To be so bloody happy to have another BOY on the way

[blueberry23]

Lighthearted thread

But I see so many threads with gender disappointment towards having a boy

My reasons for being over the moon for DS#2 in my tummy....,,

I will remain queen of my house (bar the dogs!)
Boys adore their mummies
Less emotions to manage
Less pink and glitter hopefully 🤣
Brothers
Dirty knees and climbing trees and rough and tumble

I'm just here for it all

What are your reasons if you love being a boy mum like me?

Until they grow up and abandon the home.

This thread is sad. So many gender stereotypes still exist. It's sad for both girls and boys.

I'm so glad that my son grew up with an older sister who was often up a tree or climbing on rocks and isn't always causing drama.

There's nothing wrong with being excited for a boy though, they're great.

This is such a weird post. You got so close to the idea that we shouldn't stereotype or hold up that one sex is 'better'... then you just thought 'nah, fuck it, I'll just slag off boys and their mothers instead'.

I adore my boys because they are them. I will never know what it is like to have a DD but from talking to friends and family over the years, my boys seem to be generally less complicated than girls, though less organised and more boisterous. Obviously there will be exceptions.

My NDN has 5 girls. She has told me that the irritating "oh another girl not a boy?!" started at DD2 and got steadily worse. She says she was very happy with each one and never disappointed

I have filled my sick bowl twice over reading this then I think you should probably see your GP

I don't get that either..
Surely you're still Queen of your house if you have a daughter, because she will be the ikkle Princess?
(Sorry.😂)

‘I will remain queen of my house (bar the dogs!)
Boys adore their mummies
Less emotions to manage
Less pink and glitter hopefully 🤣
Brothers
Dirty knees and climbing trees and rough and tumble ‘

one of each here. The girl is the rough and tumble footballer, who’s always filthy from sports, tree climbing and getting mucky.
The boy is the emotional one who prefers ‘clean’ sports like swimming.
Neither like pink, or glitter.
Both are complicated

Your list is insulting to both girls and your son/s but if you want to raise them in stereotypes, and judge girls as emotional and loving glitter - you go for it

I don't really get why you'd want to be queen of your own house anyway. Sounds very power trippy

‘my boys seem to be generally less complicated than girls,’

Christ, DS is 13 and I can tell you now his friends are definitely not ‘less complicated’ - they’re a bundle of emotion, hormones, rage, stupid decision making, aggression, bravado, Andrew Tate worshipping, drug taking, drinking idiots a lot of them.

from talking to friends and family over the years, my boys seem to be generally less complicated than girls, though less organised and more boisterous. Obviously there will be exceptions.

@blueberry23 You are responsible for raising two men. How do you want them to think about women in the future, which will define how they treat them? If you don’t work to change how you view women, they will very likely to believe the below which will not help them form healthy relationships with women.

Women are weaker than me.
Women are overly emotional.
Women’s interests are meaningless and vapid.
Women don’t take part in tough, physical sports or endeavours.

Agree.

Glad OP is happy and wish her a happy, healthy pregnancy and baby, but her reasoning and the assumption of what her son is going to be like even though he isn’t here yet is cringe.

Less emotional? Dirty knees and climbing trees?

My youngest (5) gets tearful when you tell him no so tears are almost daily and will change his clothes if they are dirty. He will change his clothes if he doesn’t like them and goes outside with a coat and hat whatever the season. His older brother will go outside in our garden in his boxers if you don’t stop him and start climbing on top of things. Saying that, he will come in and wash his hands if they get dirty. Can’t really assume anything other than they’ll have their own personalities and you’ll learn to understand them.

My 2 are 19 and 23 now and they are lovely. Pretty level headed. Treat girlfriends with respect. Sociable. They are quite open with me about their lives. And they can't stand Andrew Tate. I still get hugs. I had a birthday recently and they spoiled me rotten. They have had their ups and downs. One had a late diagnosis for ADHD and the other asked for counselling after his teenage friend died suddenly. So not Perfect Peters. But I love them, am proud of them, wouldn't want them any other way and know that they love me and DH.

I'm sure if they had been girls I would feel exactly the same.

I don’t think it’s exceptions so much as just incorrect. I’m sure some boys are uncomplicated, just as some girls are. It’s weird that so many think the majority of boys are simple and yet so many men are difficult/complicated. At the minor end, many men (as proven in studies) don’t take responsibility, struggle to bond with babies and/or don’t help around the house. At the major end, more men murder, more men murder partners or sometimes partners and children or take part in domestic violence and more men are involved in sexual crimes. It would be interesting to think about when this view changes from simple boys to complex men. Not that I’m saying everyone’s sons will grow to do this, but just it’s fascinating to think that if the majority of boys are easy to bring up, then when do the majority become complex (and often difficult) adults/partners/people?

There are hormonal differences that impact emotion that are biologically part of being that sex eg. girls having periods, boys voices dropping (there are exceptions to those too). However, I can’t agree with the stereotypes of simple or less bitchyness in the playground etc. It’s not been my ds’s experience, nor his classmates.

I think the 'boys are less complex' thing is often misconstrued. In my experience (and many others clearly) boys are socially less complex, especially when it comes to friendships which is why you tend to see less friendship dramas at school. Emotionally they are not less complex, they express emotions in different ways.
There are evolutionary reasons for differences. I've seen a brilliant documentary on this by an anthropologist who explains in great depth why we see the differences that we see, utterly fascinating, but of course it goes against the accepted narrative on Mumsnet. You can't have a reasonable debate on here about these things unfortunately as you get piled on and your words picked apart....is it any surprise girls are called 'bitchy' just look at this thread, it's horrific.

Congratulations OP. I love having boys, it’s so fun. Hate the way people act like I’ve drawn the short straw having three of them. If I was younger I’d get pregnant again and hope for another.

Id love to know about the documentary, these things are fascinating! The social side I think is varied and is always going to be affected by what’s happening in society etc at the time, but I can see how they may be viewed as less complex socially as a majority. We haven’t had less friendship dramas at school at yet, but ds is not the sort of boy to just join in with a sport and bond that way, which I’ve witnessed some other boys doing. The problems at school with boy friendships have been mainly a boy disallowing certain other boys to play if they don’t follow his rules, play his games etc. Equally, covid probably added to that as social skills etc. were affected across the board. My issue is more the blanket idea of boys being less complex across the board, rather than acknowledging there are biological differences. I definitely agree with you it can be easily misconstrued.

So many of these 'boys are like that, girls are like that' ideas are very clearly cultural not biological, as can be seen by the fact that they're not historically or culturally universal. If you'd told Shakespeare and his contemporaries that males were less emotionally complex than females they'd have laughed at you (as they would if you'd told them that men are more sexually driven than women, even though again we now see that as simple biological fact). People love the idea that it's all evolutionary but that just doesn't fit the facts.

That is not genuinely tragic. It may not be your thing but tragic it isn’t. My sons are six footers plus and I look tiny next to them and I like it, so shoot me too😁

Yeah, that really is tragic.

Oh go away, this thread was starting to get more interesting and becoming more of a debate, noone needs your relentless negativity.

Ah, the self-appointed thread police. @Peppadog it's called having different opinions.

I agree, it's tragic @ArmWrestlingWithChasNDave.

There's nothing interesting about your weird fetish for looking tiny. It's just very sad.

You can't have a reasonable debate on here about these things unfortunately as you get piled on and your words picked apart....is it any surprise girls are called 'bitchy' just look at this thread, it's horrific.

Yet, conversations like these happen between men. They pick apart what other men say and will call each other “soft”, “pu*”, etc.. (usually a derogatory female name) but when women do it its “bitchy” even when there is no name-calling amongst women.

Genuinely interested to know what 'special treatment' some posters get by being the only person in the house with a vagina.