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To be so bloody happy to have another BOY on the way

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blueberry23 · 26/04/2023 19:41

Lighthearted thread

But I see so many threads with gender disappointment towards having a boy

My reasons for being over the moon for DS#2 in my tummy....,,

I will remain queen of my house (bar the dogs!)
Boys adore their mummies
Less emotions to manage
Less pink and glitter hopefully 🤣
Brothers
Dirty knees and climbing trees and rough and tumble

I'm just here for it all

What are your reasons if you love being a boy mum like me?

OP posts:
PickoftheMix · 26/04/2023 22:59

Misspacorabanne · 26/04/2023 22:50

Op is just saying she’s happy to have another boy! People saying don’t stereotype them, they all have their own personalities and shouldn’t be put in neat boxes, they do, but are you really telling me when you found out you were expecting a girl you didn’t at one point think of the things you could do with that girl that a boy may not enjoy as much? Are you telling me you didn’t buy pink clothes or paint the nursery in stereotypical girly colours? Did you think of dolls houses, toy prams and many other things many girls (yes boys too) but many girls enjoy playing with?? Come on, OP can do the same, it doesn’t mean she’s stereotyping, I’m sure like many others, the op will except her son for who he is, and who he will be in the future, his likes dislikes.

I didn't find out what I was having both times, because I genuinely didn't mind either way. The nursery was done in soft/neural colours with hints of pinks/blues for both dd and ds, I didn't want to stereotype colours. My dd got given so much pink stuff when she was born so that's what she wore for the first year, but as her personality grew, any stereotypical stuff went out the window as she was the one in the mud/rough and tumble etc. She also did teakwondo as her own chosen sport. I did buy her a pink pram, but my ds ended up playing with it along with the dolly 😁

As teens, lots of boys in dds year now wear nail varnish, eye liner, have ear piercings, dye their hair. It's really refreshing

Misspacorabanne · 26/04/2023 22:59

@Oysterbabe well that’s great, but I bet your the minority.

SimonsCow · 26/04/2023 22:59

It’s not the little kid stuff that causes the gender disappointment is it? It’s the relationship you had with your own mum and the sadness that you won’t have that same mother daughter bond. Ridiculous when you think about it and how different we all are as humans.

Lachimolala · 26/04/2023 23:01

Forfrigz · 26/04/2023 22:44

Boys are less emotional has me rolling around. Is anger not an emotion 😂 also I work in early years and the majprity of the tantrums/tears are from boys

I have two boys and one girl. My boys are by far the most emotional people in the house! I love them but they exhaust me, my girl is by far the calmest (and easiest!) 😂

Merangutan · 26/04/2023 23:03

Awful outdated stereotyping, OP.

DrMeredithGrey2023 · 26/04/2023 23:09

OP is probably feeling defensive about having boy no 2 precisely because of all the head tilts and ‘will you try for a third’ comments she’s likely to get because our society prefers girls (as children) on the whole.

I've seen a few people say this and would like to confirm - people make comments like this when you have 2 of the same sex, regardless of what sex you have. I've had people assume we are desperate for a boy. People seem to think that men want to father boys. It's not just one way.

Also, 'boys adore their mummy'.....and yet, if I tried to count every thread on here made by mums of grown up sons who aren't arsed about bothering with them once they move out, I think I'd be here until next New Year.

Such an odd post.

Jellifulfruit · 26/04/2023 23:12

Sissynova · 26/04/2023 19:47

Sounds like a ridiculous outlook.

Do girls not climb trees? Do they not love their mummies? Why would a boy be less emotional?

I find these ‘oh it’s so lighthearted and funny’ posts which actually just contain raging and damaging sexism quite depressing.

Ohhhh get a grip you miserable toad

Strawberrydelight78 · 26/04/2023 23:13

Congratulations I have heard of a few getting told the wrong sex. Either bought everything for a girl and got a boy. Or bought everything for a boy and got a girl. I would stick to neutral until baby is here.

Boughtitdownthemarket · 26/04/2023 23:17

Congratulations but I think you may be in for a shock if you think boys have less emotions to manage.

awakeandanxiouss · 26/04/2023 23:22

The reactions 🤦🏼‍♀️ enjoy your beautiful baby boys, OP!

Doihavetogotoworkdotcom1 · 26/04/2023 23:23

Congratulations to you.
I had a baby girl and was delighted.
Nothing wrong in having a preference.

SoupDragon · 26/04/2023 23:26

awakeandanxiouss · 26/04/2023 23:22

The reactions 🤦🏼‍♀️ enjoy your beautiful baby boys, OP!

The reactions are because of the ridiculous stereotyping and implied insults towards girls

SoShallINever · 26/04/2023 23:26

PMSL that boys don't do pink! Mines the campest person I've ever met, (and I've met Julian Clary).

Cantthinkofaname2203 · 26/04/2023 23:27

Oysterbabe · 26/04/2023 22:54

Are you telling me you didn’t buy pink clothes or paint the nursery in stereotypical girly colours? Did you think of dolls houses, toy prams and many other things many girls (yes boys too) but many girls enjoy playing with??

Yes, I can't tell you catagorically that I did not do that.

Me neither. They had greens, blues, pinks, purples, reds, lots of colours. They had a wide variety of toys.

one of my favourite moments with toddler dd was when she pitched up with a pink handbag, and some woman started on with how she had boys and she really wished she had girls, that love clothes and handbags and how she hated all the “boy stuff”

dd then proceeded to sit down and empty the handbag, which was packed full of cars, helicopters, trucks, and other vehicles, and vroom them up and down.

woman just pulled a face and walked off.

BadNomad · 26/04/2023 23:27

It's this kind of crap that causes boys to grow up thinking they must be girls because they don't relate to "boy" stuff.

MagpieSong · 26/04/2023 23:28

marshmallowsforbreakfast · 26/04/2023 19:43

Boys are the best! Loving, uncomplicated and their toys are better!

I never understand the uncomplicated part. My ds is one of the most complicated people I’ve ever known! He’s absolutely fab, very loving and brilliant at lots of things, but he’s also one of those children that no normal blooming technique seems to work on, can be impressively defiant despite boundaries always being set and stuck to, and given two choices will pick a third very different choice that no one has thought of and stick to it whatever. He’s curious, thoughtful and fun, but I don’t think anyone who’s met him would describe him as uncomplicated! 🙈 Surely other people also have complex boys too?

waterlego · 26/04/2023 23:32

Indeed @MagpieSong. My own DS is uncomplicated, as it happens, he’s very like his dad. But my 11 yo nephew is a very complicated boy. He’s gorgeous and clever and funny and sweet, but hard work for his parents in many ways!

DyslexicPoster · 26/04/2023 23:38

I don't know what it's like having multiple girls, but with multiple boys, you do get a lot of negative comments. Again RL is quite the polar opposite to MN. Just because ideally in the ideal world you can sit and paint your teenage sons nails while you talk about their love interests but in real life what slaps in the face are the rude comments. Maybe 99% of people are thinking wow three healthy kids how lovely, the ones opening their mouths are being rude. I had one or two comments I will never forget, one just broke my heart. My girl is a boy in a dress btw. But she is a girl.

scoobydoo1971 · 26/04/2023 23:39

I have a boy who acts like a girl, and a girl who acts like a boy. Since doctors said I would never be able to have children, I am just glad they are here. Congratulations on your family,

Zerrin13 · 26/04/2023 23:41

I have girl, boy, girl. Eldest is 35 so I've had plenty of time to draw conclusions.
Without a shadow of a doubt, the girls were much easier. Love them all exactly the same and wouldn't have changed a thing.

Whatthefnow · 26/04/2023 23:44

I have a son and two daughters. I love my boy and consider myself very lucky I have daughters too. My boy is more emotional than both girls out together 🤣

Congratulations op.

Dithyramb · 26/04/2023 23:52

Cantthinkofaname2203 · 26/04/2023 19:43

I know you said lighthearted but your post embodies all the reasons people have gender disappointment.

can you articulate why you are happy to be having a boy without resorting to gender stereotypes?

This.

Plus, I have an 11 year old boy, and he’s currently a total drama queen.

DixonD · 26/04/2023 23:56

blueberry23 · 26/04/2023 19:52

@Sissynova no you're misunderstanding 🤣 I mean that the mother/son relationship is such a special one and I find my DS and nephews to be so loving and protective towards their mothers. I think it's lovely 😊 of course I'm not saying girls don't love their mums. It's just different. No need to take offence :)

It’s not different 🤣

GneissGuysFinishLast · 26/04/2023 23:57

Misspacorabanne · 26/04/2023 22:58

@GneissGuysFinishLast i didn’t say it wasn’t stereotyping! I said it was, and the majority of us do it to some degree! So I didn’t come here claiming it’s something else! 😆

Your exact words were “it doesn’t mean she’s stereotyping” so yes, you categorically did say it was stereotyping.

Its almost like words mean things.

SemperIdem · 27/04/2023 00:04

Congratulations on your baby boy!

But honestly - boys are unemotional and uncomplicated? Do you not remember being a teenager and what the boys were like? 🫣

I have a daughter but there’s plenty of little boys in my life, they’re no less emotional, they even display their emotions in the exact same way a lot of the time.