To be so bloody happy to have another BOY on the way

[blueberry23]

Lighthearted thread

But I see so many threads with gender disappointment towards having a boy

My reasons for being over the moon for DS#2 in my tummy....,,

I will remain queen of my house (bar the dogs!)
Boys adore their mummies
Less emotions to manage
Less pink and glitter hopefully 🤣
Brothers
Dirty knees and climbing trees and rough and tumble

I'm just here for it all

What are your reasons if you love being a boy mum like me?

I have three children, one boy, and two girls. My son has been the hardest child by far, especially during his teen/twenties years.
Obviously, this is just my experience as gender doesn't predict your character.

The most emotional teenager I know is a boy, just saying.

the stereotypes in the OP are ridiculou, kids are individuals and their genitals don’t really decide whether they will be an easy or difficult child to parent.

im very happy with my dds. I’ve never felt the need to have a boy. Im glad you feel the same about your boys and I hope they will be just as trouble free to raise as you believe they will be. But whether they are or not won’t have much to do with their sex.

What an awful toxic thread this is! Congratulations op on your pregnancy. From one mother to another x

They say the secret to happiness lies not in getting what you want, but in wanting what you get. It seems from the number of posters convinced the sex of their own child is the preferable one, most mums have got that cracked. Which is just as well for all concerned, as disappointment with your baby's sex would be unfortunate.

Mother of two lovely boys here. Plenty of pink and glitter with the second one though 😜 🏳️‍🌈

I assumed it was sarcasm!

I was very happy too to be having another boy. Obviously I didn’t mind what I had but I liked the idea of having two boys or two girls rather than one of each (on a purely shallow superficial level of course as I would love my children no matter what or who they were).

Less emotions to deal with?! 😂 My 5yo DS is very sensitive, loves glitter and rainbows. Loves colouring and drawing. Hates rough and tumble. Does NOT like to get dirty. Favourite atm is Gabby's Dollhouse. Loves dinosaurs and Lego. Is very jealous when I get my nails done and likes to help me choose colours and designs. He's not a stereotypical 'boy' like most in his class and I hope he doesn't ever change to conform to this. He is perfect.

Due DS2 in June. Would've been happy with either boy or girl as they don't always conform to what we expect. DS2 could be your stereotype or he could be like his brother or he could be completely different. But he'll be him and he'll be perfect too.

I get that you're defending that you're happy with having another boy as I do agree - gender disappointment is sad to hear about. But your reasoning is a bit rubbish.

Boys are great until they marry a wife, and then you’ll have your work cut out.!!

It’s great you are happy you are having another Boy. Having a boy doesn’t guarantee anything though. Boys can be emotional, love pink, etc just ask much as girls can like rough and tumble etc.

Boys adore their mummies
Less emotions to manage
Less pink and glitter hopefully 🤣
Brothers
Dirty knees and climbing trees and rough and tumble

Mate. I have one of each. They’re teenager/tween now. I can honestly say that:
my boy has always been a mummy’s boy but my daughter and I have always been close too
my boy is probably more emotional than my daughter, which can be wonderful in some ways, he’s definitely not afraid to share how he feels 😬
lots of little boys love glitter, trust me. Pink is just a colour. Meh.
brothers are great and so are sisters (I have both myself)
my daughter and her girl friends have always been just as likely to climb, get dirty and enjoy rough and tumble as much as any boy, especially when they were younger.

Congratulations on your new son btw. But don’t be too quick to make assumptions about how your kids will turn out based solely on their sex…

I’ve got two DD and am pregnant with first DS. I’m terrified! Everything we own for them is pink, feel like the dynamic of the family is going to change so much! I hope boys are as amazing as you say they are 😂

I agree.

It sounds like the OP is trying to convince herself.

Get a sense of humour. The OP said lighthearted thread. People have mentioned stereotypes so I jokingly said pink or blue. Yes, it's not very funny, but hardly warrants a fuck off! Seriously, get a grip.

Agree 💯

Nailed it. If she gets a boy like mine - glitter loving emotional pest what’s she going to do? Put it in the bin?

Sounds like you’re working through disappointment to me.

It really was. People on here are so quick to think the worst of everyone.

I was just happy to have a healthy baby.

My boy, 11, is the most emotional sensitive kid going. Can't get a graze without crying and screaming like he's lost a limb. Is obsessed with brightly coloured clothes and faffing with his hair. Experiments with his appearance, including with my makeup. Still loves cuddly toys, cosy duvets, hot water bottles and snuggling with mummy. Loves pink and sparkly stuff.

But then he's also a footy mad kid who's gotten in trouble at school for fighting and using bad language, goes around calling us all "bro" or "bruv" and knows all there is to know about cars, horsepower, engine sizes, top speeds etc.

My father had gender disappointment when I was born, so he 'moulded' me into his idea of a stereotypical boy... boys toys, boys clothes, short hair, disallowed pink stuff, taught boy stuff like shooting guns and riding mopeds. When my sister was born, the gender disappointment was so deep he refused to touch, hold or acknowledge her for the first 3 months of her life. When DM said she'd leave him, he was forced to make an effort. But, while he was disappointed with both of us being girls and made it clear he disnt particularlylolw either of us, the resentment for being dealt a second girl was so transparent. He didn't just dislike my sister, he loathed her.

Then, as I, the moulded tomboy, grew up into a teen I was hated for still being a tomboy and not dressing or looking more 'lady like".

I grew up hating him and cut him off when I was 18. He was a mean nasty bustard who frequently told us we were a disappointment and an embarrassment to him. My sister on the other hand spent years chasing him, trying to make him love her and be proud. Both if us had very unhappy childhoods and became depressed damaged adults.

All this because we weren't the right gender.

While I'm pleased to hear you're happy with the gender of your children and the lovely little stereotypes you've pigeon-holed them.into, I do hope they live up to your stereotyped expectations and don't turn out to be too effeminate or emotional or clean for.you. They wouldn't want to be a disappoint.

Or you might actually have a great relationship with your DIL. Imagine? I know it's hard for mumsnetters to imagine that.

completely agree with this and always feel depressed about the stereotypes of boys active, physical, straightforward vs girls emotional, vain and bitchy ... all kids are potentially great and all are potentially complex

Of course she is.

No one would start a thread saying how happy they are to have a boy because boys are better, if they genuinely felt that way.
There would be no need to start a thread at all if you were happy.

It’s obvious OP wanted a girl and is now disappointed that it’s a boy.

It’s a shame she has done in the way she has though as she would have got a lot more support if she was honest.

I meant completely agree with Sissynova etc

It's my son that loves clothes shopping, crafts and doing everything I expected to be doing with my daughter's. He's the kindest person I know and so emotionally intelligent. He's just a wonderful little soul and I adore him.

My daughters on the other hand are proper free spirits. Always surprising me and showing me new perspectives. They're so strong and self righteous(maybe slightly feral but it certainly keeps things fun) and it's absolutely inspiring to me.

Basically I love children and mine are my favourite.

Totally agree your reasons are so stereo typical. Until DD1 was 16 she never wore pink until it was her choice. Both DDs had train and building blocks more than dolls etc. One chose to play rugby and both love science and maths. As they grow one only wears trousers. The stereotypes you state are IMO one of the reasons we have so much of an issue around gender in teenage years if parents teach you can’t be a she if you don’t immerse yourself in pink and glitter, no wonder people get confused. Btw I am no doubting gender dysphoria is real but not to the extent seen in teenagers