happy people generally don't need to post threads declaring they are happy about X or rely on clichéd old stereotypes to prove it.

I did wonder that.

"Omg I'm SO happy there will be just dirt and fighting and no emotions because that's all men are, I'm not upset at ALL!! "

Fairislefandango · 26/04/2023 20:15

I think it's lovely 😊 of course I'm not saying girls don't love their mums. It's just different.

Of course it's not different. Why would it be? And why would a small child need to be protective of their mother? It's supposed to be the other way around. If boys are like that, it's because they've been taught to be like that (probably by being brought up in a household where these steteotypes are reinforced).

I have a boy and a girl and two nephews. I've seen no evidence of these outdated stereotypes in them.

MakesMeFeelSad · 26/04/2023 20:16

I have 4 boys, was never disappointed that I didn't have a girl. Don't understand the disappointment at all

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 26/04/2023 20:16

It’s great to be happy with the children you have/ will have, and to love them for who they are.

It’s daft to be happy that your child is one particular sex. It gives you no idea what their personality will be. Boys don’t love their mums any more or less than girls do - it’s down to the individuals concerned.

I don’t think they have less emotion than girls either.

Saying as a woman that you’d rather have a boy is also slightly odd.

ItsBritneyBitchhhh · 26/04/2023 20:16

‘Less emotions to manage’ LOL ok

WonderingWanda · 26/04/2023 20:16

Congratulations on your pregnancy op!

Erex · 26/04/2023 20:16

Some of the wording of the OP had me a bit 🤔 but in the spirit in which I think was intended, I too have boys and am very happy to have them. I wouldn't have been disappointed with a girl, but did hope I'd have boys.
MIL has an almost even mix of both and said she loves her girls, but the boys were so much easier. Says (in her case) the girls were very dramatic when pre-teens/teens and can be a lot more spiteful/gossipy. The boys just tended to have it out and that was that, instead of talking being each other's backs and dragging it out. My boys are toddlers though so my own experience is limited.

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blackpearwhitelilies · 26/04/2023 20:17

I desperately wanted a girl right up until the moment I found out my eldest was a boy. He’s absolutely gorgeous so was desperate for another boy the next time. And another gorgeous (but completely different) boy iswhat I had. They are wonderful. Enjoy your lovely little boys, OP. (Happy to report my eldest can’t have enough pink in his life!)

wingingit1987 · 26/04/2023 20:17

I had 2 boys and while I loved it, I desperately wanted a girl. No.3 was a girl and it was huge news as she was the first girl in the family for 25 years. Dressed her head to toe in pink and couldn’t wait for all the “girly” experiences. Well, she is an absolute rogue who is cheeky, wild and spends her days climbing trees and getting covered in mud. The only female she has accepted as any sort of role model is Wednesday Addams and she has asked me to book her archery sessions for when we go on holiday next week.

I also have another 2 children since having my daughter- both girls- and by the time we got to no.5 I kinda missed buying the baby boy clothes after it being baby girls for the last wee while.

Blessedbethefruitz · 26/04/2023 20:17

In the spirit in which this thread was intended - I had serious gender disappointment with my first when I found out he was a boy. As soon as he was born it didn't matter anymore though. To the extent that when I got pregnant with our second, I was half hoping for another boy as my first is the most amazing little person and I wanted another incredible human like him!

My ds4 is so kind, sensitive (maybe too sensitive), funny and currently asleep under his elsa blanket, in his elsa pjs. He also loves mario, football, cars, getting muddy, and lego. Most of all he loves his toddler sister to the moon and back, she is his favourite person apparently. I have enjoyed dh chilling out about the odd 'girly' items of clothes ds has wanted (elsa sunglasses) since we've had dd - maybe a reflection on a hugely sexist society?

Interestingly dd also has the same interests, and same intense love for her brother, cars, and elsa (and also shoes, though she doesn't walk yet...). I think she will be a more laid back character like her dad though, less sensitive than her brother (and me).

Congratulations on your new boy!!! He's going to be amazing :)