To be so bloody happy to have another BOY on the way

[blueberry23]

Lighthearted thread

But I see so many threads with gender disappointment towards having a boy

My reasons for being over the moon for DS#2 in my tummy....,,

I will remain queen of my house (bar the dogs!)
Boys adore their mummies
Less emotions to manage
Less pink and glitter hopefully 🤣
Brothers
Dirty knees and climbing trees and rough and tumble

I'm just here for it all

What are your reasons if you love being a boy mum like me?

Your poor daughters. I hope you don't tell them that you'd have chosen for them not to exist and to have more sons instead?

How about everyone's poor daughters? Imagine this attitude magnified over years

This sort of gender stereotyping is dangerous, sexist shite and can make kids who don't conform feel they've been 'misgendered' and we know what that can lead to. OP great if you have a healthy baby but really please stop spouting such bullshit

Dangerous? 🙄 I know gender/sex etc is a hot topic on here but that’s way over the top. Most of us adults were raised at a time when nothing OP said would’ve been controversial and we have much less gender identity issues than teens and kids

I know what you mean but OP should be a bit more realistic. I think people were also more relaxed back then if their daughters preferred blue, guns and bikes etc.

And you don’t think those stereotypes in the OP explain a lot of the damaging stuff that appears to be ‘normal’ on here — emotionally illiterate men who are socialised to think feelings are for girls, that domestic gruntwork and childcare are women’s problems because women are ‘queens’ of the household, love pink and glitter and don’t do muddy knees and outdoor rough and tumble?

Gender stereotypes are damaging even before we get onto men who want to be women based on an idea of women which is based on such stereotypes, and the legal fiction that allows them to do so.

I just love both my kids, happen to have one of each. If they’re healthy that’s all that matters. And they’re both as emotional as the each other in my experience.

Congrats op

I have boys, they are brilliant!

It's only dangerous when if your girl, you like cars, guns and physics and someone tells you it's because your a boy in a girls body.

And it's your sex organs need changing

Sexist drivel OP. Grow up

No.

Mumsnet is not reflective of how people see ‘gender’ or men/women IRL. On here the tiniest micro aggression or clumsy wording is seen as ‘horrific sexism’, malign male intent is eked out at every turn, there’s no shades of grey at all - everything is ‘horrific sexism perpetuated by stereotyping’.

There are differences, personality differences, between men and women regardless of social influences and most people are pragmatic enough to know this. And they’re tired of people pretending otherwise because it suits a narrative

This.

Sorry that the miserable, jealous vipers are out OP. They are clearly projecting something into you. Whether their sons are losers or that they didn't have one or perhaps that their husbands are a waste of space and they don't want a mother to have a close relationship with their son as it's affected their marriage. Who knows.

I'm sure they'll all disagree and jump on but it's clear that some of these replies are from people who aren't quite right in the head. How worrying for their existing children,

I agree. Sad people with major projection issues. The morality police of the Internet

Where were you rolling around? The floor? I assume in laughter?

I was disappointed when my second was a boy (first a girl), but in many ways I have found parenting him so much easier than DD (love them both the same of course, but she is complex and he is much more straightforward). Both are great, and certainly would not be disappointed with another boy if we were to have one. I think on balance I prefer parenting a boy.

This though made me 🙄

"I will remain queen of my house"

Pardon?

@Sissynova
"Hopefully the ‘boys have less emotions’ isn’t something you actively push on them because I think every early years professional or teacher would disagree with you"

100% this. Secondary teacher; dealing with boys' emotions, lack of self-regulation, lack of impulse control, use of physical violence as a way to manage emotion? 60-70% of most of my days. Not all boys, of course, but a startlingly noticeable difference between the sexes. Every one of our top 20 'behaviour concern' children is a boy. (We don't call them that, I'm using shorthand for speed).

Probably far more to do with upbringing and societal expectations than any genuine genetic difference between the sexes, but it's undeniable in the schools I've worked in.

I honestly think an experimental chatbot has been asked to write an unhinged Mumsnet thread.

I do too @AutumnCrow because that post just can't be real.

There's a few threads running in AIBU where I'm thinking 'experimental controversy-focused chatbot'. I wonder if MN own the rights suspect anything is amiss?

Nothing screams disappointment louder than I AM NOT DISAPPOINTED announcements.

I disagree. I was a child in the late 70s and 80s and I think there was less gender stereotyping in those days with regards to colours and toys. When I look back at photos of me and my brother playing in the garden with the neighbours’ children, it takes a few moments to tell the boys and girls apart as everyone was wearing orange/green/red/brown (dungarees mostly) and lots of us had similar haircuts (courtesy of mum and a pudding basin). When you went into toy shops, there wasn’t a wall of pink and a wall of blue. You didn’t have the ‘girly’ version of Lego in those days. And in the adult world, there were musicians and rock stars who wore what they liked and bent the ‘rules’ of gender without anyone saying they were the opposite sex (David Bowie, Annie Lennox et al). Gender stereotyping has gone nuts since then.

My first two children, I had one of each. I had an unexpected third child and rejoiced it was a boy. As a child my dd was a proper little madam whilst sons were both full of energy and very loving and uncomplicated. OP you'll have the added bonus of being able to pass down some of DS's clothing to DS2. I hardly had to buy anything for my second son until he was about 4 or 5 except shoes.

You’ve come to some quite unusual conclusions about people who take issue with gender stereotyping.